" the ground is long the day is long " : Forget anguish, reconcile with the destiny, it is difficu

Once somebody asks me, "Forget " more difficult, or " remember " more difficult? I take off an answer, want to forget, too not easy.

Very difficult society " forget " person, should be most. Because be in the life, we always persuade a person to persuade personal ground to say again, forget the past, had come from the beginning. Persuade a person easy oneself is difficult, after be being taken, can put the person below gently, not much really.

Do not put, with respect to the travel before can loading only.

Resemble the movie " the ground is long the day is long " , to Wang Liyun, from that daystart that loses a son, her time stopped. She becomes a person that lived in the past. Past is painful, painful go no further letting a person not before.

Film of 3 hours, to last act, the light of the picture slowly dark go down, title float comes out now, " the ground is long the day is long " . Simple English title is below Chinese, " So Long, my Son " . Lachrymal dot is hit, eye instant is wet.

Goodbye, son...

Time stopped, those who remain, age slowly namely.

The Liu Xing that was born 1982, drown at a of 1994 to death. The child is domestic hope, it is the ligament of close affection, it is the continuance of parental life. The child died, the heart of Liu Yaojun and Wang Liyun also died, in vast and mighty stream of people, they are the people that lose soul, the sun is again big, also illuminate do not enter oneself.

That is " family planning " time. The essay of red of red of the Song Dynasty " exceed unripe guerrilla " created meaningful humour for that time. Be in a country, also once concerned the doggerel at it, for instance " hang oneself does not seize a rope, drink medicine not to seize bottle " , time passes and the situation has changed, after-thought rises besides laugh, a few have have the person of personal experience, probably the heart still floats remove agonized.

The heart of Liu Yaojun and Wang Liyun is not agonized, it is bruise.

Wang Liyun " outside the plan " be pregnant. Liu Yaojun wants to protect this child, star letting Liu has a little brother or little sister. Individual desire is faint, as the insect the hoarse before onrush cries. Wang Liyun by forcibly detain got on a car, detain entered a hospital, there still are two outside surgery " family planning works only " take strict precautions against defend to the last. Come from some kind of meaning say, such operation is " executive policy " , be " correct an error " , be destined little warmth. What Wang Liyun is taken off is fetal not only, still have feminine fecundity. Look at frail wife, liu Yaojun comforts say: "Do not have a thing, the operation went out a bit... small issue. The operation went out a bit... small issue..

Small issue? The small issue before, become the big regret after the destiny is fugacious. Small issue, the husband and wife that makes this honest and tolerant to simple minded is in after losing Liu Xing, have impossibly also again 2 children, survive has the ache of parenting and happiness impossibly also again.

Gu Zhang of independent film person stalks or branch had said a such words: "Hurry on with his journey forth hurriedly when a society when, because want to go forth,do not want, ignore that by the person of your run down. Ignore that by the person of your run down..

During Li Haiyan is dying, saw the Wang Liyun that fastens 20 years. 20 years ago, it is Li Haiyan served operating-table of department of gynaecology and obstetrics Wang Liyun personally, after 20 years, her consciousness is befuddled, however the cherished desire is clear.

"Li Yun, we are rich now, you, can be born. Can be born..

Black hair is whiten hair, beauty already bleak. These two women, although a misfortune makes each other life favourable or unfavourable turns in life disparate, but they are by the person of run down. Because of run down, they are not willing to also cannot climb again quite, time stops, can live in the past only.

Those are broken alone family, the time ability that how long should spend slowly repair heart and affective scar?

To cure scar, once had a volunteer a few break exclusive front courtyard to be organized, embrace a group, have the aid of pours out with placatory will be propped up each other, give each other the power of subsist.

Also once somebody is considered oneself pour out individual anguish oneself, over and over, tell the accident die that appeals to the cummer more than 10 years ago. Eventually one day I couldn't help, I remind him calmly, "When your drain is painful conversion thinks, there are two people on this world is more painful than you hundredfold is thousandfold, that is her parents. You can marry parturient, begin new life, and that pair is broken alone old person place loses, do not have any to be able to be made up for. They had done not have future. They had done not have future..

I do not know whether he understood my advice. Place oneself at same field misfortune, understand attentively only among them truly painful person, you just can see your weakness clear.

True anguish is not to flow at one's words, however silent bear.

The night of off year, firework is outside the house is gorgeous, be cracker is Bacchic. Inside the house, liu Yaojun and Wang Liyun are defending a clear lamp, withered sit reticent. Lose the child, lost a hope namely, what sense does New Year still have?

They are taking simple baggage to leave stealthily when in the still of night, from northward change southward seaside fishing village. Escaping is not to begin newly, sympathize with to be far from those however and pay close attention to. They are not willing to let familiar person see their sadness, the child was done not have, they want even their mark along with all the others erasure, the taste with chew bitter slowly in a completely new place.

Besides talk about the film, might as well those real event in delivering the view to reality. 2010, only the Yao Yao with 3 big months is calorific cough, because by accident examine, become " Changsha is the smallest plant person " . 3265 days, tang Yunzhang's husband and wife asks a lawyer to engage in a lawsuit at the same time, work hard at the same time work, be in for the child ICU endless cure. Time of 9 years, tang Yunzhang fears to die everyday, fear is twined as cobweb, but final when, still be the child's death.

Still have the victim Lin Shengbin of case of Hangzhou baby-sitter arson. He was in wife and 3 children article on the back, bespread whole back, he alleviates with this kind of means inner anguish, as if to be able to join together forever with family, also won't lose again. He says, he does not like to fasten stream of people to show the eyes that sympathize with, what can remind him only in that way is miserable, stimulate his sadness.

Those by fugacious the person with unfortunate run down, how can you just reconcile with the destiny?

Besides " time " , still have other result?

Someone says, break accidentally child family, 2 people of husband and wife pull a hand very hard to take the remainder of one's life again. Among them reason has nothing to do with love probably, because,more is, the existence that each other are before is a paragraph of painful memory that does not take to go out. American film " of the seaside Mancunian " those who tell is such story, love still is in, but the compunction that loses the child to bring and self-condemned cannot let the life return former office.

" the ground is long the day is long " those who permeate is a Chinese bear. The misfortune of little family, the wind and cloud of old age, liu Yaojun and Wang Liyun choose to depend on each other.

Personally and humanness, who can avoid to err?

Shen Moli says to Liu Yaojun, I conceived your child, my elder brother owes you, I am returned with this child.

Blame aforethought is off the rails, bring a child to oneself. Perhaps, this is exclusive can let Liu Yaojun walk out of break child painful way. But how should confront a wife?

Mo Re telling a husband wife. Wang Liyun tries to help sb to fulfill his wishes with the suicide the husband. This is feminine in one's heart bear, also be the complete despair with vivid opposite, just meet him oversight " victim " the identity, make not the choice of others of be a burden on.

About this paragraph of gut, the person that perhaps have women's right can jump out, buckle on one to Liu Yaojun " broken bits male " cap. But actually, the key of the story is not pair of Liu Yaojun and Shenyang jasmine is off the rails undertake morality tries, what it should show is the person's anguish, and the person struggles mediumly in anguish with save atone for.

Old later, friends with far the jasmine video that is in the United States, say to let when jasmine when the son comes over to make acoustical call with everybody, liu Yaojun's expression is complex. He is staring at computer, the Tibet in the eye wears some kind to expect, I what serve as an audience, the heart also has this kind to expect. In those days is jasmine born their child?

It is a new year. Before son Liu Xing's pallet grave, liu Yaojun and Wang Liyun extract barren is careless, place a fruit, combustion paper made to resemble money and burned as an offering to the dead. In desolate wind, they sit in the both sides of gravestone, fixing distant place silently. The son is in 12 years old forever alive, they already were old age.

" the ground is long the day is long " on Berlin international film festival behead wins double award. The director says, this is not the film, this is our life.

I want to say, this is a motion picture that presents anguish. But it also is a cure the film with heal painful.

If because we cannot learn to forget,painful germ is, so cure heals painful, besides time, still have painful itself.

Between bearer time, not be for despair. Come when spring, shine when the sun, the person that hopes those are painful rises continuously slowly in anguish.