Civil | Beautiful town seeks advice from division · Li Yang
Be in obviously love, however very resemble lone.
A person has a meal, a person sees a movie, a person basks.
In the rain in one individual wind, there are you beside.
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Different ground is loved, a sweethearts people do not wish lay a finger on, but general however consist in the topic beside us.
Investigation of love of Chinese Sunday run showed 2017, the sweethearts that has 80.92% has been experienced or loving in experience different ground. Different ground is loved is feeling in maintain the hardest, descriptive different ground loves the word that has a special figure:
I am like is talked about a love with the mobile phone.
Love in different ground so general today, manage safeguard and spend different ground smoothly to love, became the capacity that major sweethearts must have.
I am Li Yang, share the view that I love to different ground and proposal with everybody today.
Different ground is loved and cannot be afraid of, terrible is to did not plan
A person that call in so had asked me:
Teacher, he prepares to go abroad study abroad two years, should start in foreign development likely the job, how does successful word also get 3 years of ability to go back to the motherland, does I and he still have continual necessary?
Similar I believe such problem many sweethearts had been encountered, resemble this my person that call in, what she fears is " different ground = parts company " this concept.
Because she does not decide they can have carried so long different ground to love, to oneself also self-distrust, arrived so this vital link, different ground ases if adjudging part company, let her cannot be accepted unalterable.
Later, I try to enquire her:
You fear different ground is loved, that thinks in you whether should you continue before amour, whether do you plan to cross the life that your different ground lives, connection, compare notes with the other side next, is those who do to answer different ground decision-making?
Her response is to do not have.
Different ground is loved and cannot be afraid of, terrible is to do not have adequate preparation to enter different ground to love, of time elapse add the inadequacy that answers measure, the distance that causes two popular feeling is pulled gradually far, this ability is different ground loves the way that kills love.
Be about to want likely perhaps to enter different when you when the ground is loved, not flurried, use your head and heart, go discussing a means of settlement together with your spouse, do not go be fear of, be brave in to face, you just have the base that has carried different ground to love and hold.
Faithfulness and accredit can stroke smooth uneasiness
Taking the state of mind that miss when you, cherish expectant mood to send message to your spouse, the other side was not responded to that tardy however or only a brief response when, whether had you suspected the faithfulness of the other side is spent?
When the other side busy be over to reply to you more information and explanation, and you here had crossed that mood to nod, be in now in a fit of anger when, whether can you still believe the other side termlessly?
These two problems mirrorred different ground to love bilateral normal state of mind.
Lying between distant distance, plus the job of day-to-day business and study, the time of two people and sentiment drop are opposite very hard really on, this moment can arise " jealousy " .
Do you see information won't respond to me first?
Can you be how always when I think you busy?
With who are you now?
What jealousy brings is the problem with countless misunderstanding and not clear explanation of the other side.
Among the different ground amour that has appeared in you when jealousy when, come down calmly, think well, whether had your faithfulness and accredit appeared basic problem?
Answer jealousy, I arranged the small proposal in 3 lives to everybody:
1
Be familiar with the working hours program of the other side and life rule, go to those who convey you missing again when the other side can undertake with you affection interacts;
2
Sweethearts both sides often is encircled in the friend or other and gregarious software is mixed group of inter block, announce oneself clearly to had had the capacity of the object, encircle those who bask in both sides to close in the friend for example according to, the gift that the other side sends to you, someone else tries to be close to you but your heart is belonged to somewhat. . . . . .
3
Think over more and contrast oneself, how do I pass everyday?
I also try hard so and busy, the person that I like also is mixed of course I am same, why I suspicious even he? Be me too idle or do I also have the place that becomes badly can so I also just imagine into me such?
Understand and communicate let each other more stand by
Love is the alias of understanding. -- Taigeer
Very strong understanding needs between the sweethearts that a very short time gets along and husband and wife, ability lets both sides reach consensus on acknowledge and behavior, it is the sweethearts of different ground what is more,the rather that.
Cite a very small case:
If because want to attend your socialization,you cannot understand the other side (working group is built or the friend meets) and cannot talk on the phone with you congee, so you are in very hard " when do we communicate " consensus is reached on this problem.
The woman can think, I also have a party to have an activity, I was pushed want to chat with you, why cannot be you accomplished?
The man can think, chat with you of course when OK ah, why must there be other activity in me when?
This is the problem that appears on understanding level, the woman cannot understand the man, she thinks the other side sees other and social activity more importantly than her; The man also cannot understand the woman, he thinks the other side is the gregarious time that attempts to control his in willfully make a trouble.
See the other side without legal principle when you, when you also experience the other side to appear to also cannot understand you, might as well ask more the following two problems:
1. what is your idea?
2. if my idea is. . . . . . Can be you accepted?
Live in different space, the thing that a lot of moment produce is mixed of own expect not quite same, need to communicate at that time, let both sides understand each other more, be close to each other more.
Good communication can make more collective topics, in stronger link is established among each other. This can say a lot of, limited space, if children's footwear wants to look, leave a message the area tells me.
Does yourself have life construction and prospective program?
If say in front 3 o'clock is to answer different ground to love the state of mind that should have and ability, so final this are the help spends different ground to love the fact of process of this one grizzle to hold.
Cast amour not to say, everybody is in the life, accountability the life that lets oneself becomes more contented and full, let oneself become more happiness and happiness.
Oneself life construction is the substantial that everybody is experienced and moves toward maturity, because talked about love,do not say, idea is on body of the other side, always put attention in " does he think me? " " what is he doing? " go up.
Plan oneself life, besides everyday daily arrangement and job, how should be time of your the rest used?
On the weekend, holiday if you can meet, where can you go to together?
If you cannot meet quite, where should you go to?
The future that gives oneself is decided a series of little cause, one pace ground tries hard and come true, new knowledge learns between this process, know new person, try new contact, what encounter place again is all share with the other side, and go together make a program to each other future, lay next stable foundations, the distance of the heart just won't estrange because of actual distance.
"Very small when, I think the most romantic thing on this world, it is a person walks very remote region, go seeing another person, now also is. Now also is..
The every time photograph that different ground loves gets together, had resembled the Valentine's Day; Each crowded thick ticket, be pair of love stand fast.
Distribute enjoyed dried food today, it is my angle from advisory division, stand fast for this the support that give and force, bless the world lover, become spouses eventually.
Author | Psychology of attestation of Li Yang country seeks advice from division, marital family seeks advice from division, beautiful garrison post is senior advisory division, date of cold love public contributes teacher.
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