In the times of angst, over- not the life of angst. Hello, I am Lin Zi.
When first time of the very much person that call in seeks advice, can say: "Do not hide the truth from you to say, I had read a lot of psychological books, I know the truth, can not do namely. Can not do namely..
This word, your scarcely is unfamiliar. And do not do merely, still not be the paineddest; Of real get into trouble letting a person, be " know " too much and the action did not catch up with. Buddhism has a noun to be called " what know barrier " , of summary very incisive. What know the means with original barrier, associated to the depend on sb or sth for existence between the essential truth of the world, moving law and everythings on earth place knows to be not worth, block up the development of ego character and perfect. Later, fall in the light of heat learning Buddha, a lot of people pay attention to knowledge to accumulate only and lack the phenomenon that builds practice really, great mind of a few dignitary knows place barrier extend the meaning to give a meaning: "What know at one of too much, obstacle not random. " here those who know to point to is to know knowledge, and do not have wisdom.
From psychological angle for, know too much truth, likelihood is caused exceed me too strong, this I am depressed, so the ego in the center lives so that compare dissension, knowing and doing to be united very hard. Say like big the daily life of a family " whats know, still live bad this life however. " what know because of a lot of people is knowledge and truth only, did not catch up with however in brains level, heart alive, resemble once I am done to Microsoft tall canal groom, a HR at that time is in charge of tastily summary to say: "Fitness seeing a person does not reduce weight. " the truth is others, the life is him, want live well, the load one's writing with fancy phrases that does not depend on knowledge and truth, and the growth that depends on wisdom.
It is in light of me, effective psychology seeks advice, the help that relies on knowledge only the insufficient, company that still needs to have wisdom. So, the advisory Shi Heyi of headquarters of Shanghai of Lin Zi orgnaization is versed in people, successive 10 years, can head for Suzhou every year on the west garden temple, with Buddhist monastic discipline the aid of Buddhism institute group rabbi and other masters speak, everybody every time Dou Xinsheng jubilates, I am called this activity " the brigade that the promotion of intelligence of animals of advisory division and heart purify " .
Aid group rabbi is China tries Buddhism and psychology the earliest to be united in wedlock, a when undertake consider and be carryinged out wisdom person. Speak of the distinction of knowledge and wisdom, he says: "Knowledge makes a person complex, wisdom makes a person pure. " I have the same feeling greatly, so the person that metropolis reply calls in says every time: "Can put down book first, psychology seeks advice unreasonable, just help syncretic of your knowing and doing, and the act that understands oneself, who is knowing yourself actually, than denying it know who you should be is his behavior, more important to know who you should be. Than denying it know who you should be is his behavior, more important to know who you should be..
Author of dark cropland therapeutics Sen Tianzheng horse, also advocate stage is treated in the first absolutely lie in bed period " do-nothing " , do not allow to read any books; The 2nd stage is small exercise period " it is less " , can recite in the morning, but can read only " ancient thing is written down " etc. It seems that, the study that knowledge reduces below specific situation can let what know very little, actually, gave us the chance of essence of real knowledge life however. Resemble there are 10 lights in the house, if do not open them, the house is dark still; If have a light only, even if be crisp oil lamp, should illume only it, the house also can shine.
Mr. Na Huaijin once was summed up say, modern learned buddhist to learn " pet phrase " , the clear and logical that says on the mouth, but the fact that leaves life is further and further however. Actually, those who tell also is knowing and doing cannot the problem of syncretic.
Syncretic of knowing and doing, it is the last point of view that the king Yang Mingxin that we should learn this week learns.
The relation that know and goes, it is the important research content of culture of scholar of the Song Dynasty and a Confucian school of idealist philosophy of the Song and Ming Dynasties of bright red Cheng all the time, what basically discuss is moral knowledge and the concern issue that morality carries out. It is difficult that somebody thinks to know easy travel, understanding theory is easy, practice is very difficult, somebody thinks to know difficult travel easy, it is very difficult to comprehend a truth, practice is very easy. King Yang Ming thinks, it is very important to understand a reason, it is very important also to be applied actually. Want to realize ego of great and great ambition, implementation, must have accord with actual, hardheaded method. " the collection that conduct review " in right " syncretic of knowing and doing " did complete elaborate, carelessness is to say, know and be two respects of a thing all right, can understand from a few respects:
The first, noumenon of knowing and doing
In the philosophy of king Yang Ming, know to point to knowledge and truth not only, also point to the consciousness such as consciousness, idea and subjective form. And " row " the meaning is more broad extensive, point to all explicit behavior of the person already, also include psychological activity of the person and appearance. Know, included will surely go, call knowing and doing noumenon so. E.g. , thirsty drink water, hungry have a meal, body and mind is unified and complete, this is syncretic of the simplest knowing and doing.
The 2nd, genuine knowledge is thought namely row, be no good can't call know
Means says, the person of true awareness, regular meeting learns place what to realize Fu Zhu to carry out, and of those real without experience operations, can not be called true consciousness and comprehend. That is to say, see a person do not know, not be to listen to him to say how to think, see him how be done however, for instance filial parents. Know and be no good, it is sealed only.
The 3rd, knowing is of travel only then, it is all right know into
King Yang Ming thinks, knowing is the beginning of travel, it is all right know finish, know to must come true through going. Know to be a condition with travel each other, both not be contrary, also not be independent, early or late or the relation that cut apart, cannot depart however. Read aloud move, go namely begin. That is to say: When thought rises, eradicate at any time be apt to of evil idea, reservation reads aloud. There is be apt to to read aloud in the heart, must want " row " come out, put into effect, just calculate " do good works " .
I prefer to use Buddhism concept " case enchanted read aloud " the syncretic of knowing and doing that will understand a heart to learn, because " heart " and " read aloud " be if knowing, " case " and " move " go namely. In the meantime, it is in light of me, the heart learns li of place to say " be apt to " also be close to Buddhism place to say more " knowledge of be apt to " in the concept of be apt to, those who point to is to have wisdom, is moral sense not just. Resemble in front be said, if 10 lamps are the word of 10 morality standard, know their existence and can not enlighten our lifetime, had only illume their wisdom and action, ability drive is dim.
Song Daili learns a Zhu Xi to think, the something in human nature was violated providential, so good cause is " put providential, destroy person desire " , however, if what knew to disobey human nature, resemble exceeding me to be opposite this my depression, the place of ego is not done all right, can bring about knowing and doing to break away from only finally, not be to become dissembler, suffer from possibly on neurosis.
King Yang Mingxin learns to think, "The conscience of my hearts, namely alleged and providential also. Those who send my hearts conscience is providential at everything matter, criterion everything thing other people all gets his to manage. " means, providential with the person not be about to be contrary, know and arise all right at the heart, the heart manages namely, and " send conscience " the wisdom that taking pair of thing true colors namely is conscious, let syncretic of knowing and doing. Be like, become aware oneself blame reason belief, not be to want " destroy person desire " , see well however after person desire, adjust them do not harm oneself, do not hurt the other, position that does not hurt the world in, achieve next know the unity with travel, heart and body.
For instance, to " sleep in a person of extraordinary powers only curtilage in I just calculate happiness " be not rational belief, what we should do is the desire that sees his, decide according to actual condition and oneself ability next: It is to continue to try hard to this target, still be eclectic, amend belief for " in the house that sleeps in oneself to buy very happy " , perhaps discover " it sleep where is OK to sleep where happy " , put down completely then. Wh whichever decision, right without absolutely stand or fall wrong, want to be able to let syncretic of him knowing and doing only, have happy possibility.
With respect to the Sadiya that before resembling us, has learned the family treats theory medium " consistency " , have the high quality life of wisdom, it is heart body consistent, the outside and the inside inside and outside is consistent, consistent.
American psychologist Lawrence? Basilaodi goes out " the acknowledge that have a body " concept, also can regard " syncretic of knowing and doing " psychology application. Providing what body acknowledge points to is physiology there is intense connection between experience and mentation, physiology experiences " activation " psychological feeling, conversely same also. The reaction of the body and movement can become the memory of the body, the psychology that affects us reacts and choose to judge, for instance, everybody may hear of the suspension bridge test that pass: Same a young woman, the road end that stands in evenness and station are shaking will shake the suspension bridge end that go, the odds that the men that meet unexpectedly with her his mind disturbed for her is different, the reason is, the person that has taken suspension bridge is more nervous, adrenalin is secreted the conference is bigger, and these physiology react and " one's mind disturbed " physiology reaction is very similar, so men can think by accident, it is this girl attracted me.
Syncretic of knowing and doing, not be to perform others to look, let oneself live more comfortably however. These year, I put more energy in the union that teachs psychology and nature above, one of reasons, resemble " forest last child " what Love says the author: "Children the knowledge about nature is increasing, the contact with nature is less and less however. " such knowing and doing is detached, bring about increasing child and adult to suffer from went up " be short of naturally break disease " , and I want to do, it is to accompany more person heart to be in together, syncretic of knowing and doing, be born together with everythings on earth better be born not to cease, include you.
Class of Lin Zi psychology, we see next time.
