The marriage of a lot of people is unfortunate, it is painful, but, they do not have the anguish to end their, obtain oneself happiness and go hard truly.
Painful may not is ask for it, but certainly oneself contend for fetch happiness.
A woman, marry with husband 20 old, relationship of husband and wife is good all the time, but the Laogong a few years ago is off the rails, off the rails the husband after is right woman without any consideration, the manner is very clear, "I won't divorce for a third party, but I also won't end this paragraph of relationship, you can pass too, cannot cross us to divorce " .
The woman does not wish to divorce of course, follow husband bad news next a lot of years, the relation aggravation of two people arrives to had canned say nothing, one conversation quarrels, quarrel the man leaves home go looking for a third party.
Is this woman painful? Very painful of course. But, face anguish, she did not lose a responsibility to come for her happiness truly.
If an off the rails person does not wish to turn round, so your choice has two only actually, or treats marriage as collaboration concerns, put down this individual, do not count on feeling; Or is flat divorce, have been to the life that oneself want.
But, a lot of people do not choose these two, they aux would rather the choice goes down continuously in such painful marriage, expect next this marriage and feeling are abrupt one day can bring the dying back to life.
National People's Congress has a common fault without exception, peaceful optional choose has been in susceptive is painful, do not wish to bear to change his and need faced anguish however.
For instance this woman, if choose to divorce, also be a kind of anguish of course, but such anguish is more certain in marriage than bad news more valuable. Why she does not wish to make such choice, although the anguish because of instantly also is painful, but she has been been used to, and the anguish that divorce place should face, she had not tried, do not think so or dare not try.
It is painful, from degree character is same; But from the result character, it is completely different.
Susceptive of her instantly place is painful, do not have value and meaning basically actually, can make oneself painful go up only add painful, suffering is added on suffering; If divorce, so the anguish of the divorce is valuable to oneself with the meaning, at least, can force oneself go becoming independent, adamancy and brave.
When some people face a divorce, can have all sorts of psychogenic disorder, can change a train of thought at that time: When thinking you marry at the outset, if know Ta will be one day off the rails, does your meeting concern fear? Are you painful? Probably your answer is affirmative -- so, now, are these to happen, also do not bear came over?
So, be being sufferred from without what actually cannot bear, normal like person is met impossibly by starved to death truth same. It is a divorce only what is more,the rather that more such thing, what think without you is so terrible. What you worry about and of apprehension all, after divorcing actually, you also suited, also feeling slowly is a problem.
Of course, even if is such, why some people still do not wish to divorce, because marriage still has the share that he needs -- cannot lack the interest that lose even, for instance some women do not have income, they need the man's economy to give. Especially a few women that had been used to character of some kind of life, if divorce,their life quality can drop, they do not wish to accept.
This kind of circumstance, have two choices only, or earn one's own living divorces bravely, or does not complain for economy -- concern happily with money admittedly, but when if be mixed happily,money conflicts, happiness is of course the first; If let oneself for money become painful, live the life that does not have dignity, not strange others gives you money at the same time, trample at the same time oneself dignity.
Final finally, divorce actually not important, important is you should go for your happiness hard -- it is a kind of hardship of course hard, also be a kind of anguish, if you cannot take such pain, have to bear the suffering with not happy marriage, this is the simplest truth.
Very regretful is, a lot of people face marital hardship, be willing to preach only, go penitentiary the other side, bestow favours of hope the other side is good to oneself; And the dependence that goes wishing to quit pair of opposite party, make oneself firm and independent next, because, the process of firm independence, actually special anguish, this painful degree bears more than actually the anguish of marital misfortune.
