? In natatorium, a mom entered son area of 5 years old female bathhouse change clothes, suffer many lady as a result complain. Last week 6, this once had the appearance that pass more in the whole nation, appear inside natatorium of a gym in Chengdu remote antiquity. It is natatorium prohibits 3 years old at the same time the provision that above male Tong Jin enters female bathhouse, it is the husband at the same time occupied can oneself are attended, be afraid that son of 5 years old cannot change the clothes by oneself again, but under this mom Chen Li (alias) made such choice. Contradictory backside, it is bilateral provide for oneself to 5 years old of boys the difference of ability and cognitive ability viewpoint.
Experience is awkward
Mother: Must not do it soon
On June 23 afternoon, be in in remote antiquity inside the female bathhouse of natatorium of fitness of power Er be an official, chen Li changes jacket to take to son of 5 years old, pulling him to go. The staff member of gym made acoustical call with Chen Li, tell her subsequently, because take the son,took female bathhouse change clothes that day, an attendant lady complained this matter to gym.
The result of this one awkwardness, chen Li expects somewhat beforehand. She says, because the husband is too busy, can oneself take a son to swim to gym, "The natatorium that I know gym sets 3 years old of above male child cannot take female bathhouse, myself also very approve such provision. Myself also very approve such provision..
Because involve change clothes, deposit wait for matters concerned, chen Li thinks the son still does not have such providing for oneself ability, and bathhouse inland slips, to a little boy of 5 years old, have safe hidden trouble. Under be in a dilemma, chen Li finds gym staff member to seek a help, "Gym respect expresses, can let gymnastical coach bring the child to male bathhouse, but how is the son also willing. Because this takes the son female bathhouse change clothes, solid belong to but. Solid belong to but..
Chen Li says, oneself also are not willing to take the son into female bathhouse very much. Her memory says, during change clothes, because have a woman attendant, the son showed a few not quite natural expression really, invite a parent finally child 2 people and other lady feel awkward. Chen Li thinks, if the husband does not have time, the son is current cannot proper motion change clothes, also not be willing to let gym staff member take bathhouse, cannot swim so. "Gym besides make this provision besides, do not have a few more accessary convenience measure, existing a few method are inextricability this one specific issue. Existing a few method are inextricability this one specific issue..
Gym: Proposal father and son or mother and daughter travel together
Be located in the gym of power Er be an official in remote antiquity, swim at the door the bathhouse of male and female of the pool, about " prohibit taking 3 years old the child of above enters opposite sex bathhouse " clew, scroll appears on an electron screen, and the broadcast inside gym, also can undertake sowing a newspaper uninterruptedly to this regulation.
Zhou Huankui of director of this gym membership to Chengdu business signs up for a reporter to confirm, on June 23 that day, have this thing that Chen Li narrates truly. The other side expresses, because major does fitness power Er be an official, swimming is accessary only, only parents is the member of gym, child ability handles natant card here, "Male child should handle card, father must be the member here, and female child should handle card, so the mother must be a member, the end that such doing, consider to come over namely fitness, those who swim, it is father and son or person of the same trade of mother and daughter at least, can avoid to appear that day the sort of circumstance. Can avoid to appear that day the sort of circumstance..
Do card to pay according to what Chen Li offers nevertheless the record shows, when the son was handling card that day, oneself husband is not the member of this gym, "My husband is the member that just does after the son handled card. " take a son to swim to Chen Li be related, zhou Huankui expresses, if be maternal belt,son, father takes a daughter, most the ability that at least should assure to the child has him to change the garment, wash and dress, if be no good really, the staff member of gym also can help parents look after children to change clothes of same sex bathhouse. However to Chen Li the circumstance that day, two kinds of plan not be successful.
Inside gym, reporter of Chengdu business newspaper and the lady that swim more before the name undertook communicating, almost all suffer visit an object to be disapproved of 5 years old male child belt enters female bathhouse.
Awkward backside
The backside of controversy, it is to be opposite 5 years old whether does the child have provide for oneself the discussion of ability and sexual resolution. When the phenomenon accepts Chengdu business to sign up for a reporter to interview, Li Tao of teacher of education of mental health of elementary school of Cheng Hua experiment once was mentioned at this point, the child of 4 years old of above not should again with the opposite sex in all bath, see opposite sex body when the child, stem from curiosity, can ask its parents a lot of questions, the measure of these problems, perhaps can exceed parents can pilot limits.
Visit
Much home fitness can be stated the staff member can help
Reporter of Chengdu business newspaper is visited and sought advice from the chain fitness that Chengdu has natatorium 5 times meeting place, these fitness are met place enters opposite sex bathhouse to all have a regulation to looking after children, age limitation is in 3 years old. Nevertheless, some places did not make clear this regulation fair show come out.
Meeting place controller tells the fitness that Chengdu owns store of more than 10 chain the reporter, actually the mother takes son, father to take the phenomenon that the daughter goes to swimming to happen from time to tome alone alone, "We once also received those who cross a client to complain, especially the female minds male Tong Jin very much into female bathhouse. " accordingly, fitness can be met the need according to the client, school coach or staff member enter child area same sex bathhouse, help change clothes, store thing. Another chain fitness is met, storefront is more near residential village, many parents can let the child be gone to before had changed the swimsuit in the home, its controller expresses, encounter afore-mentioned situations, also can let gym coach help only.
Nevertheless, this kind of method also is not perfect, "It is child of 5 years old likewise, in growing process, also can have acknowledge and provide for oneself ability, even the difference of disposition, do not be willing to let stranger belt, and the line of vision that the child is taken to leave his by stranger, a lot of parents also are not at ease, but if go discussing parents at this point the educational issue to the child, that goes far. Besides fitness is met this kind of service industry, should go from the service level of oneself look upon this one problem. " a fitness interlinks Chengdu inn controller such say.
Is the child how old cannot take opposite sex bathhouse? 3 years old, 4 years old, be still 5 years old? Psychology seeks advice from a person of exemplary virtue to show, the child is 3 years old before belong to infantile period, 3 years old arrive 6 years old is infancy. But below normal circumstance, begin partly from 2 years old, the child is already conscious to the gender. If the parent takes a child to enter opposite sex bathhouse, the curiosity that can arouse the child to be known to opposite sex sexual distinction or it is an error, bring about the child likely even to be in the circumstance that sexual precocity appears henceforth in growing.
Solve
Kiss technically child bathhouse? The personage inside course of study: The condition is finite actually, besides natant bathhouse, same men and women has communal toilet not, because this similar awkwardness is likely also,appear in toilet. 2017, hangzhou city appears to take the child with lesser age to use in the light of elder " the 3rd toilet " , convenient solve father to take little girl, or the issue that mom takes little boy to use the toilet. So, can be natatorium denied also adopt similar measure?
Chengdu business signs up for a reporter to understand, 2015, natant school of Shanghai rainbow mouth with respect to open up division of special children change clothes and bathhouse, just hang a curtain in the corner, make a division of special children change clothes. Indicative without sexual distinction, the men and women is not divided inside shade, arrive to be used first first. Still have the small washroom that a 2 square metre control, take little girl technically for father or the case that mom takes little boy is used, the child can change clothes inside, bathe and go up toilet.
Nevertheless, according to Chengdu a personage inside course of study says, at present the natatorium on face of the Chengdu City, had not heard where home has kiss technically child bathhouse, it is the restriction that accepts place scale above all, go installing without surplus space, at the same time the operator of natatorium, counterpoise without field real estate more, ground of assume sth as a matter of course undertakes transforming to the place or cannot build accordingly.
Another personage inside the course of study of management natatorium expresses Chengdu, natant change clothes and go up toilet is different, demand far not as good as latter, at the same time the setting kisses specially child bathhouse, also need natatorium industry to come true in develop slowly and upgrading. "Not be at present actually must natatorium one-sided changes ability to solve, the parent is in look after children when swimming, also can consider, realize belt of father, grandfather as far as possible the boy, does mother, grandma take the girl? Does mother, grandma take the girl??
