Bao Yuming sex invades minor foster daughter: She is fallen into since 14 years old " have presiden

I excused him, because of such my ability subsist. You cannot excuse him, because ability of so other girl lives,go down.

-- Lin Yi is contained " first love Eden of Fang Saiqi "

Scar sparks early-warning

The article includes case sex to invade detail, if you had experienced sexual enroach on, the article may be caused unwell reach psychological scar to break out, the circumstance that asks him basis pauses or stop to read.

Last year " appear on the market the gender approachs company president 9 years old female child case " do not have open a court session up to now, act indecently towards female child the suspect still is outside the law.

Last night, south wind window reported first more the news of be astonished person.

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From news caption we had gotten tremendous information content: Applying the person that kill is " president " , also be a victim at the same time " father " , and the victim is a minor girl.

Current, case still " in be being investigated " . This " president father " Bao Yuming already resigned the post of two companies, by dismiss of university of southwest politics and law. And he is to the newest response of the case " be very fond of by every means to her, her requite kindness with enmity " , claim " its it is a long story " .

Thing really " it is a long story " . We are united in wedlock today with all possible means the detail that agency provides, discuss this picket sex to approach a case in detail with everybody.

The nightmare of star: Fall into " have father only " the world

-- more terrible than the rape, it is the acquaintance rape of influence imparity

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Know Bao Yuming, to the mom of Li Xing star, the likelihood is to recombine the choice with best family; But everybody does not expect, to firm full Li Xing star of 14 years old (alias) , this is the order order of nightmare.

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According to the information that discloses at present, this case is suspected of acquaintance rape. It brings the victim's harm, rape unlike what come from stranger fewer. The person brings to bear on to oneself beside trust originally sexual enroach on, this meeting brings tremendous acknowledge to the victim maladjusted, cause severe mental disease even.

And face alone " father " Li Xing star, still be faced with the most substaintial oppressive -- ascendancy sex is invaded.

More and more investigator and clinical worker point out, substantial, the gender is encroached is to result from the person that violate yearns for to what control and control. Turn into the victim through sexual force the object of influence, the influence of the person that make violate thereby be able to put to good use.

Bao Yuming denies he and star " foster father daughter concerns " , but undeniable is, itself of different of equal difference of the age of he and victim, sexual distinction, social class formed the imparity of influence.

The enroach on that concern of this kind of power brings about often more than, however long-term, and as a result of the influence is not quits relation between both sides, the victim refuses hard and escape this kind of relation.

Ascendancy sex is invaded can bring far-reaching negative effect to the victim, they are very difficult clear understanding and the border between these parts, promiscuous " harm " with " love " the relation between. Be opposite especially for minor Li Xing star, she is kept apart by Bao Yuming the connection with the outside, call the police not if really, let her more fear and baffle.

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In this cannot awake nightmare that is as long as 3 years many, li Xing star is in a few support company that provide law and psychological support, wrote down " the posthumous papers of life " , recorded oneself experience.

Li Xing star commits suicide for many times abortive, be diagnosed to suffer from spend again depressed disease, heavy after spending scar, should stimulate (PTSD) , spend angst disease again. The gender invades a victim more than it is the body got harm, their ego also becomes ambiguous and broken.

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Finkelhor and Browne put forward scar of sexual enroach on to may give a victim effect of 4 kinds of when stay negative psychology, these influences may be long-term and far-reaching. Li Xing star experienced these struggling bitterly:

1.The sex that scar turns experiences: The victim feeling to the gender and manner, confused in the process that is violated by the gender. Ta may produce regret of confused, bemused, ashamed and ashamed move to the gender.

2.Ego opprobrium changes: The society exists to the victim a kind " perfect victim " hypothesis. Once the victim does not accord with this kind of hypothesis, can be considered as freewill, of ask for it.

And receive them when the victim " bad, feculent, humiliating, ask for it " information, with respect to the status that can affect their ego self-identity feels.

Li Xing star is in " the posthumous papers of life " in write: "She became herself it seems that most the appearance of disgusting without a single redeeming feature... the moment that she also would rather not be willing to exchange side side with his body to death is quiet, but he always says to her you are already dirty, leave me you are the clean least of all child on this world! Leave me you are the clean least of all child on this world!!

3.Betray: The victim discovers the person of their place rely on is suspect, cannot protect them to bring harm to them even. This kind of blow feels to the victim's accredit and be deadly for safe feeling.

4.Weak feeling: Those who feel oneself is frail it is a lot of victims last old, cannot cast off experience.

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Know a law to avoid the brute of the law

-- why can be they invaded to children executive sex

After press, a lot of people think Bao Yuming is to love child addiction, the information that we leak from insider is pleasant to the eye to be loved to his child the tendency is shown in every respect without involuntary discharge of urine.

(we arranged about " love child addiction " popular science. Pay close attention to public date, tiring-room reply keyword [the gender is invaded] can extract)

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Love besides what attention applies him person that kill child the tendency, we need to see children sex invades this crime fact more.

But make a person the finest think of extremely those who fear is, him Bao Yuming ever had released " go whoring Su Younv " article of legal popular science. And he chooses to be in Li Xing star is firm full 14 years old when executive sex is invaded, on legal level, do not form a gender to invade young child.

Children sex is invaded is one serious, the problem that exists generally, there is very big effect in the respect such as clinical, society, morality and law. It exploits through the sex to children, bring contented sense to adult, include sexual intercourse, rape, expose, the addiction that peep excessive.

Be in the United States only, can every year 100 thousand is annoy to the children of 500 thousand by the gender. But, the person that kill is applied in what children sex invades in the center, love child addiction to occupy 25%~50% probably, because love,a lot of people that leave are not child and carried out sexual enroach on to children.

That is to say, the motive of enroach on of executive children sex, because love,the likelihood is child, but mix very likely also right young child sexual desire does not have correlation. Current, be aimed at the motive that children sex invades, learned comparing reason of reliable a case of a physically strong patient running a high fever or suffering from such disorders as stasis of blood exclusively is " acknowledge is screwy " .

Bao Yuming has the idea of a lot of twist on cognitive level, include:

1.The child that did not refuse wants a sex namely; See star is seeing cartoon, bao Yuming asks she likes to be fond of Yang Yang, want and be fond of Yang Yang " do the sort of thing " .

2.This is a kind of good method that undertakes to the child the gender is taught; Bao Yuming tells star, "Wear the dress to sleep insalubrious " ; Take star to see minor pornography piece, tell her " everybody is so do " .

3.The relation between adult and child can become because of the gender closer. Bao Yuming forbids star to say " be pressed to be on the bed by father " , should say " you like father, father also likes you " .

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Carry the cognitive kind of this kind of twist, bao Yuming also invaded behavior to find for his sex it seems that " accord with reason " reason. This is why his logic looks such from be in harmony, also do not feel oneself idea has any problems.

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And Bao Yuming engrafts these screwy acknowledge Li Xing star, conversely farther aggravate the imparity that both influence concerns.

1.Does the gender invade a victim to want how is repair traumatic?

Li Xing star is in the process that appeal, her scar not only did not get very good rehabilitate, still encountered larger block. The police that confronts dereliction of duty sets an example clutch neck, still be arranged with apply coexist of the person that kill one room.

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The American scholar Judith Herman that studies the gender is mistreated is in " scar and rehabilitate " measure of 5 traumatic rehabilitate offerred in one book, this invades a victim to look to the gender not only, supportive person should offer to see to the victim more in giving a society originally:

A. Stable: Find a safe environment, your amid feels set one's mind at, no longer be in a state of anxiety, at the same time this environment can help you satisfy basic life requirement.

B. Recount: To you trustful friend or remedial division are recounted (or write) oneself scar, the attempt admits him in facing traumatic process, understanding traumatic happening is not his fault, and scar is OK by repair. Suggest to have professional public figure in this process accompany (for instance psychology seeks advice from project of division, company to wait) , avoid to cause harm 2 times.

C. Change: From him change in recounting traumatic process the memory means to scar, tell about manner change to be " oneself overcame so much " , experience oneself the force in repair process.

D. Build: Establish the trustful move that oneself concern to differring afresh, attempt little seeks safe sense afresh.

E. Reconcile: Attempt and oneself, also reconcile with the scar in the past, the attempt should not do scar him identity to agree with the most important one part. Find oneself mission feeling and sense sense again.

2.How can we protect minor?

The miserable experience of Li Xing star aroused the anger of a lot of people, some netizens pointed to spearhead her mother, think strange mother did not protect his daughter good. But we also can see, 2 people of mother and daughter these year will make a lot of effort, waiting a favourable turn in despair at present.

And we can not try hard, permeate the concept that children sex protects in education namely. The school should undertake reasonable and sexual education of the system, help child builds correct acknowledge, prevent to suffer enroach on. Besides, parents is bear is emphasized more allow.

* teachs child sex protection, parents needs to accomplish these:

1.Teach the child the knowledge about their body

In children inchoate, parents can teach the child the name of genital, tell them, resemble other body place same, all organs have his name.

But make clear to them even a bit, without the person the right feels their body, in the meantime, they also do not have the right of body of someone else of lay a finger on. Parents wants church child to protect his privacy, also respect the privacy of someone else at the same time.

2.Chat with the child everyday, let the child know parents can be relied on

Want to let the child know, they can discuss everything with parents, no matter this thing is good bad still, interesting insipid still. Give the child enough safe sense, make friend with the child, letting the child know father and mother is reliable and authentic.

Such, even if has thing happening, the child also can have courage to be recounted with parents, and the parent also can be in take action for a short while, make harm the least change.

3.Do not let the child act alone in insecure field region

The child serves as socially weak force group, parent agree carries a responsibility that serves as guardian, do not let the place with one of individual insecure discrepancy as far as possible.

Once the gender invades incident happening, ask what certain and careful listen respectfully treats the child seriously to pour out. In addition, contact police, lawyer and psychotherapy division even in time, assist the child and parents to walk out of scar.

Finally, we hope everybody is OK transmit this article, phonate for children, make more parents, young division, teacher and professional personage OK read it. Wish some day, we can worry about fear for the child's safety no longer, wish how is each child Dou Nengping brought up.