" mind extent " Chinese tourist and incident of Swedish police clash: Individual behavior need not

"Mind extent " the column is interfacial culture pushs sent fixed column every week, a week on our meeting choice is discussed by heat 1 to 2 culture / thought topic, show focusing for everybody hereat a variety of controversies and viewpoint conflict. The mind extent of this week, we pay close attention to Chinese tourist to produce the event of dispute in Sweden and police, and " marriage law " draft adds newly " the divorce is sober period " regulation.

The experience that citizen of a China is in Sweden before half month caused not small public opinion billows recently. At the beginning of September, ever the gentleman takes parents to travel to Sweden, the accused after midnight around reachs a public house knows to just can be dealt with at 2 o'clock afternoon the following day, ever the gentleman puts forward to be able to be denied pay cost to rest in the public house is big, be rejected by the hotel. Subsequently the staff member calls up to ensure public security and call the police, constabulary general ever gentleman " move piece " hotel, disease of meantime Ceng Fu breaks out, ever the mother sees shape is prostrate cry greatly, occasion for a time out of control, car of last police drive sends 3 people near forest land cemetery to put down. Accident after half month, " round-the-world net " say one piece " Swedish police throws midnight of Fu of Chinese an old fellow like me graveyard field " the article detonated public opinion, netizen controversy does not fall, one clique thinks Swedish police " force executes the law " , be suspected of even " discrimination China tourist " , another clique considers as ever the gentleman behaves undeserved, willfully make a trouble, "The face that lost a Chinese in abroad " .

Interesting is, no matter be the netizen that holds which kinds of point of view, have many people among them will ever gentleman individual behavior and the conflict of its and Swedish police, rise the height of national a group of things with common features, this lets discuss gradually deviate fact itself, made the exit of the nationalism mood with partial netizen narrow drain. In fact, choose increasingly as the Chinese the means that serves as a kind of recreational, consumption swims outside the condition, the circumstance unavoidable of habit of religious culture, custom and the difference that handle issue way is encountered in abroad, this can be a chance originally, let people discuss bilateral and respective behavior success and failure calmly, for other leave the country the relevant practitioner of swimming Chinese tourist and travel destination provides experience, and should not reduce the line on not rational raise to the higher plane of principle and fling abuses of for no reason.

By August, " civil code allusion is made up each minutes (draft) " submit to thirteenth the 5th times the conference discusses standing committee of countrywide National People's Congress, among them marital family makes up draft " add by a definite date the divorce of a month is sober period " the message caused netizen heat to discuss. According to saying, because divorce procedure is too simple,this new rule is, the phenomenal increase that causes imprudent divorce and establish, in a month sober period inside, both sides of husband and wife can recall divorce application. To this, the voice that objects on the network is not small, especially a lot of netizens point out, be in sober period inside, the weak force one party inside marriage -- it is a female normally -- belongings is safe, it is person safety even (in involve a cruel circumstance to fall) cannot get ensuring. In Chinese tradition " mediate culture " below, "Is the divorce sober period " another protective screen that whether can you make cloggy divorce freedom?

Ever gentleman and parents travel to Sweden together, midnight time arrived at Stockholm downtown in the evening on September 1 the name is " Stockholm dynamo " inn. According to inn regulation, ever the gentleman just can be dealt with at 2 o'clock afternoon the following day enter, and that evening inn does not have empty room. After as simple as inn staff member bargaining, ever the gentleman lets parental preexistence inn wait, oneself go out to search the inn of other and available room, meantime encounters a same nowhere again on the street the Chinese female student studying abroad of pass the night, bring back its inn to warm oneself along with all the others. According to ever the gentleman says, return inn together when he and female student studying abroad, put forward to be able to be denied to the staff member in old hall when day break, when expressing to be willing to pay one part in order to buy alimental way fee to the hotel, sufferred the rejection of inn, at the same time the staff member's manner begins change, they are to call up to ensure public security first, signed up for again later alarm. After the police reachs the spot, with security personnel one path general ever gentleman " move piece " inn. Ever father amid body of the gentleman is unwell, maternal criterion aside genuflect ground cries greatly. Before long hind, again car of 4 polices drive comes, forest land cemetery ever will be taken after the patron wagon on gentleman and parental belt around. Below the help of passerby, ever the gentleman returned downtown afresh at 4 o'clock at before dawn.

Everybody cannot think of, this one incident goes after half month, detonated public opinion suddenly. "Guest of insurgent · Pai " combed course of barmy of this public opinion. On September 14, china is stationed in Swedish embassy government-owned net released a problems to be " China is stationed in Swedish diplomatic mission to remind again safe consciousness is sure to raise in lucky China citizen, strengthen safety to be on guard " information. Mention in article, "Close paragraph since time, chinese tourist is in Sweden by pilfer, be grabbed to present much hair state, sufferred belongings loss and safe menace. The near future still has Chinese tourist to suffer maul of personnel of Swedish official business. China is stationed in height of Swedish diplomatic mission to pay close attention to the safety in lucky China citizen and legitimate rights and interests, just already put forward solemn and just bargaining to luck at this point. Just already put forward solemn and just bargaining to luck at this point..

On September 15, date of public of round-the-world net small letter was released " sudden safety of Ministry of Foreign Affairs reminds a reason to enrage scamper! Swedish police throws midnight of Fu of Chinese an old fellow like me graveyard field unexpectedly! " one article, read a quantity to be achieved quickly 100 thousand + , subsequently, " People's Daily " official small gain phonates with respect to this matter, initiated # China tourist to meet with the small gain topic of # of Swedish police maul, this one incident begins big on small gain range to travel, the intense discussion that what also caused a lot of big V and many netizen, among them how did annals of king of famous media person achieve sheet about the small gain of this one incident 140 thousand interactive quantity.

"Guest of insurgent · Pai " statistic shows, the netizen basically is in centrally about the controversy of this one incident is a police " force executes the law " , still be Chinese tourist " lose face lose face " on point of view of this two groups. Look from data, think ever a netizen that behaves improper occupies the gentleman 32.67% , 12.87% what outclass criticises constabulary force executes the law, the netizen that still has 10.89% is stationed in to going to Sweden China below embassy Guan Wei shout curses, belt of rhythm " small pink " and the government sector that indulgent diplomacy accident produces expresses dissatisfaction, make fun of call its " battle wolf " , but the netizen that also has 9.9% thinks the Chinese does not help a Chinese, the behavior that washs the ground for Swedish police instead is " traitor " .

Annals of media person king speaks of in the small gain that how analysing event, above all, a few Chinese may not understand the provision of foreign hotel, it is afternoon usually began to deal with at 2 o'clock that day into stop add, if the guest arrives early, can choose check baggage, go out next handle affairs or amuse oneself, but the hotel won't agree to shift to an earlier date, this and domestic public house are different. Next, ever the time that the gentleman reachs a public house is midnight around, with the regulation enter time apart too far, sound practice is to shift to an earlier date one day to book a room, as to why they did not choose so do, the likelihood is the regulation of hotel of not clear abroad, also may be for be economical. The 3rd, the public house is big affirmation cannot pay cost to rest, because once the hotel was accepted,pay fee, mean sleep on the sofa that can lie in old hall, take out the things that wash gargle to put wait a moment on tea table, do business what can affect a public house so normally, also can disturb other visitor.

The 4th, a lot of countries special to the words and deeds of public order and Everyman care about, cannot call loudly for instance, cannot make a racket, encounter dispute to want the regulation with established comply with and program to solve. Should other reminds your behavior improper, should stop immediately, is not to go " be troubled by " , sit on the ground to cry making this kind of conduct is impossible to happen almost, the behavior of even if police encroached your human rights really, you also should save evidential after the event to complain. Alleged " civilized " it is creditable, know sense of property, look in Wang Zhian, a lot of Chinese are very far still from this one requirement.

But Wang Zhian also points out finally, no matter how, the practice of Swedish hotel and police is more beyond the mark, to a guest that has paid cost to had booked guest room, can reject its unreasonable demand, but the difficulty in also should overcoming reality as far as possible, not processing of so should simple gruffly. He thinks, "Guess according to his individual " , this still is probably with the guest it is a Chinese about.

"Tecent · everybody " print sent playwrite, art the Ju Baiyu that criticize a person " you do not have a law soporous the Chinese family on sofa cries one by one " , the author goes out in article middle finger, ever experience lets the gentleman she thought of to ramble in home every time home of appropriate of Swedish household brand sells the experience of field: She should avoid to be in every time on the weekend go rambling by day appropriate home, not be to shun congested crowd, do not want to see however sleep full the person's sofa and bed taste an area, because of these people, the customer that those need to buy sofa, mattess really perhaps can go only the website is ordered, and cannot experience personally in hypostatic inn, because -- you cannot call those soporous people one by one, their meeting because your Jing their fond dream and glower circle is opened.

Ju Baiyu points out, "The shopping space that an empty temperature adjustment spends brand new of appropriate, bedding is a family on the weekend the optimal destination of go on a journey, this may be the appropriate home company that spreads all over even locksmith the whole world daydreams the Chinese type that also did not think of buys content experience. Very fathomless how are these people accomplished, in public 4 admire 8 forked ground to sleep greatly, it is what kind ground lost human border, ability reachs so unmanned place. " besides appropriate home, can see in railway station and airport these treat oneself as likewise " the earth child civilian " apolaustic crowd, very naturally eliminate shoe, lie down, piece a mouth snore your work. And outside the luxury shop that is in Paris, have all the same just brushed tens of thousands of euro to buy the person that when season the modernest dress shoe hires, hobo state on the ground and sit, put vacuum cup and bubble face on famous brand shopping bag.

Ju Baiyu thinks, ever gentleman, with those people in public him abandon, think the world around oneself apiration rotates, ground of one's own wishful thinking thinks other people must show sympathy, must help, despise the feeling of other completely, it is to other huge is not respected essentially. And when the apiration that violates oneself when others, not considered feeling can collapse its self-respect and volition for an instant, can perform in the street prostrate breathe out the play code of wail. Ju Baiyu points out, such occasion always lets her think: Be what lets us become look strong, overbearing but the person that must can't bear biff flimsily again? It is general character of education of what kind of society, caused the mentation of this kind of outwardly strong and inwardly weak?

The Chinese is not frail for certain, also already no longer poor, today's Chinese society, teem with learn bully, the person that do poineering work and the person that ambition changes the world, and the hope that fortune also gave us free travel world, think the consumption of Europe and Japan needs to rely on Chinese tourist to be maintained even. The nation of so weathy, on the make, why should handle an issue with so flimsy, inglorious means?

Bridge article method is in his individual frequency program " 8 minutes " in also spoke of this one incident. He points out, in last few years, chinese tourist has become the new force with global travel the mainest market, rise ceaselessly as national income, the person of travel going abroad is increasing also, but the custom habit that every country has him, after Chinese tourist goes out whether observe these custom customs, it is a problem really. 2006, chinese government ever had promulgated " Chinese citizen leaves the country guideline of travel civilization behavior " , but this guideline is too brief, not quite practical, for instance the guideline is a medium " the religion that respects each nation is used to " , but specific how should respect, the guideline did not give out the answer.

Adduce of bridge article method happens in the incident of Malaysia two this year, the religious customarily that will explain Chinese tourist is abiding by other people is done far not quite still. It is one claims the Chinese tourist that is dance teacher thes prefecture where the provincial capital is located in Malaysia firstly hot dance with sth in one's hands jumps greatly on enclosure of a mosque, film shake phonic nearsightedness frequency, the result is driven by the administrator of mosque; Another thing is more odd, be in a freeway to rest in Malaysia in the station, two China tourist should go closet, the result goes to wrong place, went to to pray room, the prayer of Moslem has a cistern normally in the room, it is to let believer is praying body of Qian Xianqing clean, as a result these two tourists regard cistern as by accident pee pool, although should be prevented from time to tome on other visitor, they still insist to want to be in cistern pee, the result sparked numerous anger.

A lot of countries are opposite to answer of Chinese tourist amount increase, designed print and distribute the tourist regulations of a few Chinese, the religious culture habit that introduces place to Chinese tourist and be in public the rule that needs to abide by with scene area, do not throw rubbish in disorder for example, cannot jump the queue and how to use closet correctly to wait a moment. In the regulations that is aimed at Chinese tourist in this kind, general tone exercises restraint quite, unscramble a few misfeasance of Chinese tourist for " culture difference " , is not another more sensitive word -- " civilized difference " . However in fact, although this is put in difference of a lot of culture really among them, but also having nothing to do with civilized degree is.

Bridge article method points out next, his manner to this kind of problem special " individualistic " , the behavior improper of even if tourist, also be the problem of his individual, should not think he can represent whole country, the delegate is all " Chinese tourist " , after all one individual travel going abroad, attend the Olympic Games with a person on behalf of the country or differ. But look in a lot of Chinese, tourist of a China did the business with bad what in abroad, affront local, local can not treat his as individual action, can think however " the Chinese is how how " , the civilized regulations that also is not aimed at Chinese tourist with so much of print and distribute otherwise. Bridge article method thinks, such circumstance is inevitable, but meaning kind of this kind of thinking is right, with " stick label " means will induce the person classification, it is the mankind a kind of very fundamental thinking pattern, but also be a kind of very dangerous thinking pattern at the same time, column of his meeting casing we, let us cannot see nitty-gritty.

On August 27, " civil code allusion is made up each minutes (draft) " submit to thirteenth the 5th times the conference discusses standing committee of countrywide National People's Congress, among them marital family made up draft to also undertake the part is revised, increased a few new regulations, for example the disease makes the argument that prohibits marrying no longer, withhold the relevant content of family planning no longer, relaxed foster condition is waited a moment, among them " add by a definite date the divorce of a month is sober period " one caused the biggest dispute. According to " Chinese woman signs up for " report, of this new regulation because the procedure of the divorce in practice that register is too simple,adding is, the phenomenal grow in quantity of imprudent divorce, go against domestic stability. Draft regulation, the divorce in a month is sober period inside, any one party in marriage can recall to the mechanism that register divorce application.

" weekly of book review of new capital newspaper " published a problem to be with respect to this matter " consultative divorce sets " the divorce is sober period " cite dispute: Does divorce freedom need to be restricted? " comment, the comment points out, to the setting " the divorce is sober period " new rule, the opposition on the network voice is not small, " Chinese woman signs up for " the voting result that initiates on small gain shows, the netizen that has 95.1% opposes this one new rule, think its have violate divorce freedom principle, and only the netizen of 4.2% supports, think its are helpful for avoiding " actuation divorce " " false divorce " . This one result and the findings that Tecent points to to several data are offerred have very big discrepancy, latter shows, the netizen that has near 70% endorses this one new rule. Two groups of data have which groups very hard more clearly representative, but OK and affirmative is, female reader holds great majority " Chinese woman signs up for " investigation data, relative to character mirrorred a female well and truly (it is the weak force one party in marriage normally) the manner to this matter.

Article author An An will be opposite on the network " the divorce is sober period " crosscurrent sums up roughly for the following: The first, concern is in the home cruel below the influence that waits for an element, the divorce is sober period meeting increases divorce difficulty; The 2nd, think the divorce is sober period may bringing economic risk for the one party in marriage or both sides is person safety risk even (for example, if be in sober period the one party inside a month raises worth of debt, move in great quantities, very adverse to other one party) ; The 3rd, think setting divorce is sober period not was necessary, and can raise social cost (civil code is the law is not had all along prohibit all can be, set the mankind without which law must not actuation) . Altogether, the main viewpoint of the netizen that holds crosscurrent is, cannot divorce in time the weak force one party in can giving marriage brings tremendous hidden trouble.

The author thinks, "Marriage is sober period " rear, it is Chinese society in long-standing " mediate culture " . "Divorce " this word, more or less to contain negative meaning in Chinese culture, often can see similar speech in social news: "Year after year of Chinese divorce rate rises " , " Chinese divorce rate overtakes Euramerican " , " the first batch 90 hind had divorced " etc... these speech accompany clear value trend: The divorce is bad, divorce rate is high bad. A lot of negative consequence that bring possibly with the divorce however are compared, think the divorce cannot leave however, often more let a person make a heart. But acquiesce in compatriots " mediate culture " below, marriage often does not suffer when the control with thing freewill both sides, for " and " word, want submit to humiliation to rare one party, break a tooth into pieces to go to the pharynx in abdomen.

"Mediate culture " in " marriage law " in it is certain to also have reflect, about divorcing, chinese law is a principle with divorce freedom, but object " imprudent divorce " , mention to the court when divorce suit, the court needs to undertake intercessory, mediation won'ts do to sentence a divorce again; And as a result of " object imprudent divorce " the principle is too ambiguous, bring about in particular executive procedure, forensic mediation still has very large operation space. In September 2017, court of people of appropriate guest county is when cognizance divorce case, make husband and wife bilateral do " divorce examination paper " news gives out heat with respect to Ceng Yin discuss, the judge says, if bilateral exam mark all is in 60 minutes the following, decide for " affection burst " , if exceed 60 minutes, explain feeling still has redeem leeway. Some exceeded 80 minutes to fractional in pairs of husband and wife, forensic court decision forbids to grant to divorce. Have already in this examination paper " how does the snacks that wedding anniversary, spouse and child life, child likes most, housework divide the work " wait for objective problem, also have " the opinion that states pair of marriage and family " such subjective problem. In this pair of exam paper of 80 minutes of husband and wife, the woman is accuse the man is long-term gamble, right the woman often has irresponsible jealousy and verbal affront, cause psychological harm to wait a moment to the woman, and man utter a word says " can change " .

Top people court released in March 2018 " report of special subject of dispute of divorce of judicatory big data " medium data shows, in case of first instance divorce, the divorce suit that the female mentions is in the majority (occupy 73.4% ) , and the case court decision that has 68.51% among them does not support a divorce as a result. Such reality had accentuated people (especially female) fear marriage mood: In case marital occurrence problem, he wants to divorce and the other side does not agree, make divorce lawsuit take time arduous, final court still does not support a divorce certainly. If involve the home,the afraidest is cruel, the safety of one party person of situation loses to cannot get safeguard during divorce lawsuit, and once " the divorce is sober period " formal legislation, the divorce is met again Ping Tianxin's obstacle.

Date of small letter public " new media female " " the divorce is sober period " be related covered method of housekeeping of marriage of Guangzhou bar association only appoint conference chairman Li Xiaofei, li Xiaofei thinks, sober period the setting puts forward according to the characteristic of housekeeping issue desk, to divorcing the influence of the program won't imagine so greatly like the netizen.

Li Xiaofei points out in interview, housekeeping dispute and general case are different, it needs to solve the problem of the identity relation of party and legal respect not only, still involve the issue of the affection relation of party and moral respect. In the case that has acted as agent in her, have the case that many party impulse divorce really, in the light of this kind the consideration gives family and child inadequately, possibly to create the situation of harm, the housekeeping court judge that has rich experience can identify, sober period also be an opportunity, it is clear to can make party mature. And can set artificial barrier to the divorce as to this one regulation, li Xiaofei thinks, it is the judge is being used on one hand sober period compasses is time need is careful, had better be sessional later, after be being judged according to actual condition, again affirmatory otherwise wants to use; Once appear,be on the other hand break sober period behavior -- for example rough stuff -- should stop immediately sober period.

Li Xiaofei still points out, if sober period intermediate occurrence rough stuff, that is certainly conflict before both sides appear again, cannot arrive simply quite sober on period head. From go up objectively say, sober period the conduction time that allows divorce suit was lengthened, but in fact, when a paragraph of relation is terminative, install a few mechanisms to make party more sober, sensible more, this old reform way does not have a problem. All over the world transverse contrast can discover limits, divorce proceeding of China is relatively simple, can end inside half an year commonly, long namely 9 lawsuit, can end inside a year. A lot of countries divorce without the agreement, divorce can lawsuit, such photographs are compared under, divorce proceeding threshold of China is not high.

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