Heavy the life sees in light of next hearts, we discover not hard, a lot of people have the habit that oppugns others: Stranger comes over ask the way, we can feel to have a purpose; See the colleague is taking the famous brand package of a new fund, we also can be oppugned is fake; The supermarket gets sales promotion, we can oppugn this is commodity appeared quality problem; It is to see a few officials, star does commonweal activity even, we also can feel this is in namely beautiful.
The near future, chinese youth newspaper office can investigate the investigation that the center has to 10709 people to show, of 71.8% suffer the person that visit to affirm beside the person that widespread presence is oppugned chronically, the person of 41.1% says frankly the trouble that oneself have chronic doubt. Why can be people oppugned chronically? The of 65.6% person in investigation thinks " acclaim socially too much, dare not believe easily " , 63.8% think " crisis of social occurrence accredit, believe to be mixed loftily no longer pure " .
We must see, be used to what the gender oppugns a phenomenon to appear, reflection gives a few issues that exist socially. Above all, mirrorred current people to be opposite a kind of angst of real message, must admit to be put in a few people really socially, they are a purpose with money and interest, the goodness that uses people undertakes deceit, accordingly, people hour keeps vigilant, dare be not touched easily, for fear that is cheated. Next, psychological one concept " psychological defense mechanism " make clear, people feels to avoid the anguish on spirit, angst and injustice wait for psychology, can make the adjustment of all sorts of mentally accidentally of purpose, this kind is doubt, negative, the circumstance that atttacks others even is a kind when psychology adjusts, because be in,be actually of people subconscious in, hope others is inferior to him. Finally, administrative consciousness of the people, democratic consciousness, law consciousness is increasingly rising, but of relevant section information opaque, brought about doubt to have vivosphere.
The occurrence that oppugns sound shows our society is opener and opener, democratic. A few doubt that come from ordinary common people and professional personage sound, it is certain to can rise " find fault " with supervisory action, help us make a clear distinction between right and wrong, gain genuine knowledge, but, the doubt of for no reason brings about what accredit feels between person and person to be short of necessarily break, 62.6% suffer the person that visit to express, chronic doubt is likely the warm and genial meaning in pare life. Accordingly, if do not have thinking to think, can lose the significance with real doubt and value only.
The first, have the state of mind of a sunshine. State of mind can let us obtain happiness, also can cast us painful abyss. Everything often suspects, let people be immersed in unhappy situation necessarily. Contrary, everything thinks toward advantage, ability lets us look for a happiness.
The 2nd, the society dominates your sentiment. American famous psychologist Zhanmusi thinks: "Because be anxious,the person is not ability cries, angry ability brawl, fear to just quiver, rather, because cry to just be anxious,the person is, because quarrel ability life, because quiver,just fear. " that is to say, greatly, the mood is a kind of consciousness that changes to the body. Accordingly, positive sentiment can help people enhance the strength of human body.
The 3rd, should appear when oppugning, we want reason to think, integration analysis. Consult a few professional personages more, pay close attention to the information that mainstream media releases, wanting clear doubt is to beg true, request a letter, but if contrariwise is returned when facing factual evidence,do not believe, continue doubt of for no reason, such doubt can leave only " true " and " letter " further and further.
