Small house is an undergraduate that graduates two years, the beginning of the year when, he decided a goal to oneself, "Wages increases, look for a girlfriend " , however now had been July, large half an year went, the target of small house not only did not progress, degenerative still.
It is at the beginning of July, small Yu Ci went oneself job, he thinks he does not have a future in that company, below the mood that in malcontent company staff works, he chose to leave one's post, he what leave one's post began to seek new job.
He desultory received announcement of a few interview, end when small house interview however hind, those who awaiting him is " wait for an announcement " , but, small house is done not have when any announcements, small house is depressed very, obviously the job that oneself can be competent completely, why be always not by employ?
Watch news, small house discovers, the market this year not quite boom, to apply for a job is very bad, he some regretted, regret to ought not to resign the job, and weather is sultry now, give door interview every time, a suit sweat is when coming back, should pay the rent that finishs a quarter immediately, face such dilemma, some do not sustain small house.
Late night, mom made a telephone call, "Small house, the closest to be warm, should note sunstroke prevention, how to work outside? Difficulty says with mom. Difficulty says with mom..
Small house is laughing to say him job is very good, the place that live also has air conditioning, not be too hot, let mom do not worry too, still laughing to say, what oneself eat now is too good, fat.
Of half hour chat, sweet and good, after ring off, small house whole individual was immersed in silent, as if lost the spirit, look at a room 4 walls, a kind of ineffable depression emerges to him, he wants to beg comfort, but cannot find one, he wants to cry, do not have a tear however, he learned to smoke, indulged all sorts of put together art program, of all kinds game, there just was drowsiness at 5 o'clock till before dawn.
Small house does not know when to can find new job, think back to oneself target, had abandoned, a thought appears in his brain, why so much setback, why luck so bad.
Actually a lot of youths had had such reflection, fleeting time is not suitable, time of a year had not come up against lucky gas almost, and go up in the job him work laboriously, tired suffer from again, however whats were changed, always feel oneself time is used not quite, always feel him accomplish nothing, think up, suffer from does not have money.
Doing not have socialization is main reason
Inside the company, most person believe in, the own job that has done oneself is OK, do not need too deep osculatory company fellow worker, when going to work, besides the job, without the communication that any is necessary, never enter the party activity that the company works in the same place, company group is built dining together also is to see a mobile phone quietly, after serving, lower his head to have a meal.
This kind of behavior, isolate oneself it seems that at the company besides, stand to go alone especially, not be gregarious becomes individual character, it is not to know socialization actually, it is scared socialization even, such person is a position in the company how? "Dispensable " can be replaced by new blood at any time.
More never mention it associate with new friend, although be in a company together, although have respective connection kind, but never connection passes, after leaving one's post, these people become consist in communication automatically also to record the stranger inside.
Even if be college fellow student, high school classmate, of connection very few also, most person, beside can talker has not exceeded " spank " , and a the sort of month won't contact the sort of. We should like to ask such socialization concerns, can " achievement " what kind of oneself?
Breath out a psychology of Buddha university to study a project, cost 75 years fully, studied 724 people, trying what to find just is happy life, study the result makes clear: Have the person with good social relations only, ability is happy.
Is this beyond everybody's expect? One the individual's happiness, gregarious relation will decide, is not individual ability, degree of record of formal schooling.
The life is in high grade, protective effect is had in warm human relation.
In recreation the circle has a kind of friendship to cry " He Gui Xie Na " , cong Xiena adds pleasure familial begin, from look at first not to know a playscript with stage directions to begin, he Gui begins to help him, gradually went more than 10 years, two people also produced deep friendship, be gone to continuously however because of Xie Na continuously, the mouth does not have the disposition of block, got the netizen's assail, but, every time this moment, it is He Gui come out boldly, it is when Xie Na is not happy, have He Gui for company she, when Xie Na errs, always have Mr. He beside rescue sb from a siege.
A lot of people hope to there also is Mr. He beside oneself, but did not think however, how to get " Mr. He " , doing not have any friends is one-sided is good for other, the friend is commutative, in the life, did not provide for oneself almost the He Gui of ability, also be the care that got very much Xie Na, give no cause for more criticism, xie Na is known how to make friend, how to maintain friendship.
Have a friend, to the life, to the career, have a lot of help strength, it is for instance in our job, if the colleague also is a friend, when it is difficult that in oneself the job is encountered, help with respect to meeting somebody, oneself see the thing with be like very bad, friend " carry carry " the hand may be done decided.
Ability of socialization of a lot of people is poor, it is from young when begin
Socialization cannot leave the application of the language, "Can talk " can let oneself win a lot of good friends, do not have a friend however us, when seeing those friends' much person, always feel they are hypocritical, they are in fawn on, actually the psychology of most person is to be in " envious " .
The gregarious ability of a lot of people is poor, it is from young when begin, turn one's head our growing experience, and in one's childhood young associate plays, play will play together, cannot play together. Had not contacted too much new child almost, even with with the person in a class, come down one year, the person cannot say of likelihood and half a word, it is the classmate that around desk must come to a little together even, move the position through, after two friends are apart, also saying without the word.
In the home, what parents cares most is our study, all along we are in ignored of the school and classmate get along circumstance, a lot of children are not piquant, the study of conscientiously, be held with by parental boast good child.
A bit growner hind, especially high school, our main responsibility still learns, most time is learning, even the time that playground morning practice plans, also taking Xiaobenzi to reciting English word, we never have had thought truly, how is study communicated with the person too, how gregarious.
Its most person, small when feel without too big gregarious demand, a person appears also can well.
Most person the communication expression ability that consciousness is less than him is poor, never also admit to had thought really, it is at most in muddled teenager when, encounter dark that individual that love when, when before dare not going up, greeting sb, return ego to comfort however, dark the feeling that loving is a kind of sweetness.
As a result we enter a society, we had a job, discover one day suddenly, we need to be contacted with the person, we need gregarious capability, we feared to be contacted with the person.
Language thinking, colloquial expression, language intelligence makes the ability that urgent need develops the child now, without gregarious person, total in the life work henceforth meeting feels difficult and heavy, luck not beautiful, must not make gregarious ability poor as heredity same, generation generation is passed.
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