Recently, "Spell great stuff Wang Mou to release video message to say in network platform formerly, because see a fellow worker,be carried to go up ambulance I am spelled great discharge. " be related mounts hot search.
But say according to spelling great response: Via inquiring this employee is faceless hair post content is full of undesirable " extreme opinion on public affairs " .
Such as: "Want the content in A to flow ban firm a bit " , "The raise of ashes of the dead of Pdd pole hare " wait.
Ministry of resource of company labor power grinds sentence this employee afore-mentioned opinion on public affairs disobey employee manual badly, and likely its extreme mood can cause not knowable menace to other work in the same placing, the decision removes with its labor contract.
And should work in the same place to often also spit groove at ordinary times office environment, work overtime care of much, employee is inadequate wait for a problem.
Wang Mou's deed follows actually the masses eating melon of those unidentified truths is very similar beside us.
But eating melon eat him easily really.
A lot of moment are unengaged originally.
But the look that when having always busybody likes to travelling, add inflammatory details to attracts others.
Although say " the job that does not have difficulty lays a worker bravely only. Although say " the job that does not have difficulty lays a worker bravely only..
But groove is spat when the job is tired actually not affect the whole also. But need the influence below the attention.
Think company system is unreasonable, what is bad, result by discharge dispatch exposure, this kind " not reconciled to " test and verify he still is hated to part with actually those who leave.
So, the place with unreasonable discovery why frame-up face advise, instead is rearward faceless hair post?
Nonviolent do not communicate, solution drops the issue anything but, can solve oneself only.
Not come singly but in pairs, before two many months, also produced a similar issue in Tsinghua university.
An art is 19 schoolgirls in dining room doorway loiter of satchel of younger brother be learninged by arrived.
Schoolgirl suspicion learns younger brother to feel him buttock secretly, loud reprimand his sex is annoyed.
Learn younger brother to be from card innocence, take out student's identification card to indicate the capacity instantly, put forward solemnly to be able to check monitoring.
However the schoolgirl is in however the other side did not want with respect to threaten before tone takes monitoring to confirm its fact " the organized body is dead " , had exposure in the channel such as friend circle.
But ending appeared to invert, monitoring shows, the schoolboy did not take petty gain of the other side.
When be regrettablly late already, want to invite opposite party originally " the organized body is dead " the foot that moves a stone to break his however as a result, be exploded finally by the net.
This shows, "Force is not communicated " also not be the method that solves a problem.
Dr. Marshall Lusenbao is in American psychologist his " nonviolent communicate " very good answer gave out in one book.
The doctor opposes force, because become it with cruel make cruel when it is be expert at it seems that be apt to, but be apt to is brief. What what it produces is probable however it is newspaper of loss loss photograph when evil.
The supreme dot that we always are used to standing in morality goes judge other, and in fact, moral more uses self-discipline, is not to force others.
Perhaps we do not think our conversational means is violent, but the anguish that our language often causes oneself and another person really.
When we should punish others, might as well ask " the thing that I hope what kind of reason he is based on to do me to want him to do? " , can discover those who achieve our goal to penalty is very difficult actually.
So, dr. Marshall put forward " nonviolent communicate " means of this kind of communication.
Respecting " nonviolent communicate " , everybody thinks of the ethical hero mahatma gandhi on historical textbook very easily.
Gandhi holds to the truth and nonviolent doctrine, view love and penitentiary, with spirit motion replaced armed insurrection to revolt. He is used tenacious and castiron spirit and munificent included mind, touched complete India people finally, in participating in the accuse and denounce at a meeting that defends seat of government of British breed civil administration in succession, come, shook of government office of British breed civil administration oppressive and regnant, for from the back Indian nation laid a foundation independently.
And of Dr. Marshall put forward this kind " nonviolent communicate " what have different in approach but equally satisfactory in result is clever, particular branch is 4 measure.
It is emersion observation above all. What him observation sees, those who hear, memory thinks of whether conduce to or say helpless the specific action at oneself.
Because a thing gives a person to stick label directly,we always are used to, did not understand the word that you say for instance, you say others wriggles.
The person hears negative opinion the first reaction is refute or strike back.
Ask directly actually: Didn't I just say be clear about or didn't you a moment ago listen clear? The effect will be better.
Philosopher of India of no less than overcomes Lixina Mu Ticeng is said: Do not take the observation of the evaluation, it is the highest form of human intelligence.
Again conversion is experienced. To just bilateral behavior, him heart perhaps has the feeling with a few intuitionistic what on the body. The other side can have what kind of feeling again.
The germ of most violent conflict is in what ignore each other at people to experience with need, and ascribe conflict to the other side.
Occasionally we and parents communicate difficulty, because acting channel exists between us,not be. Because nobody goes,experience however mutual the mood between.
We often the reason of scamper wool is pa Mom often says, you are willfully make a trouble!
Why is to ask you are met such? You feel very grievance, afflictive?
Seek bilateral demand next. Thinking is what kind of viewpoint of value or demand (preference of and rather than or some kind of specific action) bring about oneself to be able to have in that way feeling. What is the other side to be based on to just be met so do?
All indignant core are demand was not satisfied actually.
Our everybody has to expect to others, once this expects to come to nothing, our mood also is met subsequently low.
Very much young lovers quarrels to be done not have really actually necessary, straight male always be blamed: You did not know me really, always wait for me to speak out to just give me, I did not want.
But you do not speak out, true nobody knows what you want. Be not understood to be normal.
If somebody always knows what to thinking in your heart, that is not a delectable thing, that is a dread.
Connect parents, the object always can not know your demand certainly, how can you ask someone else is familiar with you more again?
Accordingly, criticize the lapse of the other side unendingly with its, be inferior to experting the demand that speaks oneself, such the other side just satisfy your desire more easily.
Finally is to put forward a request. Put forward your request clear and specificly, and do not command.
Any command words can inspire opposite party immediately " go against turn over psychology " , like to be being forced without the person do some thing.
This are reflected in him home most lifelike, parents hurries with you the more... you give me immediately... this kind of mood handles we when, originally we think working apiration is dropped by fritter away immediately.
But if at that time grandfather grandma comes over help sb to get over his worries: Grandfather grandma ability to walk is no-go, you can help me do... we can be done very gladly.
So, should put forward a request and not be a requirement, people can stem from contribution and accept happily.
Sum up finally, nonviolent communicate the fact that speaks you to observe namely actually, convey your feeling again, show your need, put forward oneself request to the other side finally.
Convey oneself, listen respectfully other, understand each other, reach consensus finally.
