Author | Kid lamb
Origin | Taletelling of triumphant father's younger brother (Kaishujianggushi)
Not when the mood is accumulated when breaking down, will love oneself again.
01
A the closest small gain heats up search, look I very feel distressed.
On Guangzhou subway, a female passenger crouchs suddenly on the ground, cry bitterly of face of attack by surprise.
A lot of mom express to look cried:
" look very afflictively, seemed to see oneself. "
" remember oneself also feel pressure is very great, also think so cry bitterly one. "
The mood of middleaged mom breaks down, always will so that sudden be prevented not as good as.
If good friend A just has been experienced.
6 years old of much son colds have a fever, after taking medicine good, 2 years old of much daughters have a fever again, two days are not retreated.
Unluckily difference of old be away on official business is outer.
A few days not Mian endlessly A Re, pulling son, skill to holding a daughter in the arms to go to a hospital single-handed.
Registration, the person is unusually much, the team is discharged very longly, air is very frowsty.
The body just the son is crying to cry: " mom, I am very tired, did not want to stand. "
If A dare not let a son go on the side, be obliged to say: " the son is good, it is good to hold to a little while again. "
Good arrived not easily the window, outpatient service does not have date however.
Come to emergency call division.
The doctor says: " the child has a fever now 38.5 degrees, etc got on 39 degrees to come again, want the child of preferential attack of fever. "
If A is dragging tired out body again, taking the child to return the home.
Open a cupboard that also serves as a table, prepare to cook, discovery is done not have gas.
Breaking down is to come from at very small issue.
" that is flashy, I was overcome suddenly. "
Sit on the ground below A Reyi, cry greatly thoroughly.
Know have a problem: " what is middleaged woman thinking? "
Among them answer of a high praise writes:
" regard middleaged woman as me very irritated really, everyday very irritated, volt case job, all the year round school of housework, family, the way of the world, carnal ache, heart is deeply anxious, cannot help doing sth, acedia with each passing day. "
Is A Re not same also?
Every mood breaks down, it is many a pressing of a carring pole goes up, it is bit by bit the mood is accumulated rise.
02
Teleplay " maritime marry female write down " in, why does the heroine of Cai Shaofen personate read aloud a fine, quarrelling greatly with the daughter one hind, break down the ground cries: " I no matter you, I no matter you! I am about to cry! I am about to cry! "
Her breaking down is not first time, reaction also each are not identical, scream sometimes stamp, cry greatly sometimes, sometimes big growl name-calling.
Look so that see, erupt be her mood time and again.
Invisible, it is all sorts of pressure that she issues in heavy burden.
On the career, she is successful gold broker, have oneself company, at hand is female star of a gleam of.
Rear, it is the drive that never has relaxed however, handle crisis public relations in the middle of the night at any time, the phone dare not close 24 hours machine.
In the life, as sheet kisses mom, she everything for the daughter.
But, the daughter is traitorous, begin to bunt she, wanted to leave home even.
She is disturbed, indignant, suspicion, fear. A variety of moods are swept across and come, broke down constant some thing.
A mom says beside:
" I am the saddest, not be to be during my resting maternity leave, was carried on the head by someone else position rose job, be urged to go back by the company early however go to work, it is to do not have method to look after children personally, grow without what method participates in him, very ashamed remorses. "
Domestic economy pressure is heavy, she must choose this income more jobs.
Company requirement is very strict, be met to join child parent sometimes or the child is occupied fall ill ask for leave, the leader is met very not willing, also do not let often ask for leave.
The ability after often passing at 9 o'clock returns the home, the child often had been asleep.
Folk grumbles her not to accompany the child more.
Time is long, the child also does not kiss her.
One day, her early comes home, have a meal in the evening, want to be next to the child to sit.
But the child cries to be troubled by greatly greatly, push her desperately, do not sit together with her, want a grandma to accompany only.
Have bout, she wears the dress to the child, wear not carefully turned over, the child is shouting: " you can be worn far from, only the grandma can be worn! "
Here, she cries cannot from already, paper towel used a piece another piece, I also weep accordingly.
The sort of move that be pressed by too much thing, whats did not make good sense, total meeting because particularly special small issue, break down thoroughly at a draught.
Career, family, the child, the converging attack of multiple pressure, it is middleaged mom takes off the load that does not drop.
03
Many times, small S breaks down before camera lens.
Small gain video, she cries rarely in, say 3 times repeatedly: " why can my why heart let you love me so. "
True person excellent program, she says: " I am a mom, I am a middleaged woman, do not have self-confidence very much really. Am I met after all what ah? "
Ground of take pity on of beautiful of the Song Dynasty says: " you did not love yourself. "
Tear of small S instant dies.
Fuluoyide is in " restrain, symptom and angst " book middle finger goes out, all angst originate conflict.
There is the heavy burden of a lot of on the body of middleaged mom, consider child of faultlessly give attention to two or morethings, marriage, career very much.
The failure of any one party can experience serious blow, feel oneself are trashy, feel oneself are undeserved by love.
Want to had done everything desperately, it is nevertheless want desperately to confirm oneself are useful, valuable, want to be approbated and love.
Inner longing and explicit expression formed conflict, conflict was brought again between all sorts of issues that mind, it is too difficult to do not break down.
The film " bad mom " in, amy says leading lady:
" mine is to send children to go to school daily.
Normally, I should hurried back hastily the school, receive class of the performance on the child, poetry to read class and extracurricular to coach class.
Next I still must go parent committee attends a meeting, when the volunteer, classmaster talks about meeting.
I can break down everyday cry greatly, cried to be returned so that send the child to go Lian Gangqin, play football, learn dance, see a doctor... "
She is in charge of children nervously, not dare a bit is loosened.
She faithfullies carry out the duty the ground works, eat even lunch before computer.
Her greatest dream is quiet eat a breakfast, but she must go up merely everyday,handle all issues appropriate.
Cannot think of, such, be late always still, still divorced, still be not understood by the child.
When encountering a series of stupid shit one of these day, she breaks down eventually, just realize, never had taken good care of oneself.
After must doing all things very faultlessly as her, ability dare have breakfast quietly.
Middleaged mom always thinks everything give attention to two or morethings is gotten very good hind, will care oneself again.
Actually, we should love ourselves first, just may have done everything.
04
" strange flower says " in, ma Weiwei leaves the say when arena:
" before entering the court, I asked a person to decide a bottle of red wine. Come 4 this years, I am changed ceaselessly to cater to everybody's taste, then, I broke down. Today is my confess speech, go his network is violent, go his victory or defeat is defeated win. Good, I should drink my red wine now. "
Not when the mood is accumulated when breaking down, will love oneself again.
The psychology that does not give oneself imposes so much heavy burden.
When must working, not compunctious, return the home to give the child best company quality, the child also is met well.
Return the home, did not want to work, enjoy and the child is together, see child laugh child be troubled by, if light is dormant at the same time. The day won't collapse come down.
Of household chaotic, be in charge of it, live in rubbish dump to also won't die. Rest well first.
Now and then be at ease the child to old person belt, loosen bubble hot bath, go out to run a pace, get together with boudoir honey, date with old pact. The child also won't be taken bad.
Lie between era to foster, of dissident what, listened to stop, the smile is not responded to, the thing also passed.
Child result is bad ah, work laggard ah of what, compared with child health living, also appear so not important.
The friend says, in learning, a mom appears on the stage to share, say:
" what I feel I am done is not quite good, not be a good mom. "
The teacher replies:
" what your child needs is not a good mom, what he needs is one need not the mom that he worries about. "
Sun Lidong gets this sense, so she goes fitness, go planting dish, she is placed to oneself receive a theatrical work every year at most, be in and children together when, she is to play to the top of one's bent more, play than children hey.
She not angst ground raises the child, pay no attention to the eye of others, even if 800 800 times the ground urges the child to wash one's hands, even if may be said by netizens " urgent education is not good education " , she also experts to be written just into small gain greatly.
She is enjoying red-letter day of life fine insignificant to the top of one's bent, enjoy very long a theatrical work that just takes, enjoy and the child is together, enjoy and Deng Chao each other is black.
Someone says, because she is lucky,that is, happy.
Actually, be in early old before, she has told in interviewing:
" I am quite doting oneself. Sometimes, I can say with oneself: Are you tired? Tired did not go. Very favorite really oneself. "
One dotes on oneself person, the meeting is easier be bestowed favor on, encounter get better more easily to carry.
Be agreed with first because of her and admitted oneself, the view of her heart was reflexed come out, also affect the person is right beside the move oneself view. She also is known do not see oneself with outside eye.
Wish each middleaged mom, can be in oneself rhythm, enjoy the life.
Can be in every instantly, love oneself well.
If, true mood keep long in stock arrives do not hold to, also write down so that give oneself 5 seconds please, choose with harming the means of oneself and child, delighted ground abreacts.
After that, you still are best you. After breaking down, you also can Nie renascence.
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