Stanford university teachs CarolDweck to ever had done a test, praise means to tell children the result of the test with two kinds. The first kind is " this is a very good mark, you are really clever! " , praise the child's intelligence quotient namely; And the 2nd kind is " this is a very good mark, you are certain very hard! " the process of the effort that praises the child namely.
Give children the job of two different difficulty finally, let them choose, be spoken highly of because the child of intelligence quotient was affixed " connate child " label, chose simple task only. And was chosen by the child of praise process the task of affliction.
So each parent is in when praising the child, should magnify their effort, decision-making with the choice, such wanting cleverer than praising them, can let the child be approved more, increase their self-confident heart, ability has prospect in the future. These a few kinds praise way, the parent must learn.
1, the effort that praises the child:
If the child is painting a picture, learn musical instrument, when perhaps the report is performed, the parent is not behaved for the result happily only, should remember the effort that child place gives and hardships. When the child encounters difficulty, the parent cannot teach the child to quit, cannot deny with this more the child's effort, offer the child affirmation however.
So this moment, the parent should say with the child " you very hard, very marvellous! Very marvellous!!
2, those who praise the child is enthusiastic:
Find pleasure to help others to be by advocate a kind of goodness, the parent should teach the child to be happy to aid the person's spirit as a child more. And another person was helped actively in the child, was to give no matter roam about feline water is drunk, still helped the other classmate in the class finish the job, what the parent wants to praise the child in time is enthusiastic.
This moment should say with him " you helped others, really pretty good! Really pretty good!!
3, praise the child hold to:
When the thing that accomplishing to have a challenge very much when the child, he abandons without midway, try hard by right of oneself however and insisted to accomplish this thing. For instance the child practices hard a particularly difficult melody, speech that perhaps finished tall difficulty independently, what need to praise the child is firm and persistent with patience.
At that time the parent should encourage him so " although this thing is very difficult, but you did not abandon, very marvellous! Very marvellous!!
4, the progress that praises the child:
Child exam is taken an examination of be bungled, perhaps have a few drawback, the parent had better not attack the child severely, go encouraging the child however, tell him to wanted to discover a problem only, solve hard can become outstanding. If the child checks a mark to promote somewhat the next time, or give up oneself indisposition, the parent must praise his progress.
At that time parents can say with the child " you progressed a lot of, mom / father is your pride! Mom / father is your pride!!
5, the originality that praises the child:
The child is fancy-free, cerebral hole is very large, often show beyond the ordinary person's originality, but this must not be mixed " clever " connection rises, this is the creativity that the child accumulates in working process and imagination. The parent is encouraged in time, can let the child there will be idea more henceforth, more independent.
The parent mights as well at that time and the child says " really fierce! You this drop has new idea very much! You this drop has new idea very much!!
