The first year when become Mom, always think the child selects nice area greatly again.
However, when greeting the child the 2nd year when grow eventually, you discover hard time just just begins however!
At this moment the child, although still be on constitution small do not nod, but all over up and down however boundless force comes " do sth over and over again " close Mom: Catch a meal with the hand, throw a thing, grab a thing... true part " Goth " appearance!
Let you must plaint, the child is hole woman natively, where is the hole dad of come to an agreement or understanding? ?
Actually, how cannot these check " bad habit " , what what do not think like us is bad in that way, the nature that grows however is behaved, beyond the mark check is bad instead.
1
Love throws a thing, do not want a canal!
The child is concerning in the space that explores an object
The child always likes to throw a thing in disorder, toy, remote controller, alarm clock... take a few minutes are less than to begin all sorts of is bungled on the hand, fall, throw, in the home everywhere farfetched. This ability helps him collect come back, "Whiz " be thrown again. You are enraged so that think name-calling, he however one face laughs innocently to you.
This kind of behavior looks be like it is certain to have " destroy force " , but cannot put an end to.
To the child, throwing a thing is a new work. They look at the athletic contrail of these things can enchantedly.
If because,these things are met " throw " this movement and broken, sound, perhaps boil to farther place, the child is met more curious, throw the action of the thing through relapsing, will think after all why to be met such.
If father mother again and again helps,bow pick up, the child can feel this thing is very interesting more. In addition, the child still can be passed throw away, mobile object, will feel the impact between he and object space.
Receive brittle, dangerous thing, can prepare the toy of a few not easy attaint such as group of case of a paper, cloth or small rubber ball, with child match, toward the cast in the case, who to see be cast more definitely. After this kind of demand gets satisfaction, child nature is met slowly Buddhist monastic discipline is dropped " throw a thing " habit.
2
Love rips paper, do not want a canal!
The canal is too much prevent the child to become clever namely
Still many children like to rip paper, this kind " can crumb the thing forcibly " play is real too amused!
However full house is shredded paper bits, what force painstakingly is mom! Follow at the back of child buttock to clear away, you can be enraged absolutely mad!
But, why this " bad habit " cannot also be in charge of?
Rip paper to be able to exercise the delicate act of child hand ministry. The child returns surprisingly discovery, two hands that want him only exert oneself to do sth. toward different way, paper can be torn apart, honest too magical.
Home of a Confucian school of idealist philosophy of the Song and Ming Dynasties of this unfaithful intentions thinks, the hand is the 2nd cerebra of the child, when his hand is moving, cerebrum also is thinking at the same time. If mom always prevents this kind of action of the child, prevented the child namely actually think.
Give the child a few paper that can rip, if a few pieces do the paper with only handkerchief paper, different surface roughness, contented child rips the desire of paper. Also can guide the child to develop imagination, rip a different figure.
Notice those who avoid newspaper and so on to contain paper of printing ink black-and-white, because this kind of paper contains not little lead normally, adverse to health. Additionally the edge cannot play to the child along too sharp paper, at the same time the attention values the child, lest happen,swallow by accident.
3
Like smooth foot, do not want a canal!
You cannot think of among them advantage really
A lot of mom discover, the child always is not willing to wear a shoe to wear socks well, no matter how you remind, he likes smooth foot, top comes bump goes.
And a few still cannot the little baby that oneself take off a sock, even if can lie on the bed only, also wanted hard to to step on the sock ability stops, is this why?
Be to say " cold rise from the foot " ? Why to say the child likes smooth foot to should not be in charge of?
Already science studies a proof, child smooth foot walks, can promote exciting and thenar nerve ending receptor, return the state that can allow the child to feel the territory well, position of base area side adjusts pace, walk the pose is more decorous also.
Connect morning sun of factory of Japanese famous shoe (ASAHI) stylist people think, 0-10 year old child sufficient an old unit of length for measuring land has not been formed, when walking best light foot, wear a shoe to just protect thaw to prevent crural suffer injury for the child.
When weather is hotter, can let the child walk in foot of the light in the home. Of course premise is the floor in the home should be cleaned clean, the acerb article of foot of stamp foot, press or rub against also should clear, can put on to the child when necessary thin prevent slippery socks thinly.
4
Catch a meal with the hand, do not want a canal!
The child just is learning how to have a meal
The child has a meal is the nightmare of a lot of mom, the green vegetables that looks at the child to taking a greasily is being gnawed, little hand fat dirty, rice is scattered one ground is, become Mom see whole person is bad!
But, the expert suggests this " bad habit " also not be in charge of!
1-3 year old it is child learning has a meal independently " key period " , go to with the hand when him child send in the mouth those who eat, you see should glad ability is right.
Encourage him child to eat, can increase the interest that the child has a meal independently not only, still can exercise child hand eye to coordinate the grab ability of ability and little hand, still can add self-confident heart of the child and achievement touch at the same time.
As to be done very dirtily everywhere, we should understand this is very regular job, must not feel he is intended do sth over and over again you.
Prepare independent eat chair to the child, give him a few ladle and bowl more, food also can be filled less a few, strung bib, let him put flying ego to eat at will. Anyhow, clearing away is certain, but prepare these, your clear away limits to also narrow.
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Do not love to share, do not want a canal!
Protect the matter right consciousness of good child please
Probably you still can trouble this problem, the child likes to say more and more " my " , the thing does not let a person touch, the toy also rejects to share, resemble a small piquet like guarding the thing that belongs to oneself.
Meet even the toy to protect oneself, does skill hit person, loot... how is the child met so selfish?
Be to say " is sharing a kind of goodness " ? ought not to this also is in charge of?
Actually, do not misunderstand your home child. He is not really " selfish " , just " ego " in grow.
A year old ago, darling meets oneself and a mom identification are individual, feel gradually when him " I " existence, can distinguish through having the thing that belongs to oneself oneself and other.
Force the child to share, can destroy the child to be being formed only " matter right consciousness " , later he may be very easy allow oneself thing to others, often perhaps can pass " loot " the thing that kind goes taking others.
Do not denounce the child's action, also do not force them to share, satisfy his desire more, can help him build compose ego.
Generally speaking, the child can know this notion that share slowly after 3 years old. Right now, we can engraft with the child more the sense that share, make the child clear share do not be equal to lose, sharing the toy that go out still can want to come back.
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Love dabble, do not want a canal!
The pleasure that the child gets from which is too much
Be brought up as the child, you can discover his anhydrous is not joyous, like to carrying you on the back to open faucet secretly, when bathing, keep plumping with both hands paddle, there is water cup when drinking water...
Great majority mom feels, should check child dabble, does otherwise the child catch a cold accordingly catch a cold how to do?
Water is in the child's eye, it is the thing with the most mystical nature: Can flow, go catching it with the hand, it however stealthily from point to to in seaming, escape; Still can let a toy float above, the thing that also can allow heavy is heavy in benthic...
The child is in the process of dabble, return the form that can feel different temperature, different material. Hearing, touch, vision got the stimulation of different level. Water has play a way endlessly, far can give out a kind of sound than those, perhaps press the toy that jumps much more interesting.
If worry about the child catch a cold or it is he wets the house, that arranges dabble game actively to the child, if go out,hit game of squirt, bathtub to wait, let the child be in your controallable the dabble inside limits, the destruction that reduces him force!
Remember playing water hind to wipe body and hair in time to the child, change clean clothes with respect to OK.
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Dauby graffito, do not want a canal!
You should feel happy the child has this interest
Mom returns meeting discovery, there is a pen in wanting child hand only, he can believe hand doodle, be in charge of it is a wall go up, on the ground, or on antependium, entirely is paid no attention to, merely to the top of one's bent brandish asperses the pen in the hand.
And mom sees full room " outside astral article " hind important criminal is difficult, hold the post of by move child scribble graffito?
The child loves doodle, explain his imagination is rich, start work capability is strong. Must not think the child is graffito nevertheless.
Actually an a triangle, circle, it is the birdie in their eye, car, small castle probably, it is father mother even, it is these imaginations only you may not have legal principle to solve at all.
If gruffly prevents this kind of action of the child, can let the child do not wish to draw gradually, still some children can be mixed intentionally parents is done right, leave oneself on the wall " your work " , arouse parental fury.
Do not want to prevent, but can tell the child " you go up in paper or draw on palette, mom will be happier " ; It is OK to still can change paintbrush can change paintbrush bath is easy perhaps the dye of erasure, in the child " creation " hind clean in time clean; Or, flat one is affixed on the metope in the home enough big blackboard paster (a kind very the wall paper that resembles blackboard) , the picture of contented child draws demand.
Cannot prevent really, that relaxes the heart lets the child draw! Where is the which family that there is a child's without a few dirty wall?
Wait for the child to be brought up again nodded, set the range that can draw to the child again, gradually Buddhist monastic discipline drops the habit that makes a picture on the wall.
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Love thing, do not want a canal!
Pacifying content is the child's closest good friend
Some mom still can discover oneself darling has " the tendency that love thing " , this object may be towel of toy of cloth with soft nap of a wool, small quilt, Xiaomao, even a dress.
Especially before the child sleeps, these dot appear particularly important, can not cry muddy sky is silently the ground, how to fool use without giving thought to!
This is " strange phenomenon " ? Should otherwise is in charge of?
Darling is right the tendency of article attaching, be not " the addiction that love thing " , it is the complement of safe feeling, excitement of and rather than feels, because this is not equal at " the addiction that love thing " .
The conciliatory thing that allows the child and oneself painstakingly is detached, meet the child bring rife angst and uneasiness, can sleep badly in the evening for instance, can become special even love cries, love gets angry etc.
Respect the child dependence to pacifying content, want to give the child the company of high quality more at the same time. Pacify the existence of content, of last-minute delegate is parental care and safe feeling.
In addition, parents can take a heart more at ordinary times, discover the thing that the child is interested in, be replaced next with them according to conciliatory content, divert the child's attention slowly, the child won't is opposite an article too attaching.
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Tear open a thing in disorder, do not want a canal!
Creativity of child much place is meddlesome
Two years old or so, the child returns meeting development to give a kind " new mastery of a skill or technique " , that likes the article such as the remote controller in the toy oneself, home to ravel namely, look inside what to have after all.
Tragic is, the child is in charge of tearing open only, do not be in charge of installing, see the small broken part of full ground, which become Mom still can calm?
Love tears open the child of the thing, curiosity is very normally strong, action force is very powerful also, in addition this kind of child works to also have patience quite commonly, attention also more concentration.
And because spell outfit toy to need head, hand, look,cooperate, of the child start work ability and harmonious ability also can rise greatly.
Can offer to the child a few can spell outfit, disassembled toy, if can spell outfit car, building blocks, insert model to wait, satisfy them " destroy desire " .
If the child tore open some toy, still can guide the child to be assembled together, cooperate with division of labour with the child. This pair of his observation, cognitive ability and exploration interest very beneficial.
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