Encounter when the child " ride roughshod over " how should do? The parent should stand, do not want ignore! Parenting, the parent hopes his child can live below a sunshine, be brought up happily, but the person's lifetime is so long, hard to avoid can be encountered " black clouds " , what should tell today is the metropolis in majority child life encounters a " black clouds " -- ride roughshod over. Believe a lot of parents also have young when by ride roughshod over or the experience of others of ride roughshod over, arrived the child this generation, this kind of phenomenon still exists, although never grow in intensity, but absolutely also cannot small gaze. When the child encounters such thing, how should be parents done?
A lot of parents have a bewilderment: Why does my home child go out outer can be you fastened a family " ursine child " bully? When the child of own home is bullied by others, the parent can consider as the fault of the other side, and be the parent of the other side, family education have a problem. Because an ego of person heart protects a mechanism,actually this is, when the thing happens meeting apt protects him, think wrong is the other side, and when everybody is doing a business, can feel again oneself so doing is right, the psychology that contradicts because of these two namely appears in the person's heart at the same time, ability can cause the conflict between person and person.
When the child encounters incident of ride roughshod over, need parent holds reason, sober analysis issue. Why so Where is requirement parent? Because of a lot of moment, the child by ride roughshod over be the support that longs to get the parent and protection, if the parent cannot place normal state to spend event of reason of place to go, meet the child leave the scar of mentally; When the incident that participates in other of ride roughshod over when the child additionally, to dismiss the criticism that accepts the parent, the child also can pretend to give a kind " grievance " , " be bullied " the mood will cheat the parent, the parent should keep sensible above all, cannot by exterior phenomenon becloud oneself double eye and cerebra.
A lot of moment face the child to be bullied, the parent can have two kinds of attitudes: One kind is " dot, dozen fight noisely those who be troubled by is much normaller. " manner, I can say nothing. The child that becomes you is bullied by alien, had felt fear, grievance, helpless, do you still say to reach " normal " this kind of word? When expressing these negative sentiments that give oneself to the parent when the child, explain incident of ride roughshod over had produced an effect in the child's heart, and parent him general the manner of have no regard for is pair of children bear the blame? The parent must notice! When the child encounters incident of ride roughshod over, the parent must stand, offer the child the help that needs most, do not pay no attention.
Besides another kind of manner of the parent is more abominable, "Be hit be afraid of? Won't hit? Have an accident I am supporting to you! " , when the child is bullied, does the parent say to you can solve a problem so? The parent has considered, what can such view bring to the child negative effect?
Apparently look, this kind of view is to encouraging child adamancy really a bit, actually this word is a kind of suggestion to the child: Pa Mom can support you with all one's strength certainly, if you are returned not dare strike back is hit, that shows you you are very very disappointing, trashy. Receive such signal when the child, inevitable meeting hurts the child's proper pride, or child can become self-abased, or encounters incident of ride roughshod over again when the child when, the fight back that can fling caution to the winds.
And appear these two kinds of extremes, be the parent the hope sees? When be being bullied when the child so, the parent cannot teach the child so, can foster the child to strike back spirit, but cannot undertake to the child trashy " strike back education " .
The child encounters incident of ride roughshod over, of the parent anger in the heart, must keep sensible, and want a station come out, it is to let the child feel safe sense, 2 it is to let the child learn make a clear distinction between right and wrong, be far from incident of ride roughshod over to happen again!
