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Be cheated by male friend she of 900 thousand, can retreat without the road " network bilk trend considered to report 2018 " say: 90 hind, had become 5 years continuously " the biggest be decieved group " , and 80 hind occupy than nearly 3 into. Mr Zhang that works 10 years is elegant, talent save money is enough house head pays, between one night, did not have completely. Turn Zhang 17, altogether 900 thousand. Among them 300 thousand, look for a friend to borrow.
On October 25, 2018, mr Zhang is elegant in " century beautiful predestined relationship " the website was gotten acquainted with be called " Li Wenrui " schoolboy, profess to also work in Beijing, programmer. Often send fitness to illuminate to her, showing muscle, sunshine is handsome, be the kind that she likes. He or super warm male, everyday early in late punctual hair will send one's respects to, her speech phone is accompanied on next roads, sing to listen to her, inquire after sb's health, meticulously. Although had not met, but two people feeling warms up quickly. "I feel this is very pure love at that time. " acquaintance a week, li Wenrui says to an urgent task is sent to go to Macao, some gambling house safeguards side Macao website, arrived at 8 o'clock in the evening everyday half server can restart at 8 o'clock, his backstage alters compensate rate, assure to gain fund. She registered Zhang name, begin investment. It is to make money at the beginning. Li Wenrui calls her to try carry now, she tried 3 times, succeed entirely. Then, account everyday gain, she was worn the insanity like demon charges a cost. Until one day, li Wenrui says to matter urgent safeguard a website, evaporate between somebody who happens to be on hand for an errand. The website also cannot login again. Even if is such, she is the afraidest, still be screen that lover. "Answer a message quickly, I worry about you very much. " tell her explicitly till the police: "You were cheated " ases if world collapse.
Data shows, number of countrywide single young person already amounted to 220 million person 2017, among them 85 hind and 90 hind it is main force.
She encounters, inbreak stealthily just about the friend circle of youth of 200 million China, of mad accumulate wealth by unfair means " the type that confuse fetch " love fraud --
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"Southeast Asia kills a hog dish "
"Kill a hog dish " what be? 2019 after the Spring Festival, " new capital signs up for " bitterly attack of a report " southeast Asia kills a hog dish " . This is a kind with " love " the network fraud of renown bunco, began to run rampant 2018, but most person is opposite as before its utterly ignorant. They basically open fraud in southeast Asia, be called the person of emotional loneliness " pig " , build amative relation to cry " raise a pig " , final racketeer cries " kill a hog " . Pass first marriage love the website that make friend " piggery " get acquainted with " pig young " , understand " pig " circumstance, develop attachment, let " pig " be most willing to by " kill " hind, still cannot find butcher to be in. Because cheater is in abroad hire server, build platform of various spinach websites, lottery website, investment everyday, hold with the technology accuse to be defeated win, adopt the measure that cheats a person to build a website even, once be discovered,shut directly. The so elaborate scheme, group that coordinates cheek by jowl commits the crime, innocent victim is destined to be partitioned by others at will at the beginning.
After that is cheated, call the police useful? Almost trashy. It is lawful that spinach is in southeast Asia place, the government won't is in charge of, does domestic police want to cross condition arrest a person? Be hard to go up blue sky. After be being cheated, mr Zhang is elegant joined victim small letter group, just know, love dream and get rich the dream disillusions at the same time, spread all over countrywide each district nearly 1000 people, this still is not all.
Have the boss of the company, have the student that go to school, the old person that has 60 many years old...
You become Ta lover, ta becomes you only however drawing machine, lose a family fortune when you only, game just ends. Steamed bread of true person blood.
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How do they deceive people after all? This fraud at the beginning, lay a person " longing loves " demand, essence of life follows charge. So, every " kill a hog dish " Dou Youming divides the work truly.
The first pace, by " offer makings form " the individual information that seeks essence of life to allow.
They look for those technically " be short of love " person. Marriage the target that loving homosexual forum or website of website, a few pornography, appeal to wait is them, the flower chooses fund, can relaxed register a data from what the membership buys in website or hacker hand.
The 2nd pace: "Word Wu group " build a person to set.
"Word Wu group " the person that is direct bunco.
They love a website to add the individual information that provides for feed group through road of small letter, road or marriage, with the friend of elegant head portrait, elaborate design the circle is built " ideal person is set " , forge individual value, bring you quickly to swallow the bait according to the word art that weave " Tan Lian loves " , some meetings and victim receive small letter video, the person that even still family is acted will obtain your credit.
80 hind Xiao Yu from marriage love what get acquainted with on the website " Jiang Zehui " , profess to work in Singapore, often reveal go to sea fishing, take the bird's nest, life that opens houseboat, look forward to together with her: "We buy a big house on island, take a walk in the seaside everyday " . Be informed Xiao Yu to want be in hospital to become an operation, "Jiang Zehui " still shift to an earlier date one day the net is bought deliver pack elegant flower. Face those disgusting lovers' prattle and a few little surprises, she loses counteractive ability for an instant.
The 3rd pace: After generation affection is depended on, the investment that entice.
Cheater can agree with you time meets, let you produce a hope, but escape with all sorts of excuse again, fall ill for instance, be away on official business, go abroad, condole is worn your appetite. After generation affection is depended on, divulge oneself know the flaw of a certain conduct financial transactions or spinach website slowly, entice you to invest, hold accuse to be defeated win, once be met pull by doubt black contact no longer, make do not answer every day, ground making the land is ineffective.
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"The type that confuse fetch " love fraud, how to hold the mentality that accuses you?
"If encounter cheater again, my meeting chop he. " be cheated 620 thousand much 90 the Later Zhou Dynasty bright, want to be less than oneself to be able to be cheated anyhow. Because arrive as a child big, there is contradiction in the home, parents abreacts fury to his body, he very be short of love, alone, feel beside nobody understands him, together with likes a same sex, be not agreed with by social mainstream originally, find the other in part that needs sincerely very hard. He hands in friendly platform to get acquainted with in the same sex " Zheng sagacious boat " capture this just about, use first " warm male " the person is set satisfy his imagination to ideal lover,
With " in all affection law " the affection demand that finds his heart, give care and include, speak to let him feel to be found eventually every time " true love " . Talked about a week left and right sides, the other side is about to decide the lover concerns, zhou Ming feels too fast, the other side encourages him, "You are the person that I should seek, we want a bit braver " . He analyses the feeling of two people with too psychological tool even, but still fall into trap step by step in. When you should increase money to throw, cheater still can let you do not want too too adventure, avaricious, create the false appearance that is him consider. Do you want to exit? He is used " sunken cost " psychology, revulsive you continue to invest certain amount ability to carry now, investment is more, jump over difficult give up, jump over defect deeper.
Zhou Ming was cast 50 much when, was afraid of, want to take money. Take money? Can. Fill a value to arrive 10 million, perhaps hand in 98888 yuan of poundage. He borrowed money to hand in poundage everywhere, cheater disappeared.
After a lot of people are cheated, think carefully later, ever had discovered the flaw of cheater actually. Call bad name for instance, fumble to concoctive job, turn the clew when Zhang " Zhang date has a risk " ,
But be persuaded by cheater.
The relatives and friends beside even if hints the likelihood is decieved, inexorable go.
This was to use what the people in love often makes " halo effect " , it can enlarge one the individual's advantage or defect. Like a person, be willing to see the one side with good Ta only, do not like a person, can look for ten million reason is fed up with Ta, let us be on acknowledge in order to slant without exception complete, "Love me " , cannot the true and false of stand or fall of thing of real ground recognize. Zhou Ming also has suspected, zheng sagacious boat is used " affection blackmails a way " , "I am so good to you, don't you still believe me? " unspoken words in a play left to the understanding of the audience or reader is " you care about me, have to down me " . One pace holds the mentality that accuses him. Because, the person that you care most, the clearest your soft costal region.
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Be cheated, not be your fault, the most important is to rebuild to trust to his
A person suffers affinity suddenly betray, what lose with money is double cruel attack, it is deadly.
The person that is fooled, can ceaseless him hate wriggles, close oneself rise, be immersed in depressed condition, commit suicide even. Fear reentrance affinity, negative self-worth, also lose faith thoroughly to oneself.
Above all, the anguish that we must want straight him range, sad, sadness, reconcile with traumatic mood.
Si Hermann says psychologist Zhu Di, the person must be opposite all breaking after funeral has been mourned one by one, ability disentombs the immanent life of own indestructible.
We do not put those who fall, often be the mood of pair of traumatic incident and person, escape to be able to let a mood be corroded in the bottom of the heart only. Hate cheater, it is him hate actually. You are star-crossed only, encounter cheater. But the fault that be being cheated is not you, not be ashamed thing more, the injustice that does not take cheat will punish his. Reconcile with traumatic mood, ability gives him the way of a be unexpected rescued from a desperate situation.
The 2nd pace, admit faulty oneself, seek the power of a love.
Exterior relation is our interior relation essentially is projectile. Those bring us joy or painful person, it is to taking certain and secret mission to come to the side of us, help us grow. Must clear up, why can be you cheated? The likelihood is by force of social pressure, want to search a perfect love to prove his; The likelihood is too alone, be eager to entering a paragraph of relation, and understand a true Ta without beautiful time and energy; ...
Find the prime cause of oneself, admit it.
Debbie. Ford is in " admit faulty oneself " say, everybody has the seamy side of case of people on one's own side, we should face up to our shadow ceaselessly, admit faulty oneself, ability finds new power, give whole life alive.
The 3rd pace, seek outside support, find the cure that suits oneself to heal means.
If have the family that is worth reliance and friend, tell them your experience. I believe from beginning to end, love your person truly, can stand beside you, give you power, accompany you to had walked along that paragraph of gloomy years. If have need, the psychology that seeks major seeks advice from a help.
Straight face is only traumatic, accept it, handle it, put down it, stop ego attack, admit faulty oneself, just be pleasant to the eye to be opposite to it from the experience in the past likely the meaning of your life, rebuild we are mixed to the world the accredit of other, and rebuild to trust to oneself.
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These love sentiment charge series fraud, must vigilant!
The uncle of Fujian person hooligan is in southeast Asia ten years, becoming telegraphic crook all the time, pretend to be public security organs before a few years, pretend to be leader bilk,
After these bilk gimmick are publicized extensively in home, successful rate is lower and lower, his uncle active transition, begin to do " kill a hog dish " . Can kill a few everyday almost " pig " , every little criterion tens of thousands of, many thousands of 10 thousand, the business of the make big profits with a small capital, earn basin full earthen bowl is full, ceaseless enlarge an army, enlarge is large-scale. And those victims that are cheated, still awaiting money earned by hard toil to be recovered hard.
Check the police of the case, pained on border land line also extremely, cheater is in thither, they cannot arrest a person to the past however, even if experiences drop of nest of cheater of development of heavy block up, evidence is destroyed basically also, capital also cannot be recovered, this is a dead bureau.
And " southeast Asia kills a hog dish " the fraud that likeness covers a region still has a lot of.
Fashionable is gregarious 2018 of the network " sell tea daughter " bilk, great majority is 90 hind the male uses belle head, fictional on small letter " be lovelorn sell tea daughter " reach " cross birthday to beg red bag " wait for the kite that cover a region;
In addition, still have the network fraud such as investment of common foreign currency, gold, silver, crude oil, stock.
Final it is to use feeling, achieve affection to control pleasure or grab the purpose of monetary interest, it is the cancer of damage society, the most shameless between the world is not merciless, use feeling however.
Our everybody has love and the demand that are loved, everybody becomes a friend possibly in the circle by butcher " pig " . We can do, let heal more namely much person knows this new-style fraud, hope the family member friend beside us, be not harmed.
The world and I am loving you!
