Recently, henan some is street stick a regulation: "Be engaged betrothal gifts does not exceed 20 thousand yuan, ask for betrothal gifts overmuch person, hand over to the collective or the state installs mechanism to investigate, serious person in order to traffic population or bilk punish " message, not only local villager is eristic in succession, netizens also scamper opened boiler! Express the view of pair of country betrothal gifts in succession.
Laugh look play child catch Liu Hua: Support hits costly betrothal gifts, dot assist!
Harbor : The ruffian of this village should rise more
Dawn dawn fish 66: Regrettablly male much more female little, did not marry what do not go out, do not marry only
Barley Jackie: Folk-custom of reasonable and normative folkway, one knife cuts a meeting to cause popular indignation!
Not only heat discusses netizens, the People's Daily also pays close attention to intercurrent sound highly to this matter: "How to want betrothal gifts to pass in order to traffic population punish? Transform social traditions should have law thinking "
Ferment as the abidance of public opinion, current and relevant controller already will " betrothal gifts does not exceed 20 thousand yuan, if disobey,belong to via informing against a circumstance solid by traffic woman and punish of crime of fraud " take out, changed " advocate energetically do not want betrothal gifts less perhaps, reduce betrothal gifts number, advocate new issue to do newly, the economic burden that reduces bilateral parents " .
From afore-mentioned incident we also can see problem of rural betrothal gifts is the key problem that the country pays close attention to, marrying after all is an important matter of life, and betrothal gifts is a among them bank.
1, rural betrothal gifts why so tall?
1. rural economics level promotes
The country builds devoted strength to increase to rural economics now, rural economics level rises ceaselessly, the farmer became rich pocket, what the betrothal gifts when marrying gives is much solid also it is normal to belong to.
Unbalance of scale of 2. country men and women
Before country " heavy male light female " the thought is serious, bring about unbalance of scale of male and female is serious now, male much more female little, female baby becomes sweet pastry, nature of betrothal gifts ask a price is tall.
3. is concerned about face-saving, vie psychological cause trouble
"Others home female baby marries how much does betrothal gifts want how many, how cannot my home also compare her low " this kind of betrothal gifts vies psychology is in a country and many seeing, and be concerned about face-saving, betrothal gifts of the country below vying action also went up to go up so.
Add fuel to the fire of woman matchmaker of 4. country profession
Rural marriage has professional woman matchmaker normally, and there is to be smoked from inside betrothal gifts namely in the accrual of professional woman matchmaker! What so betrothal gifts wants is taller, the gain that woman matchmaker scores is more also. Below the add fuel to the fire of professional woman matchmaker, rural betrothal gifts is natural also when the river rises the boat goes up too rises.
2, why doesn't rural man family wish to hand over rich and generous betrothal gifts?
1. family economy is difficult
Now rural marriage, house, car, bank note, what kind of wants money, but the main income of many rural families is soil. To the rural man family of domestic economy difficulty, not be not to wish to hand over rich and generous betrothal gifts, the force that depends on oneself however is not handed in piece, this kind of circumstance often writtens guarantee get married, owed a suit debt instead.
2. does not want to be in marry the expenditure on daughter-in-law too much
Some countries man has money in domestic home, but do not want to marry the expenditure on daughter-in-law again namely too much. Although many female square metropolises have dotal, this betrothal gifts still falls on the man and woman's collective small home more or less, but some men family does not want to give this new little family money, perhaps be afraid that oneself give money too much, in the heart lopsided.
3. fears to encounter cheat marriage
Give betrothal gifts woman regret marriage or run of the road, be in a country actually and many seeing. Many rural families fear to encounter this kind to cheat of marriage, fear rich and generous betrothal gifts is cheated want hard to answer.
4, is rural betrothal gifts OK requirement recapture?
Basis " about marriage law of applicable People's Republic of China the explanation of a certain number of problems 2 " the 10th regulation:
"Party requests to return still according to consuetudinary give paid betrothal gifts, if find out,attribute the following situation, people court ought to give support:
(one) both sides was not dealt with marry of the formalities that register;
(2) both sides is dealt with marry the formalities that register but did not live jointly truly;
(3) give before marriage pay and bring about those who pay a person to be badly off.
Applicable before paragraph (2) , (3) regulation, ought to be a condition with bilateral divorce. Ought to be a condition with bilateral divorce..
That is to say, want to satisfy afore-mentioned requirements only, no matter marriage hind still is before marriage, betrothal gifts all can recapture.
