As social development, communication is more and more convenient also, the sweethearts that different ground loves now is increasing.
Different ground is loved previously dare not imagine, the person previously, circle is very small, do not use even fixed phone, the means of look for a partner in marriage, also often be villager of home village or town introduces each other, have what come to talk about a marriage directly even.
The marriage previously, often compare simple, be matched for marriage, give priority to with the apiration of father generation go driving, a lot of husband and wife are to marry to foster emotive again first even.
Different now, correspond not only developed, gregarious means also rose more, mobile radius of the person also greatly patulous, have a plane, the tool such as the train, exotic love become a possibility.
However, a lot of people did not understand a bit, different ground is loved, turn over human nature actually.
Because the essence of bisexual relation is to attract, it is need attaching, and different ground is loved, going against unluckily come. Want to meet between sweethearts, cannot meet easily however, when needing each other, discover the other side is far from beside, this is very sufferring thing.
If you chose different ground to love, still hold on, I give you the biggest Respect, because too not easy.
Today's topic, also be about different the ground was loved, also leave a message from a vermicelli made from bean starch begin.
Hello, charm elder sister, I and ground of boy friend different are loved, the distance of two people probably the car Cheng of 4 hours. We interact now 8 months, when he chases after me, just we still are not different ground, the economy in his home encounters difficulty later, the company of his father goes broke, in the home often by dun, he needs to assume the responsibility of a lot of families now, went another city is hit go all out.
We are firm different ground when, the relationship is quite good also, often chatting is a little 2, 3 hours. The case is not quite good later, he may be actuating pressure a bit big, begin not talktive, also had quarrelled a few times, but do not have the degree that part company. I and he has talked about our future, he says that he cannot go back, can be in only other place, he is saying to be able to try hard to change the current situation all the time, the sense that develops toward good side to a kind of my thing. But I go later,see him, the life that discovers him is inferior to meaning, career also improvement of it doesn't matter, a bit decadent even, waited for two days together with him, he also did not take me to play everywhere, I helped him clear away a house, what he also behaves is very sober, express without what. The building that leases in him all the time is being waited for, he also did not do what, or accompanies me to watch TV, or plays meeting game alone, I feel to do not have interest really, went back ahead of schedule, want to be waited for more a few days originally.
I began to shake now, want to yield wisdom and rational charm elder sister gives an idea, next, how should I choose?
Actually ah, if you jump,give the role of party, from the point of the angle of a third party, you also can persuade yourself to part company for certain.
If you take the place of to feel not strong, still jump not to come out, you think again, the daughter that is you suppose encounters this kind of situation, you hope she continues this paragraph concerns, still part company immediately?
The answer is clearly.
Since you will ask me, still wear tall paper hat to me " wisdom and reason " , you are very much it is thus clear that the fact is not willing to face, complete not dare reason goes choosing, you are subconscious it is hope continual, but you cannot find importunate reason.
You hope I help you offer a few reason, go to those who be you insisting to do prop up.
I come answer dish your relation, when you are together, the case of their home should be good, father also has his cause, just affairs of human life is variable, the company went broke suddenly.
You are together with him at the outset, also consider his domestic background to go in? You are so hesitant now, also be the change because of his family environment.
Having a word is so say, be the same as riches and honour is very easy, it is very difficult to share hardship.
I also am not moral kidnap, those who share hardship also have a premise, it is everybody the way that has gone hard goes hard, is not happy-go-lucky, drift along.
If he does not want to change the current situation, want to pulling you again, it is not responsible to your emotive.
If you are not put really, do not do let go immediately, you look for a time to talk with him seriously with respect to need.
The men and women still distinguishs somewhat, you need to make clear Hunan now, he why so pessimistic, so inactive to the life.
The man is the most principal is the face before the woman, the mainest need feels the woman to be cherished by the man namely.
Perhaps he is pressure only too big, there still are you in the heart, but do not think you accompany him to bear hardships together, so intended and desolate you, good make you active put forward to part company.
The man does not hope to show his flimsy side, also do not want to be sympathized with, proper pride and cause trouble of old man creed, have a lot of one's innermost thoughts and feelings, would rather hide in the heart, also do not wish to show come.
You can express a state, tell him, you know his current situation is very difficult, also understand the situation in his home, but you do not mind, you are willing to accompany him to share hardship, spend difficulty together. But have a premise, hope he can cheer up, talk about his plan with him, have what plan later, how the plan overcomes the problem before.
Of course, his plan cannot lose contact with reality, for instance he now lunar income just thousands of, you hope he earns 1 million one year, that with respect to try to make sb do sth which he can't do. Force him urgent, may take shortcut, go betting for instance.
If he is very genuine also the opinion that shares oneself, tell his specific plan, you can give him the chance again, you are OK the term that you can accept set, for instance a year, seeing him is the plan that implements his truly strictly, enough the urge for improvement goes changing the current situation.
The man is the most lamentable is not poverty-stricken, the most lamentable is to accept the current situation, do not consider be eager to make progress.
If he does not have any aspirant expression, there also was not what progress one year in the past, he gets your company without the qualification, you also do not need and he " share hardship " .
Anyhow, if you are not put, that gives him sufficient credit, if there are you in his heart, and you are so trustful he, admit his current situation, encourage him, he is met for certain dynamic, you nod patience with respect to how, encourage him to cheer dry.
If he shows another extreme, escapism, then you still make " wisdom and reason " choice, decisive part company with him, because he is undeserved.
Love is very commendable, but love makes a person easily blind, if you do not want to be harmed, must mix calmly decisive. You can love him, but you must have a bottom line, if he is wanton prodigal your feeling, that is a bit more cruel-hearted, it is the most beneficent to each other so.
