Everybody is communication ace, want you to be willing to discover your only, pay no attention to everybody from everybody stereo, become the most welcome person on the world, let me tell you among them. secret! Everybody is good, I am the associated author Lu Yue of platform of new pillar psychology. There is a kind of thing in human relation is everybody detest, but always be ceaseless meet unexpectedly, that is Ga chats. So alleged Ga chats even if you must want to stay, but can say nothing again. Plant the following where you consider setting dead most, for instance boss of compose a quarrel encounters in elevator unfortunately, arrive from first floor 20 buildings, time of a minute has entered a century, the contract is to be forced to hit downwind car to come home, air is caky to petrifaction, resemble A Du that poem, you sit in the car, let me want to hide in guaranty of the car in the car, company group is built stealthily two stronger people come not carefully early, must look at each other in speechless despair, be together silently to sitting. Thinking in your heart, why don't those staffs that reduce 1000 knives still come? To some people chatting skill is descendent, resemble the classmaster that is moment of my junior high school, because his home leaves me very close from my home, so he often does not have a thing to come to my home a visit to the parents or schoolchildren or young workers, my Mom is a talktive least of all person, can talk about on a few hours glibly with him every time, the melon seeds skin of full ground can see after he goes every time! to a lot of people, chatting need acquired study actually, unlike that classmaster ah it is self-invited euqally, always can self-invited ripe. So we the belligerence that today's course talks about this thing to one has specific aim most in the light of Ga guideline! Above all the boy or girl friend that we want a definition to chat, no more than these 4 kinds the first I and you are not ripe, do not know to want to talk about what ground so, I and you do not make do, do not know what to talk about so, e.g. us two it is duty field in ah dead correct of face and heart cat-and-dog, everybody wants to must be maintained average the outer part when, always cannot meet with respect to clutch, but want what to talk about must arrest is worn face, but that should be told more,say occasion word. The 3rd, I and your imparity, do not know what to talk about so, you are company boss, I am lower level employee, I do not build you appear I do not have courtesy, but you go up with my position so equal, want I and you to cut down the member of persons employed this a little am I had in list? The 4th, I and you are not harmonious, be aimed at the husband and wife of cold war especially, according to this part we can be in constructive tell inside communication course, here the face does not do a key to tell about. So today's key is to tell how to break ice, how to break awkward gas field, let both sides can drop defence. Chat first above all ah do away with the warm up that Ga talks about first rank. So the first pace is boast, ah if want the other side of the boast that break ice,be the commonnest strategy, so know face of factitious what inquire for wants handclasp? Because handclasp is in,fast ancient is to telling each other actually, you see my hand inside not dark implement, and the core of boast is to telling each other actually, I am affirmative to you. So you need not beware of I, so we send one's respects to the other side it is good to say to want to say you, is not to say I am good, so how you are good, this belongs to the limits of boast, how boast? do not come up generally speaking with respect to boast, had better be respecting 3 to 5 when, you should seek a detail on body of the other side at that time, for example alas where of skirt of your this body buys, compared with skirt of your this body really good-looking what is distinguished? Distinction depends on degree going up already special strong, and you this skirt this body skirt so well, so that I want to buy, and to the woman, buy buy buying is a the commonnest topic, can send from this come dispersedly, both sides is OK communicate from what buy dress respect to have a lot of. So if say where of skirt of your this body,buy, if just say alas skirt of your this body is really very good look, the distinction that buys with where of skirt of your this body depends on ah of our boast is skirt, what still cross is your grade, ah this part also is very important. Still can say e.g. you alas you are the closest color how so good, ah ah because I went to such-and-such beauty parlour ah it did what result is so good to did what result, so such everybody can ah infinite extending went down inside the topic with respect to a such surfaces. So the 2nd action is to spit what to spit to spit groove that day! Hide to two for animosity person, complaining tripartite is best choice undoubtedly, had better not complain collective boss of course, this is duty field big fear, you can be complained ah a driver of that strange flower that blocks a car up, perhaps say the meal of this restaurant how terrible, have common enemy when everybody when, the feeling of share a bitter hatred of the enemy can come out! The 3rd needle! Actually this is the best method that break ice, because chat,the most important is not you those who say is much more wonderful, however whether does the atmosphere that you create suit Ren Dan. For example once we attend a party, the boy friend that having a person among them is a colleague and our everybody are not familiar, want when everybody so when he makes self introduction, he is such opening remarks. Everybody is good, I call bright red insecurity, because once arrive when the person is much, because arrive when the person is much I am very nervous, the awfullest when, I still am resided after passing a lawyer to take an exam unexpectedly, I should pursue the job that talks with the person technically, estimation receives below a few years to come I am about mad, everybody bursts out laughing, his insecurity did not see early! A lot of when you are OK of chest of straight express bosom say with the other side, I am sorry, I won't talk really, very easy put sb out of the way! Looking us is same kind of person, encounter stranger not to know to say what is good, a blank, are we wardmate? I have a friend is such opening remarks, the schoolboy a super introversion became her boy friend a little. They up to now the largest interest shares the experience that chats with others Ga everyday namely. Sentiment of the 4th action. To a lot of schoolgirls, best position is not funny funny, it is to hold funny in both hands. Ah inside its really new setting, the schoolgirl's properest place is comic dialogue in hold funny in both hands, that is to say the strongest chatting method lets what the other side dashs along with you tell ceaseless namely, such others can like you very much very much, because everybody has a the most significant demand in the relation, it is a ball be agreed with by the ball. So let a schoolboy talk a ceaseless way, want to have a lot of mood words namely, can ask e.g. you can ask the other side you to graduation is in which school, if the other side says I graduate,be in connecting with the boxing skill is great, you need not say coldly very high, oh what is this? Your best answer is. True? The oriental cherry with great connecting with the boxing skill is too beautiful, you passed 4 years in so beautiful place unexpectedly! The self-worth of the other side feels at a draught violent wind rose! If the other side is the person that won't chat, can say, the person that can have a lot of to oriental cherry season too was fed up with, you can say then, you this handsome young man can lend this understanding a lot of girls, the other side at a draught ego sense of a value was agreed with again! Of course, you can ask his interest the interest, he is to say. Of photography, it is the most beautiful that you can consult him how to pat oriental cherry. You should know everybody is right the hobby can have a kind of pour desire, want you to find him only most the dot of the hobby, be equal to that crawly flesh that in finding his heart, needs to be flinched most most. Waiting for him to dash along with you! say ceaseless! right now, you most. What need does is pie-eyed, say really? It is so such ah so fierce ah. Believe me, such an auxiliary word that indicates mood, absolutely meeting lets him have strong contented feeling! The 5th action is to change to meet again after a long separation with the person. That is to say with the most important hum its change, do not say you are the closest how, the other side says not bad, next. Not next. You should say you seem to become thin recently, you seem to become whiter recently. Do you seem to become more beautiful recently? What is fashionable recipe? Hear you became a company now, very fierce. Why to say. Change can let the other side like you, because everybody needs others,carry on the back ah remember you. Ah your change to him, it is of course. Good metabolic respond, explain you are being worn alertly all the time, look at, can satisfy his narcissism of course! 6 vinegar. Next later this. It is to exceed magic word! I remember in those days. Do psychology to seek advice from division! When, ah when we learn, the teacher says with us, if you did not have a word to say with the person that call in really, say. Next ask you to be told more tell this part. You started a lot of time these a few words, the other side very. Naturally is told go down, as long as. The other side is told. You can avoid big, and can find more topics from inside his word, this always grows than you many the topic is strong. The 7th, it is kidney. You should take care the word of all valuation, these words make the bomb in the talk very easily, e.g. me most those who be fed up with is Henan person. Ah the Peking Man that you feel what talk with you is a model, such saying that be no problem, did not think of opposite party is silent say a little while, my grandfather is Henan person, you died! So in such circumstance, best you can act the compares the face role of energy, had better not too air leak, we do not want extravagant hopes to deliver shallow speech deep such thing happens, make money best, severe shallow also. Because we do not understand others, want caution, out of the mouth comes evil. . The 8th action leaves! We had better not use enclosed query, best choice is the topic of open mode, like to take course of another name for Guangdong Province e.g. you? Like Game, over. You can ask you like to take what kind of course, ah the other side says food of another name for Guangdong Province ah you can say I also like. Can you recommend to me? Shop of around better food of another name for Guangdong Province? Next you are OK comment on the characteristic that course of different another name for Guangdong Province feels, this is enough long. Of course you can have a judgement, looking the other side for example is a tide go-between, and be a model take money, very tell accent the sort of, so you ask him this issue is very is one the fastest or glacial method. If the other side is curtilage male, likelihood his domain most those who be good at more it is game. So. With asking him, you ask him the question of dish to affirmation is a hole, the likelihood that is familiar with most because of him is outside sell. The 9th ask, good query is equal to good human relationship, a lot of when can ask the other side simply a question when we do not know to say what word, be in to husband and wife for example cold war, the wife asks how I do, I say your husband likes computer very much, ah the question that then you ask him a few computer more, his computer also gave just right a few problems, then he appeals to him, the enthusiastic with the very patient husband that did not think of her answers his question, inscribe them to also did not chat besides the word of computer of course other, but from this their relation begins alleviation! Do not understand to ask a few technologies the question, her husband ah so angry to her, can open the mouth however. Because,I say for a lot of righter man, they do not know how to be mixed actually man ah how to talk about affection problem with the woman, also fear to produce brawl again, but they are not willing again, it is cold war, also be so in kink. And if you ask him a few technology questions that have nothing to do with affection, can give his step to fall namely actually. Such can reveal already. Oneself ability, can borrow again machine stand by with the wife, still can the affray with possible avoid problem, he is willing to do of course. Solved the computer of the wife when him, problem! The acknowledgment of the wife also also let him have the safe feeling on a bit mood! 2. Individual besides a sticky candy same! Go situation tangly emotional issue, had a region that the 3rd join nods at long last! So this is met. Make the starting point that a rehabilitate concerns. Does someone say tactics of this nine broken ice is mixed psychedelic what concerns? My respecting is psychedelic! Let you namely actually from an awkwardness person become to beg the person that change, become a person that can solve a problem! You! Can use this. The attempt that 9 kinds of methods relapse, this is the changeover of a kind of part actually, of so broken ice in rank high-ranking part, because of the reason of today's time, we were put in the following course to tell, we should explain the broken ice method that more advanced mood affects next time, you this should be belonged to advanced. Ah next time we should tell more advanced mood to affect the art that break ice, this should attribute the high skill that break ice, let us next time curricular good-bye. How to become interesting welcome person, it is so difficult to be liked to do not have actually, should give your life in a way a few practices only, can look brand-new, become the communication master with stereo everybody, I was May, I am waiting for you here, open together! What be loved well is secret.