On April 17, shanghai Lu Pu Daqiao 17 years old of one teenagers, because mix,contradiction is troubled by between the classmate, bridge death jumps after be being criticized by the mother.
This is the information that makes popular feeling painful first. More those who let person anxious is, this teenager, from get off jump in the process of the bridge, hesitant without a bit. Be less than 5 seconds, a fresh life disappears at this point.
After its happening, a large number of netizens pointed to arrowhead this boy:
Present child how so extreme proper pride is too strong, how to think oneself parents, raise so much in vain year! This is afraid of is the be used to that be bestowed favor on by charming, psychological quality is too poorOpinion on public affairs points to the boy in succession, be like this boy to was not scolded by cop it cop it, like also be being subdued without bellyful.
Have a word so say: Those who collapse a camel, it is last straw forever. Right " 17 years old of teenagers " for, of the mother censuring affirmation is not first time, and the harm to him, already accumulate over a long period, wait for a fuse to be able to be detonated only.
However, for the Chinese family to Mom of wolf of pa of education of be current bludgeon, tiger, do not lack such " 17 years old of teenagers " .
Have how many child, also had stood 17 years old of boys or more very accusing. They, just hide in disappointment, learned to arm oneself. Next, metempsychosis turns into in those days parents, carrying out to oneself child in those days psychological violence of parents.
We also should ask ourselves reversely, as parents, enough to the child's understanding? Communicate can calmly with the child, does the synchronous health that helps child body and psychology grow?
The caricature in a few meters " the fault that my fault is adult " in have so a word. Parental language is violent, be pair of child hearts v/LIT flog. Those who face parents is negative with scold, sensitive child can be in alive from beginning to end " I am very disappointing " in psychological shadow, cannot have the capacity of self-approval, self-abased, low self-esteem arises spontaneously, have how many child, it is lifetime fight in the childhood shadow with oneself.
In the film " perfect stranger " in, have a such classical plots.
Sophia of 17 years old drives the appointment that attends first love male friend, different is, date this the request that she will be faced with male friendly happening to concern.
For any this pair of parents, thunder of day of Yu Qing of as good as, the first reaction rises possibly to the degree that morality tries, brawl, violent rage, scold, the command is full of it is among parents and child, bring about alienation and estrangement finally.
Dan Congming's parents, can communicate equality forever put in the first, sophia's father is done very well.
Meeting in the family when he and friend, in the process, sophia makes a telephone call to father.
Father: Hey, dear, are you not bad? Sophia: Hey, father, I am quite good. Convenient now conversation? Father: Of course, you say. Sophia: I do not know to want how to start to talk, geleigeliao's parents is not in the home, next he calls me... go to his home pass the night... father, are you listening? Father: Hum, next what do you say? Sophia: I do not know, but I want to go... but I did not think of is tonight. If I do not go, he may grouchy. How should be I done?Father's answer shined:
Father first and last very gentle, did not censure a daughter directly, without violent rage, also did not force oneself idea among them, make the same score inspected angle and Sophia to communicate however, give out a proposal that is based on people on one's own side to give birth to experience, remain give she goes deciding, can saying is already tender advisable.
The father that resembles Suo Weiya in that way, with enough understanding and include, ability makes the child free grow a healthy and complete spirit is embryonic, expert to admit oneself self-confidently, when anything crops up not actuation, what face this world downily is good with bad.
Also hope to resemble " 17 years old of teenagers " in that way world is tragic not answer existence, worldly all children, can be treated by tenderness. Have no longer " in those days heart of if it were not for is powerful, died a lot of times " such deep feeling.
Because have,loving, we more want, say slowly, say well.
