Before paragraph time, go to Shenzhen attending a tea party, share about domestic provide for the aged and Yo concept.
A person that does poineering work independently says: "My Mom 70 years old, I still say with her, mom, you ability is 70 years old, go working a portion. Go working a portion..
At that time, the stage issues an in an uproar; At that time, everybody is very stunned.
"You are so big wrist, downtown makes the same score a layer to living greatly, the old mother that why still lets 70 years old goes out to work, this is too disobedient also. This is too disobedient also..
He explains say: "Actually you do not know, old age also needs busy, also need existence feeling and target sense, also need a work, reflect value. Reflect value..
Hear his speech, I am convinced deeply. A lot of people after making an old person emeritus, enjoy an easy and carefree life, understanding was become " raising the old person for wearing, let them mix eat wait dead. Let them mix eat wait dead..
Let them stay in the home then, glare of large small hole is small, faineant.
Often look to filial piety, it is disobedient actually.
Of course, we still shared a lot of other to be mixed about parental provide for the aged Yo idea, very reasonable.
Not long ago, an investigation shows, the demand of a lot of people depends on:
(1) oneself health and development
(2) parents is healthy
(3) filial education.
Had money, not be to taking money to enjoy, prodigal. More agog instead think, how to maintain oneself development, how to teach good children, foster good parents, familial inheritance consciousness is sent more apparent.
How is they looking in light of done.
Provide for parents
Once singleton female, show mostly grown nowadays adult, knot legitimate child, support of the people of provide for the aged of need provide for takes care of the child.
How is seeing them done, perhaps can give ourselves a bit inspiration.
(1) buy risk of major disease business
Everybody has the probability that gets a serious illness, resemble a few malign diseases especially, for example tumor, organic exhaustion. This kind is ill, or is not treated, treat, namely hundred thousands of go up even the remedial charge of 1 million.
So, a lot of people buy the commerce of major disease to be sure to parents. Once go to the bad, cure keeps a newspaper, commerce is sure to sign up for, fight risk ability to increase significantly.
This depends on to the enlightenment of our Everyman: The risk that everybody faces is same. Raise oneself fight risk ability, everybody should consider.
No matter be what person, we are accountability the recessive bomb that does not let oneself become family, friend, one blast, namely child future.
(2) do not let parents become full-time Yo baby-sitter
Friend valuable valuable the merchant that is two cosmetic inn, year enter in 1 million above, two flatlet, can calculate so that the Gao Jing that going up is a standard is worth a crowd.
After giving birth to 2 embryoes, she very kink, should let a mother come over to bring a child? Not be to be afraid of do not have baby-sitter please, feel the mother is a mother after all however, take oneself granddaughter, affirmative meeting intention is very much, and also let oneself be at ease.
But she is very afraid also, bring two children, it is the work with a very serious task, need a lot of energy, time and patience, old mother looks after children, can be you maintained so that live?
Valuable valuable look for husband to discuss: "Should let my Mom come over to look after children? "Should let my Mom come over to look after children??
Husband at a heat decline: "Be no good, after can making parents old anything but look after children technically for us. After can making parents old anything but look after children technically for us..
Would rather spend costly money to ask good housekeeper, after also cannot making parents old look after children even technically.
Ever a report is told about, shandong has plum aunt, 63 years old, retired, original date passes contented and easily, go up at ordinary times attend class, jump dance, still can go out from time to time brigade travels.
Later, oneself only daughter gave birth to the child, plum the aunt must look after children in the past, everyday tired dead tired work, serve the child to eat and drink pull scatter, a talker also is done not have beside.
Good not easy child went up nursery school, plum the aunt is wanting to be able to take a rest originally, result daughter conceived 2 embryoes again, plum the aunt should take care of the child again, want to handle chore again, depressed disease is spent in was being gotten.
A lot of youths hope his parents can help him look after children, had better be full-time, look after children technically to oneself, oneself are OK busy job, busy move travels, busy billow.
This is a kind very the practice of clumsy. Take those who cross the child to know, the little baby that takes to just was born is brought up to be able to go up nursery school, have how to work hard, how overworked, need how big energy, time and patience. These, youth may not is maintained so that live, it is an old person what is more,the rather that more.
Give old person belt completely the child, exceed the energy limit of the old person. The child was not taken good, old person be laid up, both ends is busy, more miserable. The most important is, mechanism of old person body has comparatived flimsy, easy go to the bad, easy one overworked, ailment of a serious illness comes along. I had seen look after children the old person that causes heart disease, die that evening.
Do not let parents become full-time Yo baby-sitter, it is the main obligation of humanness children. Sometimes, you must want to depend on parents, but parents cannot let become full-time Yo like you baby-sitter.
The child is your child, foster the responsibility that is you, not this responsibility full shift arrives on old person body.
(3) supportive parents works
Some people are very fathomless: Have money very much obviously, why even parents goes out to work.
Why?
Must not think old people is retired, should what thing does not work, everyday go for a walk of go for a walk, hit dozen of shadowboxing, take a walk, this lets an old person enjoy an easy and carefree life namely.
Otherwise, the faineant old people after retiring is easier go to the bad, dead risk is bigger.
Contrary, after retiring, have the job (of course, those who point to is labor intensity is in bear the job inside limits) old person, can more existence feels, have target and achievement feeling more. Their bottom of the heart thinks, oneself are not in lead an idle life, also did not abandon. Oneself existence, to the family, to the society, still the significance is immense.
So, to Everyman, not mandatory really the ground lets parents enjoy so called " clear blessing " , support them to work, support them to find the management of old age life after retiring, this ability is real filial piety heart.
And parents works, have one part income, to average household, also be a support.
Rear the child
In foster child respect, a lot of problems are worth while also get to the bottom of and think over. Some teach a concept, likelihood and the educational concept photograph that go when indelicacy are contrary to, but must say, in such education the concept falls, the child can be led probably more outstanding.
(1) custom consciousness
When we do a reader to investigate, had interviewed a Guangzhou to suffer the person that visit, she is the middle-level controller of firm of a banking, she pays attention to the child to foster custom consciousness very much.
Get up for example.
Dot likes to sleep lie-in, a lot of moment, become Mom cry, pay no attention to, cry 3 times 5 times, still do not get up.
This mom and child agree: "I can call you twice only, if you are after it is good that I make up, still do not get up, missed school bus, that oneself gets up have breakfast, oneself think method goes to the school, I won't send you. I won't send you..
She is so those who say, also be euqally so do. Of course, for safe problem, she lets child father follow child protection secretly at the back.
This is custom consciousness. The society has the moving law of itself, alleged grow, be familiar with namely and abide by these rules and regulations, parenting, want to guide the child to foster custom consciousness namely.
There is the education of a kind of God that be held in both hands now, make release the child's nature, natively of a lot of parents understands, oh, release a nature, that without giving thought to, put in a suitable place to breed, when does love go to school when to go to school, this is not to release a nature, this is to release malign.
The dietary rule of a day of 3 eat, day gives the rule of work and rest of nocturnal bend over, the hold together rule of human relations in society. An outstanding person, have very good custom consciousness.
(2) " the business that fight defeat "
A lot of people advertise affection the importance of business, get along comfortably with the person, it is the most top class affection business. And the fact is, truly outstanding person, when getting along with the person, can not let a person feel comfortable.
Had attended forum of a high education, personnel attending the meeting, wear in hold back strong, the child that is wanting how to let oneself surmounts him.
A point of view is heard inside, very popular: "To the child, develop his business that fight defeat, the far business that compare situation is a lot of mainer. The far business that compare situation is a lot of mainer..
Alleged the business that fight defeat, point to the child namely fight blow ability.
Acquire the university entrance exam as a child, middle and primary school of 12 years is taught, it is a protracted battle, hold to, assiduous, more defeat heals brave, behead of pass a barrier will.
This kind of character, in the child in the following life, also attach most importance to especially should.
Also hope you tell your child so: We had not arrived when spelling endowment, can boil the past, it is the person that the thing can carry on the shoulder.
(3) life aesthetic feeling
What calls the life aesthetic feeling?
Before paragraph I go to time Beijing is away on official business, interview very long the friend that did not see.
Before paragraph time, he bought a house, about the same 50 of smooth rice.
But when I go to his home, discovering their home is very clean really, although the area is small, but disclosing a kind everywhere delicate and exquisite.
Discuss two small case.
There is a bundle of flower in the center of their home table, this bundle of flower can change everyday. I go to their home having a meal in the evening everyday, discover everyday the flower is different, rose of from time to time, chinese rose of from time to time, it is chrysanthemum occasionally.
The friend tells me: "His wife has botanical research, meet everyday from change the flower in the home. Those who differ is beautiful, represent different mood, they hope the child can feel have different happiness everyday. They hope the child can feel have different happiness everyday..
Additional, before their home has a meal everyday, can open musical opportunity, put pure music, piano music, Gu Zheng, xiao or the pure tone of other musical instrument is happy.
Music can develop happy sense of the child not only, the child can let have good intention feeling when have a meal like. Alleged and happy, be to a day of 3 eat the bosom is put look forward to?
So, often wanting to wanted to buy the toy of big house, try to win sb's favor to the child, everyman can make the child abundant euqally: Accompany him to watch the setting sun, accompany him to hear a song that he likes most, accompany him to play silt in the seaside, accompany him to see tiny spot.
Happy family is mostly similar, wretched family, each have each misfortune. When you feel the life is aimed at you, can go looking beside the person is how to iron of very hot life, perhaps you can discover, the happiness of the life is in your finger tip.
