Recently, first " the high school student bound president Laoshi " the heat that video caused a netizen is discussed.
In video, teacher and president by adhesive plaster 5 flowers are bound greatly stick on the wall, and the student needs to spend 10 money only, can use an adhesive plaster, but every adhesive plaster can be used only.
Through understanding, so this activity is to give Gao Sanxue unripe garden project raise the wind, also establish at the same time.
The netizen breathes out greatly, this school is very lovely, realized the dream of a lot of students; But also have netizen doubt, what decompression method is bad, does have to take the president and teacher to vent one's anger? Honour division again or want.
Bind the president and teacher this kind of way that rise is proper, our for the moment is not evaluated. But the school took seriously for child decompression this thing, it is very god-given however.
Easy oversight child is in a lot of parents the pressure on school work, because be in adult eye, the child's responsibility reads namely. Then, all sorts of classes of all sorts of take lessons after school, psychology are applied pressure, those who be is to make the child with greater efforts a few more aspirant. Can bear so that live quite as to the child, how do they think, parents may be dropped with respect to can alternative oversight.
Resemble " small take leave of " Caspian Qing Dynasty acts maternal Wen Jie, emphasize with the daughter again and again, check not superior high school, take an examination of not superior university, take an examination of not superior university your person is born with.
My friend says her work in the same placing signed up for Ban Hexing of 56 take lessons after school to the child interesting class, besides have a meal sleep go to school, almost all time are driving a place where people gather for various purposes. Her work in the same placing also feels very helpless, receive every day send the take lessons after school on the child the squad, let themselves feel very whacked. But the child of others home so learn, if oneself child does not learn, lagged behind how to do? Then, this some also won't fall.
Parents is expected to the child's Yan Yan, became the child's pressure entirely almost. Just parents is not clear, those pressure can bring what kind of influence to the child. They know only, studying this issue, ten million cannot let the child drop chain.
We always say to pressure just can have power, but exceeding pressure to the child, meet only 100 kill and do not have one benefit.
To the harm of the bodyWhen facing pressure, want the parent only attentive observation, with respect to the slight change that can discover the child. For instance: Sleep suddenly bad, eat bad, headache, tired etc. These, the body that meets pair of children causes immediate effect, more serious even consequence.
There were a presses last year, a child of 9 years old, in the road that attends class in the classroom, abrupt at the moment one black, " blindness " . Mom takes his flounder several hospitals inspection, discover finally, this is not true blindness, got however " amblyopia of hysteria disease sex " .
Original, because the child's achievement does not calculate,this is too good, face close final, he wants to study a good result very much, pressure is too great bring about. After the doctor was excluding other factor, adorned to him only lens of a pair of zero dioptre, his eyesight restored.
Still be less than child of 10 years old, pressure is such big, the study pressure that examinee, the university entrance exam gives birth to in more canned be imagined.
Measurable angst, can let a person increase efficiency, do the business weller; But exceeding angst, can let a person feel suffocative, nervous, the issue that makes a few extremes even comes.
In last few years, the incident that student of around of the university entrance exam commits suicide we from time to tome hear of. Even look of a few people learns mediumly bully, the choice that also can make such letting that the person is distressed comes, all these is to result from they want to take an examination of too get good result.
Somebody may feel this is the child fight pressure ability is too weak, be opposite not completely actually. Fight controlling capacity is one part element, but parents gave too much pressure, fail again seasonable untangle just is the deadliest.
Of the child that we need to foster fight control capacity, but do not be equal to, be about to let the child bear the pressure that allows a person to break down.
TraitorousReturn some the child, when facing pressure, meeting choice broken jar is broken fall. For instance: Play a mobile phone all the day, read a novel, do not learn namely. Because they feel their study grade is too poor, cannot reach the height that parents expects, the way that learns with this kind of inactive be disgusted with so will undertake revolt.
Of the child growing to resemble is seedling of sapling of one individual plant, the pressure that parents and teacher give is too great, can resembling is a big stone, depress them grow. Result, can bring about the child all force, use in defying with parents and teacher.
Above all, not additional use force to the child, want to be given priority to in order to encourage.
Some parents can emphasize to the child again and again, I am so painstaking so go all out, it is for you. You must read well, take an examination of superior university just not I do disappoint so much. In fact, such psychology is alluded, can let child heart give birth to ashamed regret only, pressure is steep add.
Still some parents like to use compare law or prodding sb into action, incentive child is aspirant. The child that takes others home and oneself child is comparative, it is the common fault that all parents make easily. Just, such practice, can let child heart only more be thwarted, do not have self-confidence more and more.
So, the pressure in the child already below very big case, parents mights as well give priority to in order to encourage, do not bring to bear on to them again additional pressure.
Next, replace high level with reasonable little cause.
Some parents wish the child can one pace reachs the designated position, before be being taken an examination of at a draught a few, meet the child establish higher level so. Actually, exorbitant standard line, can make the person loses confidence more easily.
"OK line (namely target) " the father Sen Chuanyang of psychological training law too man arrives with respect to Ceng Di: The point that psychology trains, it is the achievement move that lets a person can experience telesis constantly, such ability obtain self-approval to feel.
Make the small target that the child can touch, let them experience achievement and joy, another pace raises a requirement, the study of type of such a flight of stairs makes strange process, ability makes the child more recipient.
The 3rd, help child analysis suffers a defeat reason.
Child learning result is bad, the likelihood is carelessness; Also may be knowledge the dot did not learn to appear or other. No matter because,be what, parents mights as well the angle that stands in the child, help him analyse a reason together, is not those who stand high above the masses censure.
Feel when the child the parent is stand in same battle line with him, is not contrary when, they so won't repellent.
The 4th, allow the child to abreact mood.
The mood does not have pair of faults, also need to abreact. With respect to the balloon that aerates ceaselessly like, if did not find a channel that release, the balloon can explode certainly finally.
So, when child for no reason at all gets angry, parents should show sympathy, and think method is dissolved for them. is not to use strong attitude, go squelching them.
Grow, it is a marathon, the match with brief and rather than. Present exam achievement, also cannot represent the child the following life is failure. Proper pressure is need admittedly, but give the child a few drive more those who go up is alimentary, ability lets them go more quickly farther.
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