Later the debate group of Tsinghua, Beijing University " gush gush group " " boast boast group " launched a debate. Like a raging fire of this controversy it may be said, drew the attention of many people. Can you be you know? Actually no matter be " gush gush group " or " boast boast group " not be best.
In the life especially in duty field, we each person hopes to his can be compared yesterday more outstanding, because only such ability get used to the times of rapid now change, gift is nicer living. Imagine like us this kind hopes today's do if be in,oneself compare the are oneself more outstanding person yesterday " gush gush group " or " boast boast group " how to meet?
Will look first " gush gush group " . If we want to grow to must be gotten,draw a lesson from inside failure, but can you be in really " gush gush group " in draw a lesson? Suppose today our err a thing, arrive later like that " gush gush group " in, what can you encounter? Be sure the language that is a flock of people is atttacked, can be gotten by gush be a nass of bruises.
Be absorbed so that the person of be a nass of bruises meets to teach a lesson from which by gush? I think more be the woman is condemned inside the heart! Because of us each person has the mechanism that an ego protects, when be atttacked every time by the language, be not harmed to protect oneself, we can begin to guard against inside the heart, the language that makes others baleful is useless to oneself, this often says namely " Zun Er goes out into right side " .
If be in,more terrible is " gush gush group " by gush much can lose confidence to oneself instead.
Look next again " boast boast group " . "Boast boast group " what went in to be able to get others namely is complimentary. Enter after what we experienced the job everyday is busy group can get complimentary, even if he was not accomplished today or err finishs sth affection also can get complimentary.
This complimentary meeting makes each person buoyant, can you be useful to us really? If get complimentary later if still will making same mistake tomorrow, so still will meet tomorrow the mood is bad. And be in as us this kind of no use is complimentary in jump over defect deeper, the world that can leave reality is further and further, cause failure finally.
That what group the most useful? I think the most useful is " first the gush after boast group " , first boast is to let his know his merit, although err finishs sth,let oneself affection also can unapt lose confidence to oneself.
"First boast " also be to let oneself have the possibility that stand up. The most important is " first boast " the criticism after the better acceptance in the heart that can let oneself, unapt from build at the beginning guard against mechanism.
Actually we each person is clear, after doing bad thing every time, do not be willing to tell others, even if but told others, also can appear inside the heart above all all sorts of be criticized likelihood, think up according to these likelihoods next refute means accordingly.
Article to here I think I had explained my point of view understood, say a bit him impressions finally! We are very difficult in living actually find " first the gush after boast group " , but in calculating real life, do not have, we also can build inside our heart. Let oneself everyday can true grow from inside failure, become more outstanding thereby.
