Say the family is the warmest harbour. But every family to the child the harbour that is warmth, also be terrible nightmare occasionally.
Some parents understand not to understand to quarrel now, roughhouse before the child's face even, one's words is intense, disregard those who reach the child to experience at all. I think such parents is irresponsible, they did not give the child a warm home, give the child a nightmare however.
I have a such friends, she is this " nightmare " one of victims.
She is a singleton female, can see parents rarely as a child, have a holiday every time he is arranged on board, "Repatriate " to so called home town. This native place is very new to her, include those family members, total feeling is cold-shouldered all over the face. In her impression, she returns that so called home town, can look for those young associate play, have these young associate of Tong Zhen only probably people ability equality treats her.
In her fragmentary memory, father is a new vocabulary, in the memory that has father again, still quarrel with the mother for the most part, she in those days is not sensible, knowing that is to quarrelling, she knows the mother cried only.
After quarrelling that, she thinks everything returns to origin, she thinks the life can continue. Until... she still said with me special " funny " thing. Summer, she wants to eat watermelon, she calls to father, she says with me, she won't forget that feeling forever, she calls father, but she at that time feels she is calling a stranger, she feels this is she calls father for the first time, very unfamiliar, very unfamiliar.
But after all good times don't last long, her father gives far door, also did not come back again. She says she cannot overlook that scene forever. She and mother sit on the bed, crazy looking at a doorway dully, await her father, without, that door does not have a person to come back from beginning to end. Later, spend the New Year every year she is spent with the mother only. Have a year, she hears they divorced, she what meet then nevertheless does not know a divorce, she knows only, she is a child that does not have father, had not seen the child of her father almost even. ?
After be brought up, she says with me, the likelihood also had never gotten, also do not understand in one's childhood, the child parents for company that also did not see others home how how, so she does not resemble the child with other close sheet, hope father loves so. Because she feels she can have not gotten love then, do not understand, do not yearn for so. She says she feels she is very merciless occasionally, because what teach her without the person in one's childhood,she considers as is affection.
Pass the example of my friend, I hope present parents can care the child that cares his more, do not let her feel the home is nightmare, it is bloodcurdling place, do not be willing to come home, because return the home,a depressive atmosphere lets children be enraged nevertheless fully.
I hope all children can be kind to his child, let a harbour that becomes child warmth. Do not quarrel, because you quarrel,fall victim is the biggest is the child forever. ?
