Home of appropriate of A couplet chief of a tribe did an interesting test recently
Experimenter carried two individual plant to grow the green plant like the circumstance
To green plant people mount keeps jacket, put in school saloon,
The illumination like be being accepted everyday, same water fertilization,
Enter together go out together, peremptory a pair of twin.
What differ exclusively is,
Children are right their manner.
Labelled of left green vegetation: "This plant plant by bully approach " .
And right is: "This plant plant by praise and honor " .
The student can pass through spot canned form,
Leave active or inactive word to participate in an experiment,
These words are in everyday green plant " side side " be circulated to broadcast.
"You are looked like like rotting quickly "
"Are you living still? "Are you living still??
"You are trash, your without a single redeeming feature! Your without a single redeeming feature!!
"Nobody likes you! "Nobody likes you!!
Left green plant everyday " listening " ferocious abuse
"See we are especially happy. "See we are especially happy..
"You are very beautiful really! "You are very beautiful really!!
"You are changing the world. "You are changing the world..
"I like you to make my appearance. "I like you to make my appearance..
The green plant of right is permeated with the heaven in happiness everyday
Undertook 30 days continuously so
Final experimental result can say is
Unexpected it is in reason
Left that by Diss plant of 30 days
Animated to scold " withered "
And right that individual plant everyday complimentary
Grow well
Enough is visible: The might of the language has much horror!
This as good as at " killing "
Realize even children gave a reason
"If the plant can be affected, that person affirms what also meet! That person affirms what also meet!!
Does language force have after all to the influence of life how old?
Wuhan looks in light of this pair of mothers child story
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15 years old small handsome just become high school to be born this year, when just terming begins, because be the same as newly touch his pen innocently go up, come without seasonable pick up again, small handsome mouth is scolded " you this wretch! " take advantage of an opportunity throws the classmate's book to the ground completely. Teacher phone notified the parent, small handsome the nose that pointing to mom in the home says: "I am so hold you in the palm ' blessing ' ! "I am so hold you in the palm ' blessing ' !!
Ms. Wu discovers before New Year, the son often does not dominate his sentiment, a bit thing is inferior to meaning, get angry to parents, throw a thing even. Parents cannot be communicated with him, suspecting the child the likelihood is have on spirit have a problem. Took him to reach much home hospital then mental psychology division sees a doctor. The doctor observes through chatting with the child and parents seriously, affirmatory child is brokenhearted disease.
Original, small handsome father makes a sale, all the year round outer rush about, time see the child in the home " skin " irritated, not be growl is scolded namely, to the son's behavior a bit dissatisfaction uses vituperative means expression with respect to chronic ground. Its mother goes to work everyday should stand bar of nearly 10 hours, come home often exhausted, be in charge of the child even, take care of old husband's father and mother, right small handsome education also is simple and crude, say easily " boil to go at the same time! " , "I raised an idiocy! " .
Husband and wife two also be to complain each other together scold, throw beat to hit even. Small handsome as a child of be influenced by what one constantly sees and hears is such setting, become grumpier and grumpier. But parents never realizes the education that is his gave an issue however.
Professor Shang Huiming says expert of psychology of the hospital in Hubei province, have what kind of parent, have what kind of child. The child's problem is parental problem actually. Abuse the child, it is the parent mood out of control, means that abreacts to resent to child behavior actually, not be child of so called education. Acquired growing environment is the crucial factor that character forms. The parent mood that abuses the child is incontrollable, child exert a subtle influence on of course the mood is easy also out of control.
Small handsome in language force of parents offensive falls, as a child very bear: "In me sad and so sad that cry collapse when, parents looks at me to say however, send what nerve! So I arrive from despair revolt, begin to become aggravated to them... "
Soup professor tells Ms. Wu, by the child of ceaseless humiliate, negative, acid, satiric, contempt, the heart has a large deficit, cheng Fang is worn extremely dilapidated soul, threatening they abreact with extreme kind scar and abasement.
The language has very strong Zhen Bo, if what annoy when us especially and saying when resentment, contain very strong energy, pass through negative to Zhen Bo, the result of generation often lets person expect be less than.
Have 246 million every year about according to statistic,
Children and adolescent,
Because of bully approach,
Body and mind sufferred serious scar.
Occasionally, attack break down a person,
Need a word only,
If injure a person,
Speak out from inside close kin mouth,
That harm is probable it is annihilative.
Between the friend such,
Between husband and wife such,
It is such more between parents and child.
One produces wrong girl in the exam,
This exceeding dismay,
Father gave pawn one club again,
"Take an examination of so poorly, how to go dead! How to go dead!!
The jumping that did not think of the girl is true the building commits suicide,
Leave a writings of an author now dead only,
Write inside " make you disappointed "
The children with not quite adult intelligence,
Cannot differentiate at all the parent is after all in the set a high demand on somebody in the hope that he will improve
Still be in violate.
The child can believe each word of the parent,
"Mom says I am trash, then I am certainly. Then I am certainly..
Perhaps you understand hard, but the child thinks so namely.
In little canal place
Almost the child of half above
The language that the parent has gotten when childhood is violent
In their an account in one's own words
Parents most often say
It is forever " how to go dead "
"Trash " , " lose face "
In the language violent offensive falls
Some people chose from incomplete, suicide
Some people chose to cruelly kill other
Destroyed oneself lifetime next
The language is strong volume. So, face the child, speak the word that come carefully please.
