To teaching the child this topic may have a variety of his views as parents, anyhow education hopes oneself child can stand out, should compare oneself at least strong. But reality is medium however things go contrary to one's wishes, you hope the more cannot get the more, you hope the child is gone to east, he unluckily westerly, do a thing to be being turned over with you unluckily, how is letting you do not know this temporarily good, homiletic this one child is early inaudible go, also cannot understand quite, in " add An Xianwen " in put forward " Yan Fu gives a dutiful son, loving mother is defeated more " , that is to say is right the ten million on child education cannot " be irresolute when firmness is needed " . But become your child to archness " Ka Ka Ka " when assault, face a family to be mixed to your criticize and denounce sb even expeditionary.
Average nowadays household has a child only, can saying to the child is to hold in both hands be afraid of in the hand flew, contain in the mouth to be afraid of changed, corporeal respect with respect to prep let alone, want child mouth only, think method to also want to satisfy the child. Such since with respect to nurturance child only me alone honour the disposition of small Xiang Yu the Conqueror, once him short of the requirement cries the person that be troubled by bluff, lie on the ground to make a scene roll about, more some child exit are bad language, to this kind of circumstance I think to hit or be necessary. The child must let one lets him feel in a home " fear " person, otherwise blindly bullshit of indulgent child monkey business, dot does not know awe-stricken, form when disposition after entering a society, what be in an unfavorable situation finally still is the child.
The girl relatively the boy wants a few more obedient, piquant to those boy wants those who hit not to make principle mistake also do not suggest to start work only, alleged principle mistake points to name-calling namely, say the quality conduct such as bad language is taught, waiting for behavior to destroying toy, furniture, mobile phone, computer may be the curiosity that stems from the child just, this kind of circumstance had better be not to start work hit. The child makes serious mistake, for example child plays with fire, play the thing such as socket to involve security, homiletic not be of use, real energy of life hits the child urgently also is the method that does not have method, actually, a lot of parents see the look that the child fears and subdues after hitting the child also is very feel distressed, but, jade not carve won'ts do implement, sapling is not repaired do not sneak away continuously, for the child must want move real in the future.
The child is in 5 years old before start work educational effect is not apparent, basically be the child cannot remember, hit today will forget tomorrow. And since want to hit, hit with respect to need painful, otherwise the child thinks you follow him sportive, do not care at all. And, when parental one party teachs the child, other one party had better not be interfered, a lot of moment can appear this kind of circumstance: Father teachs the child with hit way, mom or the ancestors be partial to such as grandmother, the child was not taught good, parents was hit first. Actually, parents uses hit way to teach the child general also won't true go to dead in hit the child, skill still has weight sense of property, the person that lays child ten million to cannot let ancestors knows, otherwise, they can follow you really desperately.
Naughty boy is very rare had not endured those who hit, although some children are hit also can not correct an error certainly, it is so called " write down eat to be not written down dozen " . Common saying says " the dutiful son gives below bludgeon " , although have very much controversy to this word, actually, this just is a kind of way that teachs children, it is simpler and crude just. Ultimate goal also is for the child can learn from good examples, avoid the disposition with bad nurturance, bring about be in an unfavorable situation in the society in the future. Do father and mother should know: How the child is capricious in the home OK, arrived outside others but won't what thing can self-surrender and good-tempered.
The environment that the child contacts now relatively father generation people produced a change, dot is met normally carefully watch what sb is doing and saying, also meet bully the weak and fear the strong, be in doting before oneself person arrogant and wilful and overbearing, meet before the person that fears in oneself let darlingly do what to do. Nowadays, the dot of every family is in the home medium place is unassailable, the anybody with if the child is right medium home is done not have awe-stricken, this is not what favour to the child, dot does not have the concept of make a clear distinction between right and wrong, do father and mother cannot do not have, so, to naughty child, below the circumstance of effect of homiletic and basic that's all right, hit or be necessary, otherwise, somebody can replace you to teach in the future.
