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" Dou Ting is good " receive an official.
The discharge that harvested huge amount and gigantic tall attention is spent!
Also left a lot of reflection to us.
Broadcast in this drama in the process, the discussion that concerns about husband and wife often bully screen:
Revive mother Zhao Meilan, did not see Su Dajiang when the person all the time. Hit to his blame all the day scold namely, scold his good-for-nothing easily; Pardonable Su Dajiang is scolded by Ming Yu, "You are a good-for-nothing, you such person should not have the child " when, can point to Ming Yu to cry: Zhao Meilan! Revive after the mother is dead, su Dajiang makes the conduct of bewitching later, revive the mother has cannot the responsibility of shirk. Make a contrast, it is later that baby-sitter of Su Dajiang. Why after that baby-sitter arrived, su Dajiang makes evil spirit no longer. If revive the mother can resemble that baby-sitter same. Regard Su Dajiang as in light of a husband. Give him enough respect. Such he does not feel what he passes to resemble a dog. I believe him later also won't because excitement is excessive, reflection arc grows too and bring about look for trouble bewitching, was to married a vicious woman to destroy 3 generation really. Far more than 3 generation? ! Evaluate Su Mingcheng: Cannot marry Mom treasure male! "Su Mingzhe and wife quarrel, sentence sentence it is the opposite teaching material that husband and wife gets along " . . . . . .Someone says, " Dou Ting is good " besides viewing rate, other " quite bad " , because, have too much anger, hold back Qu He is helpless, all these, because of the hero in drama a kind of relation was not handled good, that is " husband and wife concerns " !
Professor Ceng Shijiang tells us, the concern with the mainest life is spouse concern. Person and person whether be in well, whether harmonious, we put in it 's charge the root arrives of the couple get along on.
Everybody can think well: Why be begin from father and son, begin from the couple however?
Because had spouse concern, just can produce father and son, mother child relation, spouse concern is the beginning of all relations, spouse concern part is bad, other concern very difficulty is good.
Alleged, not be a family, do not take one door, took this door, it is a family, the family is about to have the look of the family.
The family has kin mostly between each other, not be father and son, father daughter, it is a mother child, mother and daughter, otherwise is brotherly sister, but sleep beside oneself, it is exclusive however a person that does not have kin -- spouse. Say those who have kin to should be at ease quite ability is right, but we carry to do not have kin only live together, do you say clever? This tells us, if you can do not have the word that the person of kin has gotten along with this, whole home is neat.
Somebody can ask, happy paradigmatic family, didn't husband and wife quarrel? Not be of course. Husband and wife does not have what do not quarrel almost, between husband and wife now and then quarrelling is very normal, but, not was necessary very much more, also can avoid; Because, the problem that a lot of moment are footing causes.
The person's position is different, the feeling is met not identical. A lot of things are this appearance, between husband and wife if use oneself footing to conclude the other side, everybody can have the resentment of skinful. Stranger is, husband and wife often can make a noise because of a word rise.
We will see a case, may understand more clearly.
A gentleman just stepped into a door, the madam tells him hastily: "It is very important to have 3 telephone calls, you are answered to the family at once. " the gentleman listened, of one face grouchy: "I busied daylong, cannot let me be made a bit rest to say again? " the wife sees the gentleman reacts so, feel one time well-intentioned to be misunderstood instead, also be skinful unpleasantness: "I had said with you, otherwise should answer yourself to look at do, be like me eventful and same, actually I just am disinclined to be in charge of. Good for you, see your look even, I am to invite ridicule rebuff really! I am to invite ridicule rebuff really!!
Gentleman anger is greater: "You always should let me take a rest, does at least drink saliva? Do not meditate oneself, still will blame me. " " I still have a lot of things to want to do, be afraid of in case the important matter that forgot to delay you, this ability tells you immediately, you remove me to come quite unexpectedly. " " you are one caboodle thing, am I one caboodle thing? " " you did a lot of businesses, I welcome you in the doorway even... " have discovery, it is the thing of a word originally, pull more more however from the back.
Had done not have a few days, similar case appeared again. Had last lesson, this time the madam remembered, come down 3 phones record to be put to the desk, the gentleman comes back a word also did not say. The gentleman takes off next business suit, pick off cravat, sat a little while, see the phone on the table is recorded suddenly, stamp with fury directly: "So important telephone call, you do not tell me actually, do you follow what to different there is in the home in the home? " madam more grievance: "You this man was served too hard also, tell you kindly, you are grouchy; Do not tell you, your anger is greater. Is I look for you blind really eye... " the fault that who this is? Do not know the fault that how communicates namely.
Clever madam knows the telephone call is very important, have to tell a sir, but tell him directly, he can get angry again, how does that do? Very simple, the madam gets ready to heat up towel together, the demur after the gentleman takes the door does not say, give hot towel first go up. The gentleman can ask: "What thing is there? " because do not have hot towel at all usually, there is such salary today, it is to have a thing necessarily.
The wife must say: "Thing of it doesn't matter. " gentleman more did not believe: "How can you do not have a thing? You say. " the madam still does not tell him: "You are tired today a day, wait for you to take a rest to say again. " the gentleman waits not as good as: "Unit thing is little today, I am not tired, you say rapidly. " next the madam tells him again: "Here has 3 telephone calls, need you to make a round trip... " can you still quarrel so?
Here considers this story respecting more satisfactory.
But, this kind of setting, appeared almost unlikelily in contemporary family. Is this why? Because, two people are going to work now, the wife waits for Li Bangxian is in the home almost unlikelily to be born remember a telephone call.
But, quarrelling avoid very hard.
Is this why? Because, two people, very busy, very tired! Go back to holding the etc. rising to the mouth of skinful, return the home to be about to come out it, teem of two pails of bitter water comes is what picture, everybody can develop an imagination. This says, I became tired a day, return the home, connect a hot meal be unable to get something to eat, it is unreasonable really. That says, who is tired a day? With respect to you tired, does the family deserve to have bad luck?
Wars of such a family, began.
Investigate its reason, discover not hard, it is husband and wife cooperated to give an issue.
After marrying, both sides of husband and wife is due a family divides the work. It is a person normally advocate outside, assume the weighty responsibility that establishs course of study to raise the home. Another person advocate inside, it is good housekeeping arrange that with one one's heart endeavors, decrease advocate outside the trouble back at home of that individual. Previously husband and wife two people, one is advocate, one is from. Principal and subordinate is a kind of subject relation, so we should be changed today, " principal and subordinate " become " advocate companion " : One is done advocate, a company. Marriage is accompanied namely actually additional half, those who take life is itinerary.
So husband and wife after all who is done advocate, who is accompanied?
Before talking about this problem, we become problem of a choice first: If let you perform the film, is you like to be returned when leading role costar? If my word, I like to become costar. When going to see a movie next time, the intention observes, it is leading role is taking a beating, costar looks aside. Leading role does not take even bowl side, every time the bowl since one aspect of the matter comes, the thing searchs come to come, only costar eats smooth and steadily. Life is have to ability goes becoming protagonist, if can be become costar, go becoming as far as possible costar, this is called from leave some leeway. The affliction of a lot of people must become protagonist namely, do not be willing to become costar, painstaking finally lifetime.
Husband and wife is the most essential is to cooperate, if cannot cooperate, cannot divide the work reasonable. We advocate the husband of thing the reason outside the family to appear personally normally, so that the wife can set his mind at,manage children of housework, breeding. Must " male advocate outside, female advocate inside " ? Actually marital arrange housekeeping, the wife is hit spell a career, also have not cannot. The premise that husband and wife divides the work is to cooperate, want to be able to stand in the footing that cooperate only, undertake dividing the work for the basis with the interest of family person, be coordinated adequately and reach consensus, as to specific how to arrange, it is good that two him people are measured. Everybody should value their option, cannot work in order to ask two people should go out already, also can not set certain person to must defend the home. But must a person is attached most importance to with the family, such ability calculate pair of families to one is explained.
The family is happy namely automatical.
