" Dou Ting is good " big final result is the closest metaphor: Real life, not be blame is black na

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Before paragraph time, heat sows drama " Dou Ting is good " receive big final result:

The Su Dajiang that makes a day make the land got old age gawkish, made no longer eventually.

Ceng Yi spends Mom treasure to arrive hate letting a person extremely Su Mingcheng matures gradually, and there was a favourable turn on the job.

Was gotten by the Ming Yu of Home Su oversight father is broken all the time wisdom the love after, to take care of father, she resigned oneself most passion job.

Su Dajiang reads aloud reach 2 sons Su Mingcheng to pass the most miserably, left legacy entirely bright into.

A lot of audiences express dissatisfaction to this ending, the suffering that thinks Ming Yu suffers is most, the scar in the heart is the biggest, should take maximum bequest.

And Su Dajiang cannot be taken care of by Ming Yuyi's individual solely, should 3 children by turns, make the same score booth solatium, ming Yu ought not to be this abdication more.

Also somebody thinks, what Ming Yu is short of is not money, kiss affection however, loved all father to give her after Su Dajiang sicken, ming Yu very enjoy this Duan Shiguang, also got oneself want.

No matter be why to be planted,unscramble, " Dou Ting is good " ending is not the end-all on lay meaning, bright into went finally Africa, zhu Li also did not resume marriage with him; The heavy burden that takes care of father falls on body of Ming Yuyi's individual.

Ending is faulty, but the metaphor that spoke a life however: Dye-in-the-wood perfect this nonexistent, real life, not be blame is black namely white.

We most the final result that often sees in drama of movie and TV is: Turning over die tragicly of put the blame on sb is disastrous defeat, and decent went up too without an other place the life of happy happiness.

playwrite people like such final result, because the person likes to hear a story,be, when the predicament height that becomes the story in drama and us is similar, experience the worry like also having move and us to others, this meeting brings a kind to set his mind at to feel and be agreed with to the audience feeling.

And happy ending can bring us such confidence normally: Want us to be done like the part in the story in that way only, we also can get same final result.

However, although such story is moving, do not have too much real significance however, because real life is medium, hellion often may not can get bad end, good person also may not always has good cable.

Even on this world, "Good person " and " hellion " between, do not have specific limits originally.

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Liu Yong ever had mentioned a paragraph of such experience that take a taxi about oneself:

Handle affairs to the other place, because will arrive suddenly first, do not know a way, he takes a taxi with respect to the choice after next planes, ask about local case with the driver.

Driver besides introduce for him, still expressed many individual view, two people photograph talks very joyous.

After reaching destination, 180 yuan show on car watch.

Result, the driver cities wall to Liu hand one brandish, forthright ground says: "To 100 good! "To 100 good!!

Liu Yong did not think more, gave 200 yuan, jump down a car to say: "How is that become? Need not search. Need not search..

The edge goes, he still hears driver rearward to thank again and again.

Do come to an end, liu Yong takes a taxi again an airport.

Reached the airport, the number that Liu Yong is staring at mileometer to go up " 120 yuan " , find both funny and annoying.

Although his discovery and a driver talk congenially, be being identified in talk process however is foreign visitor, then by intended forgive road.

Result, calculate on fee, the driver wanted 80 yuan more fully.

But, think again carefully, liu Yong answers recall driver to ever put forward actively: "Give 100 good " .

If press this to act accordingly, is that driver deficient instead?

Because talk congenially,be probably, some are compunctious in driver heart, ability can think through yielding benefit 20 yuan serve as compensation.

So you feel, the driver in this story is good person, be still hellion?

Advisory division Wu Zhigong is in " the life that had you to say to calculate " a problem mentions in one book:

His answer is: Cannot.

Because of these simple principles, once be regarded as " correct " , that can form n duality to oppose, produce " wrong " thing. And the cut that this meeting brings about pair of human nature, hamper finally to human nature become aware know, and of block up human nature satisfactory.

The implicit meaning of this paragraph of word is actually, the world is not blame is black namely white n duality is contrary, everybody is put in human nature the one side of greedy, selfishness and warmth.

When you are not careful, "Hellion " it is cheap to may occupy you, and had friendship with him when you, he may be paid for you again.

A lot of people in the life, it is so bad not bad person.

Con gentleman is in the vocabulary entry of lifelong growing dictionary " 45: Gray scale " in say: The world is full of complexity, major person and thing, not be " blame is black namely white " , have however different " gray scale " , good person will be maleficent, hellion also can do a good work.

Want to get satisfactory happiness alive, must realise the complexity of the world, the society is good-tempered.

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Accomplish good-tempered, society in all affection is among them the most important one step.

Because be passed only in all affection, we just can build the bridge that is linked together between the person that has to follow us to differ so it seems that with those.

Just also can be close to those want the person that turns originally, because from them cloddish, pure perhaps, foolish perhaps in light of, we still think they follow us is not congener person.

In all affection can remind us, on other body evil, the likelihood also has in the heart of ourselves.

This kind of abasement acknowledge and to ourselves shadow admit, can let our heart put good-tempered.

Resemble " I am not medical god " in, that wants the gumshoe Cao Bin that arrests smuggler of pilfer edition drug stoutly at first, below enormous pressure, detained one big bill to buy the leukaemia person of pilfer edition medicine.

Before one second still exhausts in outfit firm all sorts of methods want to cover an useful information, after one second and old grandma speak after, make him thoroughly softhearted.

Old grandma spoke his difficulties that one is reluctant to mention, one " I do not think dead, I think living " the heart that prickled him deeply.

He right now, pass in all what affection experienced the weak is helpless, abandon actively finding out then, abandon oneself once thinking should importunate thing, changed feelings to silently the weak.

Again for instance " Dou Ting is good " medium Su Mingcheng, although was done a lot of egoistic the thing that does not rely on chart, but be very fond of to wife Zhu Li however have add; In give Su Dajiang live out one's life in retirement on this thing, also allow the one side that the person saw he is tender.

Su Dajiang is dingy, do not love to bathe, have on the body flavour, scratchy also anyway does not bathe.

Su Mingcheng is fooling is to persuade, still taking him to wash sauna finally, also do not have a manner toughly fierce father.

A lot of people say, su Ming is the part with a changeful dissension:

From time to time is clever and sensible, force of from time to time is cruel; From time to time is filial and considerate, photograph of evil language of from time to time to; From time to time moves to expert, narrow-minded of from time to time is miserly; Reach the clouds of lofty ideal of from time to time, from time to time is decadent and inactive; From time to time resembles a child euqally babyish, from time to time resembles a man same warm blood...

Know his growing environment when you, the perspective look upon that stands in him his doing, can know, his babyish incapacity and secure in the knowledge that one has strong backing, mix actually when doting cent of the mother does not leave.

After the mother dies, su Mingcheng lost a big backer suddenly, when the setback in the life comes over to him, he wards off blows hard, because he is essential,cannot grow between one night rise.

Understood these, you can understand the Su Mingcheng in real life people, is not to use animosity and negative disposition mood to defy with them.

Pass in all affection, the eye that uses another person goes seeing their experience, the life there is good reason for it of reasonable other people, excusable, ability is passed " gray scale " processing, get along with this world peace.

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Good-tempered, it is the manner that we handle gray scale.

Had gray faintly to take, our ability is open-minded conduct oneself in society, is not at every turn truer.

We should understand, not be everybody dispute is evil namely be apt to, lie for the most part both between " gray region " in, with good-tempered wake up each other kind-hearted one side, the meeting is more more effective than making reprisals with ill will.

Resemble be opposite from center of media person Lin Wan " Dou Ting is good " this triliteral explanation: Human nature also is done not have perfect, black and white have, black and white the gray region among has more. As long as finally, white much blacker-than-black, good with respect to Dou Ting.

Bit more good-tempered, you can discover the time passes more easily.