Parents does not let a son marry divorce woman to be wife, what be to worrying?

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About marriage, if marital view of children agrees with marital view of parents, that marriage is met very successful. But be like the marriage of fruit children to if watch existence dispute with parental marriage,be watched, that regular meeting makes difference when the problem that marry. Having a kind of difference among them mediate very hard, the amative object that is children is a has divorced person, for instance the daughter's boy friend is a divorce man, or the son's boy friend is a divorce woman. Because parental marriage is watched,be compared by lay ideal influence ground normally deep, the son that accepts oneself very hard occasionally so marries woman of a divorce. I have a friend to be in now for be anxious of this kind of problem.

Child a person of extraordinary powers and girlfriend show are beautiful already love 3 years, two people one 30 years old, 31 years old, had arrived early the comfortable marriage age on traditional sense. They did not marry all the time, besides child a person of extraordinary powers says had not been marry besides ready-made, more crucial is: "Beautiful show has divorced, he is afraid of family to object. " this is a kind " ostrich state of mind " , in escapism, dare not face a problem.

Actually, they arrive from love now, feeling is very good all the time, he speaks of with me via regular meeting, I often also have a meal together with them, feel they are together particularly appropriate. If beautiful show had not divorced, reckon they are early married.

Had divorced about beautiful show this thing, when he goes after her, had mentioned with me, say, "Dong Lin, I fall in love with a person, although she has divorced, but I feel us two particularly appropriate. But I feel us two particularly appropriate..

I had asked him at that time, "Did you want to be clear about? Love and marrying is two things, with love of wife of a divorce, do not have a person to be able to object you. But if marry, your family objects likely, did you do good psychology to prepare? If you do not have ready-made, cannot love the word that go down all the time, it is irresponsible to the other side. She already had endured the injury of the divorce, you cannot hurt her again. You cannot hurt her again..

He says he does not mind, say to want him to agree only, family scarcely can object. Look nevertheless with respect to present circumstance, he should nod self-confidence to overdo from time to tome, be faced with truly married, still be afraid of in his heart.

Beautiful show knows his concern, tell him, "Do not have a thing, you follow how should say in the home, if they object really, that also is the thing that does not have method, to moment I can leave actively. To moment I can leave actively..

He does not want to part with her of course, assure to her, regular meeting endeavors to persuade father and mother. Then, before paragraph time he heartens with said in the home, just as one would expect, parents objects consistently. Father is not bad, basically be his mother, not by defend oneself, tell him, "She calculates the United States to be like a beauty, you also cannot marry woman of a divorce! You also cannot marry woman of a divorce!!

This kind of result although he has thought ahead of schedule, but encountered truly, still be at a loss a bit. He asks a mother, "Why cannot marry a divorce woman? Divorce woman also is a woman, she sets fire without homicide again, just had divorced, what do this have? What are you worrying about after all? What are you worrying about after all??

The mother does not explain at the beginning, that is to say does not agree. Be being tangled to ask all the time by him later above that problem, added father to persuade by, she just explains, say:

"Above all, I do a mother this, be not accepted in the heart. Family son marries a chrysanthemum big daughter, my son married a divorce woman however, I how not reconciled to;

Next, calculate me to agree, but you marry a divorce woman, this kind of thing comes out, can invite alien ridicule, go which to moment by person jest, can let our home carry do not be an upright person at first.

Still have, divorce woman is not divorce of without reason of for no reason normally, her oneself is put in some kind of problem for certain, ability can bring about a divorce. After this kind of her problem and you marry recommit, how do you do? Also divorce? You arrive if moment divorced, it is so easy to marry daughter-in-law to be able to be done not have again! It is so easy to marry daughter-in-law to be able to be done not have again!!

The mother says before 2 o'clock is to care about lay eye, child a person of extraordinary powers feels OK still to accept, but at 3 o'clock, he does not have method to accept, he feels maternal idea is a bit narrow, denied divorce woman overall, beautiful show is in that way person far from.

He said the reason that divorces before beautiful show with the mother, say, "She is not the sort of divorce woman in your impression, the divorce is not her fault, it is the fault of her former husband, this I am very clear. She is so good to me, it is a person that suits to do wife most. If you do not let me marry with her, then I did not marry, anyway I should be together with her namely. Anyway I should be together with her namely..

Result, he and mother quarrel greatly one, ran from the home. After running, did not search beautiful, will look for me to drink first, said the thing that just produces in the home with me, ask how I should do after all.

Actually, for the similar case that before photograph of his this kind of circumstance compares me, contacts, be close friends solve more. Because I had gone to their home, had seen his parents, not be the person of the sort of persist unreasonably, especially his mother, it is a very lovely old lady. But, because traditional marital idea is confirmed,the likelihood is, so need time is adjusted, they want to be able to be accepted from the heart above all approbate beautiful, ability agrees child a person of extraordinary powers and her marriage.

I tell him:

"The aunt is afraid that at 3 o'clock, actually simple for it is a kind of psychogenic disorder, she has not stridden the Na Daokan in the heart, your arris is to force she is accepted, affirmation is not actual. This kind of thing is unintelligible definitely, but also not be to do not have method to solve. You should make clear now at 3 o'clock:

The first, beautiful show this individual is no problem, you yourself should decide again;

The 2nd, the aunt is afraid that at 3 o'clock, you need to realise this is a block up;

The 3rd, from the consideration on marital whole, you need to decide you and beautiful show are the most appropriate really.

Actually the a bitth and you should be very affirmatory at 3 o'clock, basically be at 2 o'clock. This kind of problem, after all you are to just followed say in the home, it is very normal that they are accepted hard for a short while. Accept hard for a short while, do not represent can not accept all the time, need time. And in this process, what you should do is diligent communicate with them, give up the apprehension of their heart.

Additional, often take beautiful show to come home, it is good that she has many, you said not to calculate, him person allowing the home goes experiencing, this is more convincing. This kind of matter is not gotten urgently, come slowly. You if He Xiuxiu is improper, that family objects, I persuade you to listen to family. But you are so appropriate, do not marry really too regrettablly. Do not marry really too regrettablly..

His be indignant, say, "Anyway anyhow, I should marry with her. Be no good really, I with respect to the act first and report afterwards, perhaps act according to child get married, in moment home different idea also must agree. In moment home different idea also must agree..

I remind him not to want too actuation, because this kind of thing and family are troubled by,cannot break, do not have advantage to beautiful show later otherwise. Can solve the problem now, person allowing the home nods agreed to marry again, later can little very much wife and mother is contradictory.

He says he should go back and beautiful show discusses, I tell him, "Do not want all words to say with her, meet her create psychological pressure otherwise. Solve this problem to basically depend on you, she lets participate in when taking her to come home it is good to go in. Be no good really, to moment I go into action personally go be being become to you a persuasive talker. To moment I go into action personally go be being become to you a persuasive talker..

Child the problem that a person of extraordinary powers and the marriage with beautiful show encounter, before also belonging to us, had mentioned in the article " the marriage that different idea children chooses parents independently " . This kind of thing wants specific issue concrete analysis, the may not that parents says is completely right, but also may not is completely wrong, him party should know no matter in what way. Above all the marriage that you should choose to yourself is responsible, affirmatory whether true appropriate. Next, parents' afraid problem, the problem that see you also cannot overall oversight, taking these problems to go from the marriage that examines you to choose afresh, if be put in the problem that parents says, then you cannot act wilfully. If nonexistent parents says problem, then you can endeavor to go to those who strive for them agreeing, follow above me child those methods that a person of extraordinary powers says, you can consult.