Origin | Breath out the duty field small classroom of father's younger brother
Ever had seen a quite interesting Duan Zi on the net.
One man sends Tie Xuanyao:
My wife can become independent, oneself sleep, shop, travel, oneself buy food, cook, clear away a room, was pregnant oneself go check-up, give birth to him child to take, are oneself fostered... dare you profess before her female fellow?The netizen replies he: In our village, such calling widow.
Actually, there is in a lot of families nowadays such " widow " , have a partner obviously, always be solitary however, have any be mixed hardly, so that such marriage has very the appearance that ties a heart: Marriage of type of bereft of one's spouse.
The near future, a paragraph of Liu Tao's sweet to boudoir in new theatrical work complain tearfully, tore apart contemporary " marriage of type of bereft of one's spouse " scar, your person uses a facial expression.
Making what the person feels disturbed is, such marriage is becoming more and more general.
Marriage of type of bereft of one's spouse, why can you exist?
Main reason has two.
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At dozen go all out, be too busy attend to
Moved a brick when me, vacate do not move to embrace you; Put down a brick when me, do not have method to feed you.
This is the portraiture of family of type of a lot of bereft of one's spouse.
A girl of 3 years old asks mother: "Mom, do I have father? Do I have father??
She has father of course, the father that is her only is honest too busy, he is examine of one celebrity policeman, often not be in the home, busy to occasionally ability of half an year sees a daughter.
Time is long, the child does not know his father already quickly.
This mom a person is busy in busy other place takes care of a family, in the eye of others, she is a firm woman, but hear a daughter this word, still did not stretch tight, cried.
This is very much nowadays family is true and video, because too busy, at the job, at dozen go all out, give evening early to return, cannot return the home one year a few times even.
Last year, I am away on official business constantly, go out to want half month 10 days every time, often not be in the home.
Wife says, every time you leave, the son should search superior a little while, every room searchs, keep asking me next, father, father goes which. . .
I can have visions of in that way setting, he at ordinary times very stick me.
Every time I come home, he is met very the leg that agitato runs to holding me in the arms, the arm is extended continuously straight, let me hold him in the arms; Want me to be in the home only, next buildings take a walk, have a meal, bathe, fool sleep, these work he can call-over let me come.
Although just two years old many, but he understands father is very busy it seems that, so I am in the home each quarter, he can be cherished very much.
And ferial in, a person assumed my wife too much.
In the world, have too much father and mother for the child tomorrow, absent of the child today.
In my native place, having many families at present is such: The wife looks after children in the home all the year round, the husband works outerly earn money, come back one year a few times.
Such absent, actually everybody knows interests in the heart, but often have no alternative again.
- 02 -
Lazy at helping, mix without responsibility take on
Marriage of type of not all bereft of one's spouse, because,be busy, because,still have a plenty of lazy, because do not have sense of responsibility.
A lot of men think the wife does chore, looking after children is should, it is the thing inside the portion, and these often have nothing to do with oneself, this and traditional idea are concerned.
In a few former unripe families, the mother handles chore, serve an one's family, father is in charge of earning money, time do not do with respect to what in the home.
Below the influence of this kind of environment, after getting married when him, also can ask so oneself spouse, even if should go to work like wife and oneself,earn money.
So, this caused a kind of appearance: Wife belt child is tired to break down, the husband is playing game to be defeated to break down aside.
Some people aux would rather game plays in the office, also do not wish to come home help look after children; Some people always are in order to work busy for excuse, escape housework, run secretly however card games, idle away in seeking pleasure.
It is lazy that you can say, also can saying is selfish, but I think this is a kind immature, because immature ability is done not have,take on and sense of responsibility.
All gigantic baby, have an omnipotent mother normally rear.
These already the gigantic baby of parenting, because be protected in former unripe family,be mostly, be taken care of too well.
Will tell from another angle, this also is carried to husband and wife wake.
On the road that gets along in eat regularly in, one party does not want too too able, you undertake the whole thing the more everything, you the more be used to is worn TA, let oneself more easily be immersed in break down, isolated without aid.
A lot of moment, lazy and irresponsible, often be used to comes out.
Marriage of type of bereft of one's spouse, what course to follow?
Marriage of type of bereft of one's spouse, can you go much further after all?
Everybody cannot say to be clear about, somebody can be carried all one's life, somebody can carry a period of time only.
But what I want to say is, if be engraved from now on,begin a change, it is a good beginning certainly so.
So, how be changed?
Basically had done this at 4 o'clock. (man woman should have a look)
In all fairness, sometimes those blame in your mouth go cannot meal bureau is not do not have method to be pushed, be you were not pushed only.
Li Jiacheng can take out time to accompany family to eat a meal together every week, is the work that you need to handle than him much still?
There is measure in wanting a heart only, make good arrangement, have dinner in the home to rare half the time every week, every months at least one accompany family to be spent together weekend, so you with respect to won't absent family.
No matter be the child or sweetheart, actually very forgetful, satisfy easily also, your effort and love, they can understand and experience.
The birthday of family, of child school close child meeting, appearance the performance is waited a moment, these important hour, accomplish hard please not absent.
Need company most in them, most when expecting you are attendant, you can appear, this to family, it is very important.
A lot of moment, reality is brutal, some distance, you must be gotten, some part, you must be gotten bear.
And, I also do not think to abandon a career for company is a many well-advised choice, after all money often can solve a lot of problems, living very expensive.
I think those who say is, the method often compares difficulty much.
Now network so develop, think connection can be contacted at any time and place almost, if you are long-term outer, no matter much busier, also want to maintain connection with family everyday.
No matter be,staying behind still is outer lay the person that go all out, need to understand each other and support sb with hand on the road that goes before.
Think to creating form of bereft of one's spouse marital person says two words.
The first word is, do not think give material to be able to square everything, often just family needs company and love most.
The 2nd word is, true teammate, should be to support sb with hand each other, each other are taken care of, fasten when after losing, ability afterthought not is reached.
Think to be in eddy of marriage of type of bereft of one's spouse medium person says two words.
The first word is, not all problem needs to rely on a divorce to solve, discover a problem, solving a problem just is first selection.
The 2nd word is, do not give oneself digging pit, capability is again strong, also fasten big package to be pulled greatly, think method lets a spouse participate in, also let TA come place feeling is the same as experience.
Marriage is not one the individual's homework, need bilateral joint efforts.
Wish your teammate can at an early date rejoin, wish survive of your in the future, everything is well!
