Civil | Yi Wen
? Young associate says to dare not chat with me with me recently, reason is to feel I am fiercer, dare be not linked so. Anyhow, she gives a person namely special not self-confident feeling.
Before this follow me very picture. I also am actually such, when chatting with those fiercer than oneself people, also meet often cerebrum a blank, originally a lot of things want to say, but to face easy hair is muddled when field, hesitate in speech what says not clear.
Everybody is actually about the same, can have not self-confident level. But ego acknowledge ability of the person is can mutual fictile normally. If a person is in the condition that does not have self-confidence all the time, become very hard fierce quickly. Because not self-confident result is: Whats dare be done, dare not make a decision, dare not assume responsibility.
It is before me, no matter do what thing to want to ask a leader, let a leader affirm. Saying is careful, be afraid of a fault namely actually, be afraid of assume responsibility.
How to do?
1, above all the most important is acknowledge of heavy model ego. The force of openly autosuggestion is very powerful, the force of negative autosuggestion is more powerful.
Do not believe the person that oneself can become fierce, can be immersed in a kind of weird condition: Look very hard, actual also very hard, but progress namely very slow, and prepare to abandon at any time. If you want to become what kind of person, must believe oneself can become such person blindly, had better be to pretend first oneself had become such person.
This kind of cognitive meeting makes you do a few businesses that match with good standing, become thereby more and more accord with good standing.
2, do not be afraid of a fault, not too sensitive.
Pay close attention to oneself progress more, is not expression.
Too the expression that cares about oneself is typical " phenotype character " , this kind of state of mind special effect progresses. Although pretend oneself are very fierce, but still do not have after all very fierce really, this moment wants can quiet acceptance to return bad fact, the word of the father's younger brother that use a cat is taking Bug to go ahead namely, tell oneself everything relies on to accumulate.
When having, the possibility that I can do a few faults intentionally even is very large but the issue with not large influence, this kind of little exercise can make me rapid desensitization.
3, the success matter in recording the life more. Actually everybody has a lot of to be worth a record, can bring the issue that achievement feels to oneself, because did not notice smooth past,do not pass, be taken care painstakingly and record the achievement event in the life, even if very little movement, also can change the acknowledge to oneself slowly.
4, should do a business additionally namely ceaselessly. Had better be to be able to make event of a few milepost, let others see his gain. Affirmative meeting is more and more self-confident after having a lot of positive result.
Life does not cease, do a thing more than.
Agile and brave who is a cat?
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