Did not break down a few times too cry greatly, can't become good Mom

When Mom's person, how incorrect, how be no good? Humanness mother increases a variety of pressure of the outside first, let each novice mom make a round trip in the brim that break down ramshackle.

After Mom, who cries?

The anticipation before becoming Mom arrives when Mom not easy, but the day that I innocent feel again hard however, also can use the settlement with the easy to do wisdom of the life.

Until gave birth to the child really, from feed the first grandma to begin to the child, I begin to discover in raising the child to imagine than me more difficult bitterer.

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Before the child is born 10 days, mom and husband help take care of, although still be met hurry-scurry, but always feel to there is a support in the heart, unapt break down cry greatly.

Husband accompanies maternity leave end to go to work, mom returns old home, night begins a person to look after children. Common husband and mom help change diaper to nurse wash the buttock to fool sleep, still feel to be carried so that live, but when the individual does these, feel really however ability not equal to one's ambition, lose his head constantly, be in a state of utter stupefaction constantly.

The first time after giving birth to the child breaks down cry greatly even if happen below such circumstance.

The child is born the 20th day, icteric still very heavy, bought treat icteric medicine to let the child drink, drink drug for the first time fall fall to be defied to the utmost, drank a sip of begin to cry greatly, remain how also fill does not go in.

I of hurry-scurry am stupefied in air conditioning house was to give all of a sweat, fooling what cry all the time to fall, the time that used near half hour fed her to drink drug.

Drink what she medical still keeps to cry, fool also be no good, shake to also be no good, cry later out of breath, "Wow " one, just drank the drug that go in, the milk that before drinking drug, eats was spat entirely come out, told my a single person, fall fall a suit, that is flashy I erupted, the grievance in the heart, the exhaustion of the body, emerge entirely, also consider again what do not get confinement to cannot cry is consuetudinary, cried greatly.

Cry to brush dirty content to change clothes to darling at the same time at the same time, until fall fall fool sleep tear did not stop.

She sleeps ripe hind, I bend over to be frowzily on the bed in the quilt cry bitterly, the edge cries by the side of vexed, the edge cries to complain by the side of, suspect life suspects marriage, cried very long just slowly calm, probably each novice mom can have such experience, get over goes be being met Yun Danfeng is light, get over goes be being met rain is acquired fine.

Of first time break down cry greatly let me realize, in raising the child to did not imagine so easy, but in also imagining it seems that so difficult, who do have to be able to become Mom inherently, who is to fumble all the way try to come over all the way.

Gave time of child birth at long last, see assured source fall to be brought up every day, the subdues the body exhaustion in the heart vanished completely it seems that.

Fall grownly slowly fall to resemble eating in that way before no longer eat sleep, learned amuse oneself to learn to do a person, face what when sleeping, always keep to cry be troubled by, how to also fool, until cry tired outly ability heavy go off.

Give birth to cry greatly even if such happening to break down.

Gave time of child birth fall, sleep everyday one small conference, when she sleeps I should manage to find time wash the dress, serious Morpheus inadequacy is added diurnal turn even the axis, successive a week, begin to feel the body is light, house leakage slants meet I what connect overcast and rainy catch a cold again, heavy base of connections of one the world is small, eyelid hair is good, arrived to hold assured source in the arms to fall in the evening a bit absentminded.

That day, tired I a day am shutting an eye to fool fall fall sleep, there is her to be able to sleep earlier in the heart, but she that day is unusual do a person, howling do not sleep, holding in the arms also cry, shaking to also cry, groan random dance of chirp hands or feet. Be perturbed unceasingly I am able to bear or endure strength was fooled fool again, but she still not feel grateful, cry alouder instead.

I what giddy head bilges erupted again, throw her on the bed to let her cry, I also bend over to cry on the bed. Do not have a little while, she cries tired, lie was asleep slowly on the bed, and I also calmed slowly come down, I after passing calmly wish to smoke my a big mouth, I follow the infantile plan with a few big months what, her whats do not know ability to be able to cry all the time, I why cannot much dot is patient.

Break down this I what had cried, grew again on the way that becomes Mom a bit, chat with other mom later, just know a lot of people had had such setting, once broke down cry greatly, once arrived to throw darling in the bed to assume office angrily its cry, so we go up in the road that become Mom is grow in dodder along rise.

Raised child 100 days at long last, look at love laugh to love the baby that do, feel painstaking to also be worth.

The child that had thought 100 days is good I of the belt, be hit head broken and bleedingly by brutal reality again, say what gave confinement to cross the child 100 days to save interest with respect to nice area, only has experienced talent knows these words is mention lightly nevertheless have nothing to do of the difficulties comfort.

Gave birth to the child to rise momently then from you in fact, it is at least 3 years old ago you won't save worry, cannot set his mind at to sleep, cannot open wide have a meal

I encircle deep feeling in the friend: "It is too difficult to raise the child, cough a few times to feel the day wanted to collapse " , somebody nods assist somebody to speak, the person gift that can become Mom only understands this kind of mood truly.

Give birth to what cry greatly even if happen when the child falls ill to break down.

After 4 months fall fall to begin have loose bowels suddenly, took a lot of drug bad also, go seeing a doctor saying is indigestion lets come home to take medicine slowly raising.

Although the doctor says to do not have what big question, can become Mom look at child every day in heart of have loose bowels bad to suffer ah.

Insisting to fed her to take drug in the morning that day, fed a grandma again, holding in the arms fooled very long still cry cry, be fallen cry so that the short-tempered in the heart arrives to be no good, but still be able to bear or endure strength is fooled.

Whose expect is fooled more cry more, pulling voice to cry, my Mom is received come over to continue to fool, still do not fool, I extremely angry had been grabbed from my Mom bosom fall fall throw on the bed, my Mom looks so that cannot bear the heart is held in the arms removed her.

That momently my of anger above mouth not choose character, shout is worn want to throw her, manage what my Mom enrages no longer I, fall fall to cry ceaseless outside, I cry ceaseless in house.

Later, look at cry she what spent a face I am softhearted, cry to fool her at the same time at the same time. After she is asleep, I what come down calmly, begin to understand those postpartum and depressed women.

Break down the 3rd times I what cry greatly did not cry how long, after crying very fast calm, combed the gloomy mood in the heart, let oneself go on the way that becomes Mom far one pace.

Actually, break down 3 times the deepest besides memory cry greatly, there still is mood out of control a lot of times during this, and I from original self-condemned became think over ceaselessly, without who inherent meeting becomes Mom, so need not self-condemned, need to be improved slowly only.

In the friend the circle sighs with emotion: "Became the Mom of 5 months, the church of Mom ～ school that resembled becoming 5 years however our mother how great, do not have church however how did we become a great maternal ～ to have child, world outlook of philosophy viewpoint of value, 3 view got huge concussion ～ is not each woman suits to become Mom really. " somebody encourages somebody to comfort also somebody indicates approval, and the person that the change of this kind of mood did not become Mom is experienced very hard really.

Barclay (1997) ever analysed the 5 big change of a female in the psychogenesis after becoming a mother:

1. prepares inadequacy and recognize reality

It is very difficult before giving birth to the child to although know,raise the child, but the heart thinks him enough is dealt with however, gave birth to ability to discover he cannot be dealt with at all really till the child, ideal and real difference are so big unexpectedly, fall of this kind of psychology is frustrating badly the female after becoming Mom.

2. by bleed white

A large number of reduplicative work, lack enough sleep, the double exhaustion of the body and psychology, affecting the woman after becoming Mom deeply.

3. loneliness

Calculate those who have mother-in-law and husband and close Mom to take care of, when Mom this thing still can let a person feel alone and helpless, what need because of major moment child is you, others cannot be replaced. So constant meeting has a kind of loneliness that can rely on his only to feel.

4. Lose feeling

Take care of the child to need huge energy and time, after having the child consequently, the life centre of gravity of a lot of females turned to the child, socialization and friend circle are lost slowly, meeting deep feeling is living it is for oneself work no longer.

This kind loses the female sex after noise of feeling severe double image becomes Mom, they suspect life suspects surviving meaning even.

The settlement of 5. front feels

Although raise the child to be able to encounter all sorts of challenges, but final meeting gets settlement. In such process, the female after bearing mastered the skill that takes care of the child slowly, begin in the heart no longer flurried, self-confidence also can increase subsequently.

After Mom, had had a few times break down cry greatly actually very normal, major after all woman can experience a such level.

A lot of women are after breaking down ceaselessly, just learn how to become Mom slowly, how better take care of the child.

Break down cry greatly not terrible, those who be afraid of is you cannot grow together with the child, it is difficult to become mother, it is more difficult to become good mother.

Woman, did not break down a few times too cry greatly, can't become good Mom.

Wish each woman that becomes mother, go firmer to go better more more on this way that can becoming Mom.

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