17 duty field does not have cold force, it is you think too much
A: Small beauty, went to new company, how to feel?
B: Hey, not up to much, the feeling is very bad...
A: Why can you appear this kind of circumstance?
B: I feel I am to was encountered " duty field cold force " .
A: Cold force? What is called " duty field cold force " ?
B: It is I feel I was isolated, work in the same placing have some in the light of me...
Small beauty is a gentle, lovely girl. But she suspects she got depressed disease always recently. After she of strong before finish school enters duty field, discover the faction in the branch is numerous.
Single work in the same placing have his circle, everybody issued a class is not Hu Peng calls out friendly ground to play " werewolf is killed " (game) , it is egg on all sorts of meal bureaus meet. Perhaps go because of viewpoint of value " buy buy buy " circle, " the sister is encircled " ; Because common interest goes,perhaps arrive one case namely again " K song is encircled " " sports is encircled " etc.
Small beautiful natural disposition is undemonstrative, belong to slow heat model. To these circle also disinclination. Often arrive so when eating lunch, she always is form shadow sheet. Work in the same placing chat fervently, she also is not inserted on word. And a few girls that are the same as a group, having may be to discover small happiness is bullied, always work with excuse busy swing work to small beauty with the name of directive new employee. Although very loath, small beauty still was done every time.
Once small beauty did not arrange her intention, she is combined other a few schoolgirls isolate together she. When noon break, they have all the time say to have laugh, wait for small beauty to push the door, stop abruptly. And that girl that head and little beautiful speech are more enigmatic, attack by innuendo. Lose of feeling of small beautiful equipment and sad.
Small beauty feels to want to had done his work only originally, those who had guarded oneself is microcosmic good, let oneself do not mind these businesses hard.
But at this moment boss finds small beauty, say she is too dissocial, with everybody be in harmony is less than; The weekly that hands in every week in the job does not have new idea, just finish the job. Politely wants small him beauty to leave one's post.
Couldn't help crying eventually here: "I do not know him err what, encounter come from their so terrible cold force, be because am I good, bully? Be because am I good, bully??
Small beauty really very grievance, I also feel sad for her. Can you cause doesn't herself of this kind of situation have a bit responsibility now? Is the heat energy that is herself not enough also?
Some people just took a company, wishing is everybody is contacted actively with oneself. But we should know a fact: Resemble playing game in one's childhood same, the family is originally those who play well a group of person, you just are that individual that joins temporarily. Should be yourself creates chance actively to join them so.
Some people say he are introvert, do not do to others euqally self-invited ripe. But introversion the person has an advantage: Their observation capability is stronger. If you are apropos,be an indrawn person so, after entering a new company, to avoid to be isolated, you can observe carefully, search it is volubility, better to look in a group the person of communication.
Here must remind, avoid to search to perhaps compare you to enter the young associate of the company late still into the company together with you as far as possible. They may look and you are same very good communicating, but you want to know: The target here is to want to pass this individual to open a phase, blend in a company, is you seek the person with a little still situation that understands than you to deviate from your target?
After certain choice of persons, you can create an opportunity: When having a meal midday for example, whether can be the inquiry used together with him eat. Work overtime in the evening can go back together with him, the work that chats one day on the road is day-to-day.
Wanting you only is more straight-out with others communication, believe people won't refuse you at a draught. After all everybody does not want to be with the person enemy. This person can become you blend in a cut of the group, through him you can open a phase in the company gradually, end the state with Gu one-way shadow.
The company of little beautiful place has all sorts of circle, she can choose completely to join a circle, slowly be familiar with with everybody rise, is not with oneself it is slow hot disposition, disinclination is excuse and alone come-and-go.
After all, since chose to join a company, explain your distant view target to the company still compares self-identity, everybody is to achieve a goal and collect a flock of people that rise, it is a system. What you should do is to blend in everybody of course, do a business together, a person acts independently to be changed too easily by systematic margin.
Besides blend in everybody, we still need to notice a bit: Dedicated at the thing, the word says continuously.
Occasionally, when we did not experience the kindness that comes from the other side, we are immersed in very easily " he has an opinion to me, where do I displease him recently " in waiting for these idea. Begin so " run problem " , you pay close attention to not be its itself any more, in was immersed in a mood however, was kidnapped by the game regulation of the other side.
In the eye of duty field person that matures in, think in his brain should be how to do right thing and correct ground to work from beginning to end, it is with ultimate goal oriented, is not to pester at the meaning not big or essential insignificant link, toss the object after all heads.
When small beauty is receiving arrival to give her work from colleague a place of strategic importance for the first time, she should evaluate this thing to whether exceed her working category, whether to meet what him influence works next begin. If yes, speak oneself think of a way directly.
We are on-the-job in field, wanting to want how to solve a problem, exercise the ability of essence of him join problem. Always do not go with the perspective of cold force look upon problem.
If discover the relation has bit of problem between the colleague, hiding assist to wear. The word says continuously, openness communication. Such meetings save too much communication cost; The temperamental and amiable field that and can have a kind of others gradually experiences very easily: Magnanimous, open and upright, let a person have safe feeling.
Dedicated at the thing, the word says continuously is the course that lifetime of person of all duty field wants to repair refine. Finally, I share a little secret with everybody again: We should learn with a question of more interesting angle look upon.
Some people are particularly sensitive. If greet sb with the other side, others does not have a response. Perhaps help please temporarily, the other side did not agree. Because the other side before 3 months has a meal please,that is thinking all day long is, oneself do not have the cause of AA.
Request, everybody's world just is not to circling you to turn. Is because parted company with the girlfriend last night,how you know the other side, the flood perhaps is troubled by in the home and secretly is the god hurt?
Do not want a fellow worker now and then undesirable mood regards as is to be aimed at his. Additional on the world so eventful affection, the do not having with some true significances is so important. We are not impassable with oneself, the key is to should make his comfortable.
A friend ever had shared a personal experience with me, relation of she and oneself little one's mother's sister is very good. Once relatives and friends meets, little one's mother's sister is absent.
Her cousin begins to laughing to say at that time: "Little one's mother's sister oh, encircle the thing that brushs those preserve one's health in the friend everyday. " friend very say questioningly: "Do not have, I did not see little one's mother's sister brushs what thing. " the friend circle that then everybody begins to take skill machine to nod little one's mother's sister, everybody can see the state of little one's mother's sister, have her only the whats there cannot see. She by screen of little one's mother's sister.
The atmosphere at that time is sweet juice awkwardness really, everybody tries to alleviate atmosphere. The little one's mother's sister that says her may be not careful, also not be intended, look for her to ask next time ask about a bottom how to return a responsibility.
I this friend says to did not feel awkward however at that time, instead feels to touch. She knows little one's mother's sister and him be on speaking terms, and oneself are right the thing disinclination of those preserve one's health, pay close attention to art and aesthetic very much this one. She feels small aunt screen she is the attention natural resources that wants to save her.
I listen to feeling at that time very deep, be, same a thing, two kinds of completely different perspectives.
Below a lot of circumstances, of duty field " cold force " it is party thinks too much only just. For the person of new to entering company, not overmuch ground " conjecture " the idea of others, calculate you not to control your to want " conjecture " , the think of a way that can make oneself completely also comfortable with another kind comes, is not the full of remorse in the part that puts his in the victim.
So between the job, what method do we still have to you can prevent our to want too much? That depends on us retaining what kind of state of mind.
State of mind is people the view to the thing and understanding, it is inner idea, it is a kind of steady thinking pattern. What kind of state of mind is deciding you to have what kind of view to the thing, and the action that this kind of view is deciding you directly. One department kind behavior combination rises is one the individual's life, it is one the individual's destiny.
I am being ground iron works in the same place from time to tome, the name calls Bai Ding. He is one 90 hind, age is not old. But in all product managers, his outstanding achievement is best, popularity is very good also. His successful recipe is, maintain certain space and distance with everybody. This kind is smoked from, it is a kind of good state of mind, because not be everybody,can praise in sober ground get away is accomplished in sound and go out.
Ailixi Fuluomu once had become psychologist a such famous psychology experiments. In the room that he is taking a flock of learning that do not have the lamp to natively, let students queue up ordinal had taken a difficult path. After waiting for a student to be passed entirely, he turned on the lamp. Below faint light, students see a chasm is actually below the difficult path that they a moment ago had taken, there is a tremendous boa constrictor inside. Students expressed fear and anger, and curl up with cold is in a side of the room.
At this moment Fuluomu asks: "Now, are you still willing to had walked along this bridge again? " you treat everybody I, I see you, do not make a sound. Crossed moment, eventually 3 students stood hesitantly. Among them a student goes up, carefully move is worn double foot, rate is a lot of times slower than first time; Another student walks gingerlily on small Mu Qiao, the body can'ts help ground shakily, just take an in part, couldn't stand; Flat stoop body comes to the 3rd student, bent over to climb the past on little bridge slowly.
Fuluomu cashed award, opened a bright light again next. At this moment students just look clear, there still is a piece of safety net below original single-plank bridge, a moment ago just did not see. This piece of invisible safety net, it is our state of mind. In our life, when can a lot of take difficult path. Whether cross the bridge smoothly, depend on state of mind how.
When a lot of difficulty that face life, flatter oneself analyses detail extremely clearly, consider extremely complete, instead can be frightened by difficulty; It is the person that those do not have a difficulty to see well completely, more can precipitant. That is to say, if can all sorts of interference all round oversight, ability is absorption the route that takes good life.
Ceng Guofan is be worthy of the name " under one person, over 10 thousand people " . But he is built high without self-reliant result from beginning to end advocate, scrupulous with each passing day instead. There is a pair of couplet before his door: Gingerly, hell does not forget when be born namely; Magnanimous, although Yi Chang day conceives adversity. Be this kind of cautious attitude, protect him to make the same score An Moyu all one's life, also made his generation illustrious name, initiated ever the family name is familial brilliant.
Sima Liaotai man is in " Home De Chuan health " in one book, also expressed similar point of view. He thinks, be Home De Chuan health the state of mind that bear and stabilizes, just let him be able to initiate a period that belongs to him.
In life this competition ground, if say the adversary of first half is all sorts of difficulty and challenge, so arrived the second half, your enemy remained him only. How should adjust state of mind, face future, this is a problem. Defeated oneself when you, it is better to was become oneself, got satisfactory life.
