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01

"Hope my departure,

After the mouth that can let you stationary point favor "

Paying close attention to a very distressed news all the time these days.

On October 10, hunan Province changes a county newly one woman leaves a letter of last words written before death in friend circle hind, taking son of 4 years old and daughter of 3 years old, commit suicide die.

And be in early this year in September, the car that her marital He Mou ever drove is discovered in the river, qi You kissing friend thinks he already drove to drop carelessly river or rob by the person, anyway bode ill rather than well.

Just when everybody thinks this one when 4 already left the world completely, the man that be missing appeared.

Won't know before wife on one's deathbed, the man that oneself love greatly borrows money to escape 10 much networks, an indemnity was bought in insurance company the person accident danger of 1 million. For diddle compensation, he leases car made the false appearance that car person dies intentionally, had cheated everybody successfully.

As a result of the husband " die " , the wife gets of husband's family person by every means create difficulties for sb and scold, shift responsibility to her entirely.

Cold-shoulder her to do not have the job, allow the man a person earns money raise the home.

The husband is missing, the burden of the life falls on her body. She wants to work, husband's family person still asks she signs an agreement, every month sends 3000 money to them, say the alimony that is a child.

This is insufficient still, husband's family person criticises she spends money extravagant, owe one buttock credit card debt. Reality is however, 20 thousand yuan of credit card that she brushs are for domesticity. More those who hit her is, husband's family person returns start a rumour to say her spirit to have a problem.

Actually, the life of this mom is very bitter.

The latest affection demand feels the person to be loved namely. And she is short of love badly as a child.

Mother of 5 years old of funeral, 18 years old of father die abruptly, follow grandma, aunty to be brought up. Read first one, go out with the fellow villager work. Date with the husband marry after understanding, after marriage annual next sons, biennial leaves a daughter.

Ferial in, she handles chore in the home, take care of the child, the husband goes out racing bike makes money. The daughter contracted epileptic disease last year, she cannot go out more worked.

Can say, the husband is her only support.

After the husband has an accident, life and death was not predicted, she should be faced with the childhood shade that nobody loves again, be like dead ash with respect to the heart originally.

And the public opinion of the outside became last straw that collapses her.

The village that she is in this out-of-the-way, the start a rumour of day after day, conducted a town, the fling abuses all round, throw a damp over, the language such as affront, baleful conjecture is violent, let her wander in the brim that spirit breaks down, force her to the blind alley. After she does not think she is dead, the child does not have ground of mother, friendless ride roughshod over getting a person to be brought up without father like her.

Chose so most definitely absolutely means: Die together.

"Hope my departure, after the mouth that can let you can stationary point favor " .

A lot of moment, a word, destroy a family with respect to enough.

There is a concept to cry on clinical psychology " the language is mistreated " , also be become recessive spirit is violent.

Language force, it is use fling abuses, bespatter, contempt, derisive the language that waits for affront to discriminate against a gender, be harmed on the mind that causes another person with mentally.

Bearing in her when the anguish that the husband leaves, each language of the person is atttacked all round, destroying the courage of her subsist slowly.

Language, have temperature.

And chill language, resemble the sharp of a kill without spilling blood, in imperceptible accumulated the power that destroys a person.

02

Each person,

Should not become that diction character to kill the executioner of others

In the life, everybody confronts language force possibly.

Psychologist once investigated show:

Average every 20 people have a person to had sufferred language force. Because language force causes psychological disease,is a person in every 50 people, light person suffer from gregarious obstacle, the person that weigh has homicide and suicidal action.

Language force may cause deep scar to teenage period, and if language force enters grown phase, enter a society working station is medium, medium, can be opposite the development of oneself creates very large block.

Know on somebody asks: Do you have had encountered all round the example that human case goes greatly?

The answer of top praise makes a person very feel distressed.

Answer advocate @ Sang Tu's fair abdomen says, 16 years old his are gray. Because break arm with classmate hand wrestling,folded.

Became an operation twice, be no longer in force of the 2nd drug, electric drill gets bone. Get the pain of the heart, also not as good as he brings later by the language force that get ache.

Get hurt after be admitted to hospital, his QQ space blast, "Hand wrestling still can lose arm " , " Hahaha " , " this is foolish force who ah " ...

One week later, he is hitting thick gesso to answer the school to attend class. Enter a classroom, whole class erupts the whole room burst into laughter.

He goes last toilets, can hear in corridor " that, 12 that is foolish force " .

Teachers always take him this stalk drives scald thin slices of meat in boiling water. Midterm of high school first time, he checked classes or grades in school the 2nd. A teacher says on classroom, "You see a someone, right arm is broken folded, left hand answers coil to be divided than you tall, cannot you still catch up with a disabled? Cannot you still catch up with a disabled??

Evermore, he is him himself no longer in everybody eye. However " hand wrestling breaks arm that is foolish force " .

Some fun can leave, some fun are salt is spilled on your cut. What is more,the rather that the scar that you had cicatrizationed, be regarded as Cicide opens Le Ziyi in public.

This answers advocate say, he as a child the family is happy, disposition is exceeding extroversion, optimistic, it is sincerity, goodness, enthusiastic.

And passed this paragraph of time, he changed completely individual:

"I begin to dare not look up on foot. Do not do be opposite with the person inspect, the habit goes at the back of the person accordingly, if someone goes at the back of me, I can feel to be being stared at. "" I become extreme. Consideration problem always is gone to extreme want. " " I become special not self-confident. I feel the world is the most foolish the nothing is more... than that force I... I do not believe to my have actual strength. " " I no longer active socialization. I never had gone after others. Later also won't. Later also won't..

Derisive, sarcastic, awkward, satiric, this is 16 years old his.

If what other people show off speaks temporarily quickly is evil-minded, make him ceaseless and hypnotic oneself, formed the self-abased, belief system that does not deserve slowly. Although he is grown hind corrected disposition flaw slowly, but the harm that causes at that time, be stroked to make the same score hard all one's life.

Psychology of Beijing Normal University teachs Zou Hong to had said:

"The language that companion or teacher carry out is harmed, the mentally that meets the child is overhand a kind of shadow, cause them to believe the outer world no longer, feel this society is inhospitality, evil-minded, to social generation a kind of intense repulsion feels... "

Somebody may feel, this also too vitreous heart, a fun does not leave casually between the friend, as to?

Can be in your eye footy fun, having beening then in his heart those who be buried in the heart is painful, touch ache.

Can say, "Vitreous heart " these 3 words, it is the most acridity language force on the world.

It stands in moral commanding elevation, all defense that you atttack to ill will, what became you is small-minded, not quite good-tempered and open-minded, not quite active sunshine.

Very may much person has heard these words:

"You how so clumsy? " " pig brain " " you 28, carry again marry did not go out. " " earn so little money, what do you have to use? " " you won't have prospect so "

Perhaps we do not think our talking means is violent at ordinary times, but our language often brought anguish to others accidentally actually.

Countless tragedy, it is we never are met " talk well " begin.

Because, bad language resembles the Ling Chi that is pair of hearts putting to death, the harm that compares a body destroys even popular feeling.

Each person, should not become that diction character to kill the executioner of others.

03

This is a times that phonates freely,

Also be the times that an optional conversation need not be in charge of however

Teleplay " black lens " the 3rd season " entire network public enemy " in, the female chief editor of a newspaper office, because published an adverse opinion on public affairs that is aimed at the disabled, a flock of clavier a person adept in martial arts and given to chivalrous conduct launch language attack to her on the net.

They curse her to go dead, saying her is " the prostitute that makes a person disgusting " , all sorts of contumelious speech blot out the sky and cover up the earth.

The following day early morning, she died really. Die very miserably.

Then, because a singer went up to insult a little boy that imitates him publicly in first gear program, make target of public criticism, atttack by myriad netizen.

The following day, he also died. Die very uglily likewise.

Original, somebody lifted on the network " Game Of Consequence " voting game.

The netizen needs to define a goal only, releasing his full name and picture next, plus #Death To# label, the end with person top energy of life is falling everyday midday 17 when be kept clear of (murder namely) .

Two people that say above, it is that day the netizen's voting champion.

The 3rd, a common girl, because she patted a piece before the war is monumental indelicate pat oneself, was sentenced by the netizen capital punishment, become the dead target with person highest that day energy of life.

The following day, she also was killed.

The wire-puller turned network vehicle into successfully the mood the window of drain, with the way with fair force of carry out travel.

In the ending of the story, all participator became player, cause and effect circulates, network sprayer became him finally " choice " oblation.

Live in this blundering times, no matter be the violate person of network public opinion, or by condemn both in speech and writing lie gun person, final a home to return to is in the ash in his indignant mood flying smoke destroys.

So, clavier a person adept in martial arts and given to chivalrous conduct people why be fond of attack other, doesn't everything spit discomfort?

Know on the daily Vlog of author @NiSS has an implied meaning " hello, I call clavier a person adept in martial arts and given to chivalrous conduct " write very figure:

Once, lu Xun is a weapon with the pen, swear to save a Chinese; Now, I am a weapon with clavier, swear to abuse all people that let my accurate dead.

The person that too much language is violated is used to " abreact " treat as " promote justice " , " baleful attack " should make free speech.

They are knocked in clavier before giving those character, was full of by so called sense of justice brains, the wind direction that is built by public opinion is being taken run quickly madly, do not think cost is mental completely go thinking.

Yale psychology researcher overcomes Luojite to discover via research, the behavior of the person that people thinks to punish do evil conduces to the reliable image that builds his, show oneself justice, expressing indignation is to travelling energy -- promote a society ethics then, stimulative fairness and justice.

This is a times that phonates freely, also be the times that an optional conversation need not be in charge of however.

But should remember, your language is one side mirror, shine upon gives the temperature of your heart.

Occasionally, can choose timely silent, the impression of its backside is human goodness.

"On this world, everybody is to be an upright person for the first time, respect each life please. Respect each life please..

04

"I do not want to call each other names with them,

Do I and they have otherwise again what distinction? Do I and they have otherwise again what distinction??

Language force is a kind special the mood condition that infects easily, resembling is an invisible mood and affection plague, do not think it leaves us so distant.

When attending a college, without reason of for no reason encountered colleague small colourful network language is violent. She just is in an average life, a comment was written at will when browsing small gain, thousands of assist is harvested between one night.

And the small gain homepage that because curious aspect entered her,has a netizen, the small gain her turned over a De Chaotian, and discover she bore an image that she likes in a certain incident, begin to have baleful charge to her.

All sorts of character affront, fling abuses falls from the day, still draw pink of the big damage that help a head to come her small gain is besieged, search the clues that with them opinion on public affairs shoulds not from her small gain like detective.

Finally, work in the same place by force of but, all small Bo Qing empty.

"I do not want to call each other names with them, or what distinction do I and they have again? Or what distinction do I and they have again??

There is a sound to tell her in the heart, "I do not have a fault originally, those people just borrow machine vent one's anger just " , cannot let oneself also become the same person that violate.

Someone says, that sees inequitable incident when us, see the weak by ride roughshod over, see goodness is used, with respect to what cannot say?

Can say of course, but should say well.

Because of free speech, we should value the right that we convey more.

I support the speech in every hand to counterpoise, support promotes justice. It is a hope only, everybody is in before phonating, can ask oneself:

Is what I see all fact?

Had I checked?

Can I say to if exporting, be in charge of for me?

If cannot, learn to shut up please.

Finally

Hope everybody, when seeing an incident appears, not anxious next final conclusion, do not want baleful conjecture another person, the iceberg that what perhaps you see is a thing only one horn, let bullet fly a little while, the reflection that lets oneself is a bit deeper, use a language to convey his correctly conciously.

The world is fair, everybody becomes the person bring to bear on of language force likely, become the victim of language force likely also.

You do not know forever, what be besieged the next time is you.

Sincere be like " marvelous Gaicibi " in say in that way: When wanting to criticize others, remember please, not be the thing that everybody has experienced you.

- The End -

" today's article sees here, hope everybody can say finally like the article, let bullet fly a little while, not anxious final conclusion and criticism, such we are better. "

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