The word bites a person to begin from my home son
The son is in nursery school when had bitten a child, the long after the thing passes a day night, I and son play game on the bed, I pretend a big tiger, he is small white hare, the big tiger that I act is lifelike, make threatening gestures, hold him in the arms to the body to say big tiger captures small white hare, I should eat you, pretend to bite the son's face, arm, still say big tiger ate off small white hare at the same time. Be in at this moment, let me suddenly realize, the behavior that the son bites a person may be imitated from this game, wrong demonstrative person is me. And of this kind of mistake set an example even oneself did not notice.
Although the son had told him when biting a child,biting a person is incorrect. But until play that game again, just let me find the most primary reason.
Since be the disaster that this game causes, that still needs to guide him how to be done correctly from this story. I and son say this time: Kang Kanggang just we are to playing game, I am a tiger you are bunny, the tiger can eat off bunny, but can the person eat off a person? He says cannot, do if bite a person,I say that person again? He says father person bites a person also is incorrect, so I also can not bite a child.
This game still can be performed, because the contact of limbs needs between father and son, contact him to explain different reason through this kind, but the movement of mutual worry is stopped to come by me, occasionally the son can hint before game begins even me: Cannot bite a person!
What so we pay no attention to a lot of moment is undeserved set an example, words and deeds can become child me-too target, and might as well when child statements and actions is inappropriate before teaching the child, serious after-thought, pursue oneself to exist as much problem of such words and deeds?
Some parent machine coming home does not leave a hand, so their child also is cartoon does not leave a small hole everyday. Some mom and relation of husband's father and mother are bad, conversation does not add name, his child also can breathe out to be drunk to her likewise. If you often say LOVE YOU to your madam, so your child also can express his love to you to you.
Such scene in the life cans be found everywhere, is bearing of these habits, words and deeds genetic? Of course won't, but these can be imitated and learn. Our words and deeds follows we are too long, long the mark that distinguishs others to differ to the habit that made us and us, long discovering these words and deeds very hard to ourselves is ourselves place is. We always find the inappropriate place on those words and deeds very hard from the body of ourselves, and the mirror that the child is us, he can illuminate our words and deeds is the defect on disposition even.
My comprehension
One, its body. Common saying says " its body, do not make and go, its body is frame-up, although make not from " , what parents should do above all is its body, tell the child after all how to should be done with real operation, is not preach emptily.
2, be good at communicating. At ordinary times parents should be communicated with the child more, no matter they are,behave good or it is bad, ask the child more why. Also need to communicate likewise between parents, face up to the inadequacy of own words and deeds, supervise each other, undertake amendatory, for the child the following grow, also to make key point of the other side in more beautiful oneself.
3, much observation. In growing process of the child, observation is all in all, "Teach students in accordance of their aptitude " , discover the child is what material, the responsibility that is not a teacher however of the parent, want to be good at observation so, know actor weakness of the child.
4, learn together with the child. In the process that accompanies the child we do father and mother not only need study Yo knowledge, should learn how to make the child's model more.
