I am in via regular meeting a mom group in chat, a flock of mom are in group li of child that says him home lie between 3 difference 5 " make evil spirit " , have an appearance I have resonance greatly also -- the child pays no attention to a person, made do not have reaction.
My son also can have this kind of time, and very much still. Classes are over after coming home, I call him to wash one's hands, he put satchel to play however building blocks, call ability a few times respond. He makes wash a face to brush one's teeth before sleeping, he sees TV cool, also pay no attention to a person.
When a lot of mom says the child makes a few times do not answer, it is really think place explodes minute minutes. Also calculated in the home, make a few times also go more. But a lot of children arrived outside or all the same " persist one's old ways " , it is parents cannot get a response not only, encounter others to greet sb with the child, the child still also does not have a response to pay no attention to a person, mom say such child does not have courtesy too.
Is the child pays no attention to a person really " don't have courtesy " ? We come dug the reason of this backside.
Why do 01 children pay no attention to a person
Because of child self-awareness budding, at the same time ability develops their acknowledge not completely also, the child of egocentric period always sets out from oneself consideration problem, and they think the person all round has same think of a way with them.
Egocentric child has not considered the ability of the problem from other angle. Accordingly, letting the child of that period be others consider is not actual. The regular meeting when us hears the interesting conversation between child of 3 years old two. They say each thing each, did not communicate truly and interact. This also lies because of them just about egocentric phase. When we cannot get the child's response, can think the child does not have courtesy, it is to be in with us to work. But actually the child is more dedicated only at ego just.
02 children pay no attention to a person, parent err what thing?
The easiest oversight also is close to parents inner world of the child hard most. In the heart that walks into the child truly only, ability knows his child truly, ability knows what they are thinking. Know they like what to be fed up with, what knowing is insufficient place of the child, what knowing is advantage place of the child. And n/COL the head of a family long oversight inner universal time of the child, conduct behavior of the child looks in the parent can become barpque.
One, the height that did not stand in the child considers an issue
When teaching the child, the stands in the child namely height that the parent accomplishs easily least of all considers an issue, but this often are the most crucial however. To parents, want exceed and child to communicate the chasm in communication, the angle that must stand in the child considers an issue, be considerate is child consider.
If Saile Saiwei of beautiful state religion Home Yo has said a such words: "Everybody problem of observation, understanding, can have oneself perspective and foothold. The identity, position is different, the conclusion that reachs is different. The age great disparity between parents and children, identity each different is the main reason that the influence communicates each other. The age great disparity between parents and children, identity each different is the main reason that the influence communicates each other..
The child brings back from the school one is drawn, elated ground wants to be shared with the parent. But the household thing in the irritated worry that the parent may get on because of the job, home, and the child's picture is done not have really so good-looking and muddle through one's work is direct even those who reject the child share, the child can feel sad for certain, cry greatly directly even.
The station considers an issue on the child's angle, it is the esteem to the child, it is a kind of when communicate effectively fundamental skill more.
2, force oneself apiration on child body
If the child is in dedicated oneself thing, the parent can stem from his subjective apiration, and what is no matter the child is in,thinking, ask the child is responded to forcibly and break the business that he is doing. Such practice is incorrect, not only get half the result with twice the effort, still can bring about the child to generate inimical sentiment, harm is close child the feeling between.
Additionally the parent is in when guiding the child to have human society, also want to know the psychology of a few children, do not interfere too much or behave too zealously with persistence, do not make what child sense is come from parents oppressive.
03 have pay no attention to a person elfin, how should the parent do
One, the child is done not have at all " should answer person " consciousness
This kind of circumstance happens basically on smaller child body, a year old of half the following child is more. Cause this kind of shortage " should person " recognizant prime cause, still be in because of the child likely phase of age of wh what month, adult is conscious prattle to child Yi ah too little, lack with the child language communication accompanies eyes communication at the same time.
2, the child has want respondent consciousness, but do not know respondent way
If go up to was done so that compare good parent, the child still pays no attention to a person, people calls him him pay no attention to, because you did not teach him right respondent kind,that may be, right perhaps respondent demand of the child is insufficient. When the parent is calling the child the name, crouch, tell the child, when father mother calls you, you should reply " hey! You should reply " hey!!
3, the child has respondent consciousness to know respondent way, still pay no attention to a person
The child arrived this level still pays no attention to a person, the parent should review his words and deeds well! The first, the child has beg at you when, you are done not have well the communication that with the child the language goes up with the eyes. The 2nd, because,be you too too Suo, bored! The child talks with you, the parent should put down the thing in the hand to be listened attentively to seriously. Occupied when teaching the child, call a name to say directly. Not occupied do not have a thing to cry, cause to the child " the wolf came " illusive, when you occupied really when calling him, he pays no attention to you instead.
4, the child can talk, still be not respondent occasionally
After the child had a language to convey consciousness, if call him to still have not respondent case, that is corrected rise simpler. When the child making before, the child is to pass the eyes and expression to communicate with the parent, after the child can organize a language to undertake spoken language is conveyed, the parent can tell the child when people cries him he wants how to reply, let the child form respondent habit slowly.
The communication between person and person is a foundation with mutual respect. As parents, often do not use jussive snout to talk to the child at ordinary times, time grew, the child can do not have good impression to parents, do not consider reason naturally you.
