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I kept mood management, a lot of people still feedback, uncontrollable, the mood has erupted, the relation begins insecurity, how is knowing good.

Need wrong relation repair at that time, the simplest method apologizes namely.

Apology this thing, total meeting feels is to have lose dignity, appoint lower his head to always can have some of not reconciled to personally, especially the heart feels his mistake also is inadvertently pass or be to be approach of other behavior place to come but.

Feeling

The life often falls to us set, wanting solution to cover is not it is OK to rely on simple kindness. Have skill it is very important to answer. Here needs us to be able to talk, say a dialog.

Have a way everywhere, the life not complain of suffering.

Think of

Just " I am sorry " , do not change " irrespective "

It is very easy that the apology says, because have " I am sorry " this word.

Speak these 3 words of course, often also can feel awkward, because the heart feels,do not know how to be in oneself. Often can be in so " I am sorry " later say a lot of gibberish, will alleviate oneself awkwardness perhaps says is to pretend to be relaxed, let oneself won't lose face.

E.g. :

"I am sorry, fasten life, I also do not know to meet such. I also do not know to meet such..

"I am sorry, did not think of you are so serious. Did not think of you are so serious..

"I am sorry, I apologize to you, excuse me! Excuse me!!

"I am sorry, do I admit my mistake to still be no good? Do I admit my mistake to still be no good??

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The question with these the biggest apologies is, let the other side experience the sincerity that is less than you and apology, more instead in shirk responsibility.

The maintenance of the relation is each other, if cannot very good the responsibility that assumes oneself, the other side also defies with respect to can corresponding evade.

The pivotal main points with the largest apology is cordial.

All right

The curricular experience that combines my family education and of communication skill tear open a book to accumulate, I

Cordial apology sums up simply:

01 state a fact

Describe oneself action, state the real case that the business develops, want objective, do not bring subjective opinion. Answer like teleplay like putting, regard an audience as the fact that see.

For instance:

"I am sorry, I a moment ago toward your growl, frighten you. Frighten you..

"I am sorry, I did not allow to take away the thing through yours. I did not allow to take away the thing through yours..

"I am sorry, I am late let you wait for half hour. I am late let you wait for half hour..

"I am sorry, I did not tell the truth with you. I did not tell the truth with you..

It is to be in here state action, let us the fact that each other recognize, go up in this thing that is to say the view that we should hold consistent first, mutual ability won't continue to quarrel or censure.

The other side can be agreed with, yes, the thing is such.

To such configuration, the mood can get tension slowly, recursive reason thinks and talk.

Important is apologetic him person also won't lose self-respect, the responsibility that admits oneself are done is the biggest liability.

02 concise palpability, say oneself only

The deed that states oneself is good, do not have been to the behavior of much descriptive the other side again, we need to be in charge of for oneself only, must not ruin the effect by adding sth superfluous.

Do not say " but " , do not say " because " , do not say " if it were not for " and so on.

Must not say so:

"It is me incorrect, but the thing so much that you should buy if it were not for, I also won't get angry. I also won't get angry..

"I am wrong, but you are not to do not have responsibility. But you are not to do not have responsibility..

"I apologize, because I do not want to make you angry,be. Because I do not want to make you angry,be..

The action of these words is add fuel to the flames above, still be inferior to shutting up.

03 do not beg excuse

Still be that word, it is good that the behavior that is oneself is in charge of, the apology is yourself's thing, former forgive is the thing of the other side. We are non-privileged what does requirement others do, we are accountability had been in charge of oneself.

More what is more,the rather that, apology, because lie in the relation,be, ourselves needs relation harmony. Our behavior is to achieve his goal.

Conversely, if you do not care about this relation, need not use an apology.

So, the apology is the need of ourselves, had done what oneself should do to want to do, how does others respond to the thing that is others.

And cordial apology, just hope our apology is useful, otiose apologizes to need to do far from.

04 can talk experience

Why to if he want to be shared with the other side very much,have improper behavior and sentiment, perhaps say oneself very care about this paragraph of relation to just make an apology, cannot shirk responsibility, still want to express the word of oneself kindness or grievance, can convey experience.

That is to say, we think the apology is accomplished neither haughty nor humble, want to have sincerity already, do not think the word in the unbalance in the relation again, can convey oneself feeling adequately.

The feeling inside this, must be to analyse him heart motive, it is afraid for the most part, anxious, cowardly, weak, selfish, fear to lose, fear to be not loved to wait for relatively negative one side. Realise the affection of oneself motive backside, although some can't bear, but can let the other side see true you, still can produce resonance, promotional and mutual understanding, clear the air, get forgiving.

E.g. :

"I am sorry, I a moment ago toward your growl, frighten you. I a moment ago too anxious, I fear you leave me. I fear you leave me..

"I am sorry, I did not allow to take away the thing through yours. I fear, be afraid that you do not agree. Be afraid that you do not agree..

"I am sorry, I am late let you wait for half hour. I am very ashamed, at the same time also very fear you believe me no longer. At the same time also very fear you believe me no longer..

"I am sorry, I did not tell the truth with you. I am very afraid, very fear. Very fear..

05 in all affection the other side

Say oneself feeling, atmosphere should alleviate a lot of, at that time need pacifies the word of the other side, we can try in all affection, understand the other side, expressive consideration.

E.g. :

"Were you a moment ago enraged bad for certain? "Were you a moment ago enraged bad for certain??

"Let you be upset by unkindness. "Let you be upset by unkindness..

"Is what you wait very anxious be? "Is what you wait very anxious be??

"Make you sad again. "Make you sad again..

You say so, very possible mood adjusts the other side restore.

At that time the apology just calculates effective fruit.

06 solve a problem, do not do assure

Solving a problem is not one the individual's thing, we can follow discussion of the other side, how should such thing handle ability most reasonable, discussion course should encourage each other to speak his think of a way, find two people to be able to reach uniform means method from which.

Here notices:

Do not say to assure next time no longer such, because we are not done very likely,arrive. Want to estimate the possibility that the business grows objectively, two sides of positive and negative wants a consideration. The thing no matter size should discuss, cannot desalt, oversight. Prospective plan needs each other remind, is not a person assume.

In fact, the apology of above covers a region, be in " oneself are completely right " below the circumstance, still be in charge of with, and can bring substantial help, even if be pair of stranger.

Anyhow, cordial apology (perhaps say the apology covers a region) , not only can link is contradictory, still can maintain human relationship, we want to maintain a relationship, want to solve a problem necessarily, is not production problem.

Apology this thing, can cover a region, more genuine!