Come 18 years the book that I wrote a lot of articles to recommend others, but be turn for oneself to give a book for the first time, do not know to should say what is good however.
I am honest from wide! " what you see is not me those who see -- close child the secret in reading " this book, it is I peep like actually like making, follow in child buttock jian hou mian, copy bit by bit.
Tell the truth, as a child I am cowardly, not self-confident, bashful. Did not think of since begin to write close child read column, publish especially " what you see is not me see -- close child the secret in reading " this postscript, I have boast of a lot of person love, have childishness again!
"Do you feel I have mother childishness? " the pride that I pretend to be modesty to however some of depression does not live.
"What? " the son looks at me gravely, he had been used to mom to ask him all sorts of curious and curious questions, be recorded to be on broken paper of a piece of Zhang Xiao by mom next.
"Ask you I am slow-witted like you bud! "Ask you I am slow-witted like you bud!!
The son is crooked head saw me, say: "Slow-witted... insufficient still bud. "Slow-witted... insufficient still bud..
"That, how ability bud? How ability bud??
The son says: "Very difficult, the cerebra because of you already the format was changed. If you play with me more, you still have opportunity initialization. " the son learns simple process designing from one grade, constant regular meeting says a few term.
When after-thought is pregnant, do not know the effect that is hormone, I for a time special angst, fear oneself are not a good mother, fear to take care of bad him, fear he can censure me one day: "Why to pass my permission, take me to this world? Take me to this world??
It is when little baby in my bosom Mian of to one's heart's content, I understood suddenly, need not fear, when I do not know how to be done, should ask he is good only. In fact, I never won't talk because of the child and affect communication. Very natural, he can express his need with expression, movement.
One day we go out to take a walk. He lies over, the eye is orthoptic sky. I want to know what he saw, then I also lay down come, lie on lawn. Day, that is the picture that I never had seen: Irregular stagger branches and leaves is knitted give a picture, blue sky medium cloud move sadly, changing smooth image constantly. I realize, the child is to go up to the sky to wear tat to our time, make us organic the meeting is refluent and on, the childhood that regain never is answered. If we just are not immersed oneself in,hurry on with our journey, however rein in footstep, change a perspective, it is the entrance door that can see fairy tale world slow open.
What is " childishness " ? Ming Daizhe learns domestic plum to gift presented to a senior at one's first visit as a mark of esteem say: "Husband childishness person, open-armed also, ... husband childishness person, absolutely false pure, this heart that reads aloud at first also. If lose childlike innocence, lose sincerity; Lose sincerity, lose true person. " accordingly, alleged childishness, do not contain the sincerity with false a tiny bit namely.
Language of Tong Yan child interesting depend on beyond open-armed. Before sleeping for instance, I give myself wipe on the face on the frost that protect skin, the child is in aside pop eye, I ask him: "What are you seeing? " he is very amazed the ground says: "Why should you wax to oneself? " I amuse him: "The cheek to resemble you is euqally smooth. " he shakes shake one's head: "Otiose, you always frown, hit how many candle smooth also not. Hit how many candle smooth also not..
I write this word on napkin rapidly. -- I write children column is one borroweds completely make, excerption the child's language come down just, otherwise is a clumsy copyist.
Children world and adult world are different. Foster the child's process, the ego that lets us opportunity and child finish life together grows. What Piyeluofeinuji writes Italian philosopher " the child is a philosopher " this book once also gave me very big inspire.
E.g. , about time. Dot experiences the means of time is different from an adult. To the adult, time resembles an arrow, point to a direction forever, go never be being answered, must finish the job whip and spur. And the child's time resembles a circle however, where to also go. Of course, as the child grow, he also establishs adult time concept gradually, form the thinking kind of a management by objectives.
On the contrary, grow up can from what be acquired over there children? We can learn appreciation slow.
Adult time kind also can have two kinds, be like the diverse line of small stream and train. Small stream can circle stone, plant to make a group, occasionally slow, occasionally rapid; And train is the thing that has schedule, bit bang Lang advances according to the plan. We can advance according to established course in that way like train, also can resemble a child occasionally same, small like stream is liked in that way, comply with, each each rock that enjoys our place to encounter, small grass.
If must say what childishness follows the grow upping's heart where to be respectively, it is us the rhythm with jumpy heart is different. The palpitant rhythm of children is close to the rhythm at nature more, " the child is a philosopher force " the say in this book: "The rhythm that there is ourselves not only on this world -- the rhythm of our desire, actuation rhythm, rhythm of the plan, still have more capacious more harmonious rhythm, the rhythm of our rhythm of nature, for instance closer life. The rhythm of our rhythm of nature, for instance closer life..
When rhythm of our rein in, appreciation is slow, time feeling just is met outspread, experience the happiness of life, is not move be oppressinged advances at full speed.
I am once good the entrance ticket that bought innovation exhibition not easily, bringing the child one big early hurry to. He was enchanted by a small pool of exhibition doorway however. Whole stepping on that turbid hole in the morning. If I am an adult state of mind,meet special angst: "Spent so much money to see an exhibition, you are here dabble! That follows in the home what to is distinguished! That follows in the home what to is distinguished!!
I overcame my worry eventually, just took off his shoe and sock, furl trouser legs, let his to the top of one's bent amuse oneself. Play enough wash clean to toilet later.
Next he also saw an exhibition, because time is insufficient, look very hastily, and the child also is staring at 9 projects to look repeatedly only. I again and again gnash one's teeth, control oneself be agitated and nag. When going out puddle already by insolation. The child says: "Puddle had come home. We also come home. We also come home..
After the event, I feel that is happy one day, the sort of happy not be to use money to measure the value returned entrance ticket.
To respect the child's rhythm, the adult should abandon his rhythm occasionally. If hold is opened one kind with relaxation attitude, can feel have a surprise everywhere constantly. We often play game together.
Do not like to get up e.g. dot. I also can tell a truth to him, can decide alarm clock, but this comes happily as game. I can ask the head the child a day night: "Who will want to let call you to get up tomorrow? " the child says: "I want to let pea archer call me to get up. "I want to let pea archer call me to get up..
The following day in the morning, I turn pea into archer, gave out a kiss to arrive on baby face, give out a kiss to arrive on darling nose, launch a kiss to go up to forehead. The child slowly come to, begin return fire, launch a kiss to give mother.
Occasionally pea archer also makes do not have the child, cat-and-dog: "I by pillow entwine, I by quilt entwine. " mom is reincarnate and preterhuman, want big fight pillow to blame: "I will save you, I rescued your toe head, I save your crus immediately, now is knee good, little stomach also came out. Little stomach also came out..
If still do not remember a bed, I say: "This quilt is strange too fierce, bad! Mom also by entwine. " the son jumps to say: "Let me save you! "Let me save you!!
True, a lot of moment, the child just is the playwrite of game, I am to cherish the heart of a kind of amazed appreciation to participate in come in. When he falls ill, still also be so amused even, when he has a fever, I ask him the feeling how, child groan says: "7 minutes ripe. "7 minutes ripe..
The process that rears the child has joy, more it is painstaking, and very easy generation frustrates and listless. If we can change thinking way, inspect the process that rears the child those who be life to set out again, can see completely different view. Because, foster the child is pains not merely to pay, also be a spirit is expeditionary, the opportunity of childhood of a return.
I sincerely with " borrowed " the speech action flourish of children, record in the book, remind oneself lifetime nurture has amazed heart, forever forever won't listless.
