01
When I had not married to still do not have a boy friend, the mother admonishs our sister a few a word: "If look for a boy friend,you will come a few times, must look for the age bigger than you. Must look for the age bigger than you..
Ask a mother the reason, the mother says " with your pa this all one's life, suffer enough, won't be fond of a person " . The mother is bigger than my pa 3 years old, they that time is " female big the 3 bricks that hold gold in the arms " , this also brought about a mother to bear in marriage too much, and father also won't be fond of a person indeed.
Female big 3 where are the brick that hold gold in the arms, raised a son in marriage however, too be deceived.
Often be the woman bore in traditional marriage too much, and the man is that one party that is taken care of, but there is in the marriage that becomes you immature " son " , you will be very tired very tired.
Our sister falls a few times in maternal influence, those who search also be bigger than him age. My gentleman is bigger than me 5 years old, he is very mature, my very capricious get into a huff is instead when Tan Lian loves, hinder at comparing me the age is old he always is letting me. We are in after marrying, also be to belong to him to take care of me more.
Marriage is such, the spouse intelligence that becomes you is mature, you can suffer bit of pain less in marriage.
I also had talked about this topic with the mother-in-law: Between husband and wife, how many years old does the age differ appropriate? The mother-in-law says, the man still wants the age a bit bigger, the man work with relatively old age is earlier also can more assume domestic general affairs, more independent, also can patronize a person quite at the same time.
"Between husband and wife, how many years old does the age differ the most appropriate? " be aimed at this topic, I interviewed a few a n experienced person, listen to them to say one's innermost thoughts and feelings with his one's own experience.
02
@ Miss Yin, "I can accept 5 years old of above, of 10 years old of less than "My father is older than my Mom 8 years old, suffer the effect of former unripe family, my choose is watched occasionally or apt looks for an older than me person to Tan Lian loves and marry. Be being written down is my Mom in one's childhood get angry, and my pa fooling namely fooling, the sort of occasion too do laughed. You know, after marrying, the woman is very of aggressive, but the husband that can fool a person to face to face, disposition is again bad also be to do not have a place to make.
Our home because my father is older, big after all 8 years old, so a lot of things are my father do advocate, this also makes my mother aeriform in marriage in had depend on feeling.
I can be accepted bigger than me 5 years old, at the same time of 10 years old of less than, such man most career has. Because money quarrels with bagatelle,no more than of a lot of moment in marriage is, if age of a man is older than you, won't quarrel with you.
@ forest lady, "I also won't look for younger than me man to marry again "I am true regret, how to marry to compare him age diminutive? The psychological age that the woman does not admit before me compares male National People's Congress 3 years old, but I admitted now, my man is too young. There are a lot of things to let him do in marriage advocate, but how the family knows to do far from? When quarrelling prep let alone, we two quarrel I must fool him. Very tired, should know to be pregnant unripe child I bore so much painful, result, he is slippery still.
Ms. @ Ms. Zhang, "The age is not a key greatly, the key is to get intelligence maturity "The man that we still want to look for an intelligence to mature in marriage gets married, woman a little intelligence is immature irrespective, but it is mature that the man gets intelligence certainly. If the woman searchs marital intelligence is immature, a lot of gas can search to suffer to oneself after marrying. The man that you marry is slippery you are met very be perturbed, there had been a lot of things in original marriage, man or else gives power, you are tiredder.
@ poplar gentleman, "The man still looks for the woman student with a bit younger age, such pressure will be less "A girlfriend has talked when I attend a college, be the same as with me age, conjugal issue discusses after we graduate next, the girl wants a room to want a car with me, I just graduated how may have? Calculate having also is my parents, not be me. My this individual is more independent, cannot satisfy her requirement next, we parted company.
My present wife is younger than me 4 years old, when with her Tan Lian loves I am 26 years old, at that time although also do not have a car, but she still has to me adore feeling. We married to buy a house later, I am 30 years old, and she is 26 years old, just marry parturient. The woman that I discover the age is a bit smaller can have to you adore feeling, such marriage more can long, also can be opposite each other are charming.
03
In traditional marriage, the woman is a overmuch to bear, a lot of parents hope the son marries an age to be in charge of him greatly, the meeting that said the age is old again is more sensible. But in contemporary marriage, the man should have domestic sense of responsibility, should know patronize a person, it is relatively a bit more mature that this means a man to want.
Because of a family in, the woman is pregnant unripe child and confinement in childbirth look after children to need a man to feel distressed she, the girl bore to be sufferred from too much in marriage, when her one is known feel distressed oneself husband, it is so difficult that this marriage also is done not have instead.
It is in marriage such, the love of the man with a mature intelligence can prop up a woman to have courage forward, also can feel oneself paying is worthiness. And in unfortunate marriage, the woman blames the husband not to do not have sense of responsibility to force too Mom treasure, also be because of what marry the man cannot carry a thing to make them too tired likely.
"Between husband and wife, the age differs how many years old " this thing does not have final conclusion, but have a bit, our choose occasionally when still should choose an intelligence to mature, work have definite idea, the person that at the same time economic actual strength feeds him is more serious.
Pick man or can carry responsibility, have domestic sense of responsibility.
- END -
