"Ursine child " eventually fast termed begins, to a lot of mom, it is a favour that is fond of old general to run quickly really, should leave at long last with driving ursine children " battle of wits fights brave " mode. The firepower test of IQ of so much day, EQ at long last swift end, eventually ursine child " infestation " time waste time is not worth to remaining sum! The feeling is about immediately " liberate " , the day that the day of the liberated area is La La...
But be opposite for some children, however how happy also do not rise, feel even " catastrophic " befall is same. When just having a holiday the sort of " put flying ego to endeavor mad " excitement became " good view is seldom in " if disappointed is broken, can be in not carefully " had not finished exercise " frighten and durative " do not consider feigned employment " in the feeling that suffer a pain anxiety-ridden rise. Of course, some children may have other concern, be like new human concern, difficulty of lesson grow in quantity increases, the exam is bad to lag behind with the rank, mobile phone computer is about by " close " etc, anyhow, the argument that makes the child scared term begins has one billion four hundred and ten million and sixty-five thousand four hundred and eight. Face such child, "The anguish of painful child, the joy of happy child " the feeling of mom stops is to plunge into a heart, plunged into kidney of conscience lienal lung simply!
When above these " afraid " cannot alleviate when accentuating further instead, want vigilant child to appear " term begins ask for integratedly " . "Opening syndrome " cry again " opening dread disease " , it is to point to will end to term begins in holiday initiative period of time, the blame that study of a kind of when child place shows apparent incommensurate new term lives implement the psychological problem of qualitative sex. In psychological behavior respect meeting expression is a mood not stable, nervous, afraid, easy be agitated, attention is not centered, memory drops, comprehension drops, be disgusted with learns, protracted action (protracted exercise, get up, have a meal etc) , sluggish action, escape behavior (do not wish; Some children still can behave the change that is physiology respect, include not feel like eating, sleep to be not worn, check the dizziness that does not have a reason, disgusting, bellyacke, pee incontinent, tired, have a fever even etc. On psychology, opening syndrome " it is right actually " term begins " those who show a series of " angst " symptom, the body that the change of physiology respect is psychological angst turns performance.
When " opening syndrome " when coming unexpectedly, how should the parent and child do?
Do not want certainly above all panic-stricken, arms will will be blocked, water comes earthy cover, it is despised on the strategy, next, want to take it seriously on tactics. Specific as follows:
One, the proposal that gives the parent
? 1. Calmly, maintain " child cruel you are 100 thousand, you still wait for him to be like first love " state of mind.
When the child is in angst condition, if parents returns angst than the child, can let the child more angst. Parents keeps calm, billows not the condition of Jing, can make the child safe feel times add. At that time parents needs to use the action and expression to pass such information to the child: This is not the thing with alarming what.
2. Accompany the child one case " concentrate on more serious things " , let child profundity appreciate arrive " I am not a person is fighting " .
① adjusts time of work and rest. The life work and rest of holiday often not the rule, sleeping not to rise in the morning in the evening is common phenomenon, if biological clock is adjusted not in time, so after term begins, attend class to be able to be late, catnap. Accordingly, the parent should be offerred for the child quiet " concentrate on more serious things " environment, shut TV, network in time, adjust time of domestic work and rest together with the child, according to go to school at ordinary times time retires for the night normally, get up, food, lest term begins bell of content of have a youthful look is unbalanced, impact study.
② interacts equally communication, with the child new term of a protocol studies a plan. Parents no matter at hand job is much busier, want equal communicating to squeeze a time and child everyday, such talent are real " understand " the child. Protocol talks things over together with the child on the foundation here a cogent, feasible new term studies a plan (this process is given priority to with the child, the parent's action is assist and guide) . Such meetings let child know fairly well, have " bottom " , conduce to the angst sentiment that reduces not certain to future factor thereby.
③ has been done before term begins " material " preparation. Low grade student can be in of the parent accompany next preparative study and articles for daily use, high grade student wants him to wait for cap of the dress, shoe rinse clean, had made each preparation before term begins. Additional, also want to adjust on food. The child was formed in holiday have a meal the habit that eat and drink too much, have a meal time does not have the rule, hungry with respect to meeting snack. The parent should change dietary habit of the child slowly, a day of 3 eat are reasonable and prandial, 3 eat time should follow the pattern strictly.
3. Draw lessons from " old man of leather horse benefit effect " , give the child active psychological suggestion.
Effect also weighs old man of benefit of leather case horse " effect of Er of Luo Sen tower " or " expect effect " . By American famous psychologist Er of Luo Sen tower and elegant Gebusen are on elementary school education give test and verify puts forward, show people is based on forms to the consciousness of some kind of circumstances expectation or prophecy, can make this circumstances generation gets used to this one expectation or fatidical effect. Say simply, effect leaves old man of benefit of leather case horse us a such enlightenment: Praise, trust and expect to have a kind of energy, it can change the person's behaviour. The credit that obtains another person when a person, when praising, he feels won social support, enhanced self-worth thereby, become self-confidence, self-respect, obtain a kind active up motivation, endeavor to achieve the expectation of the other side, in order to avoid disappointment of the other side, what maintain support of this kind of society thereby is successional.
Parents often should pass a kind of such information at once to the child: No matter allow when to be awaited, parents believes can sturdily " you can go " . Give the child active psychological suggestion more, termed begins for instance can see long-unseen good friend again, can learn more new thing, can get a teacher praise, can make oneself more fierce wait, let them look forward to somewhat to the school.
2, the proposal that gives the child
1. Bills due is fastened on school work.
Complete summer vacation work actively, to each student, it is " perfectly justified " thing. Should protect as soon as possible protect a quantity to complete work character, ability is in after term begins " have outer part " go seeing teacher and classmate. This is a when ease the worry before term begins serious content.
2. Reasonable use mobile phone and computer.
Most student holiday in order to rest, recreation is given priority to, it is in order to learn complementary, teacher and parent do not have overmuch interpose commonly. Before term begins, the student is mixed to the TV program game often meaning still did not use up, right now, the student should accept the parent's opinion, restrain oneself actively, come to attention move to study.
3. Before undertaking opening " warm up " .
After exercise is finished, should arrange time " gain new insights through reviewing old material " . If review law of formula of the English word that has learned last term, maths, physics to wait, awaken the memory that stores in cerebrum; Shift to an earlier date knowledge of new term of prepare lessons before class, accomplish " military forces was not moved, army provisions go ahead of the rest " . This also is very important segment.
4. Move appropriately and read.
Motion is to counter a sentiment low confused very good method. If you had termed begins,perhaps wait to term begins in the home, move immediately please rise! If conditional can go gym or playground ran, those who do not have field is OK run casually in the home move, when you motion rises to be able to discover position is a lot of better. When wanting to move, the book that takes you to like rapidly breaks up to look, let oneself rectify an individual to be enmeshed between book, go experiencing reading pleasure, hold reading convention everyday, position can rise actively!
5. Institutional autosuggestion, do psychology to debug.
Tell oneself: Wanted to term begins, must concentrate on more serious things; Loosen the mood, decide goal of academic be used to; End off mode, start new journey.
6. Communicate with classmate and parents more.
Can call to the good friend, talk about the plan of new term, listen to the classmate's aspirations, understand many classmates and oneself to have the same feeling thereby, conduce to thereby alleviate intense sentiment, let him mood feel relieved. Communicate with parents more, parents has rich experience of life and experience, can from support and guidance are obtained over there parents.
[the proposal that gives father and mother is summed up]
It is fundamental theory with getting angry please, insist not to roar, the principle of not do a hand's turn, insist to accompany and guide the child to grow hard, will " child cruel you are 100 thousand, you still wait for him to be like first love " spirit carries forward. After all, becoming father and mother is a glorious and long-term mission, we want an again and again to experience blow, must full blood of again and again is renascent. Parents! Cheer!
Cui Yonghua, famous expert, capital medical university is accessary doctor of director of Beijing children hospital, m.d. , the Master lays a teacher, show Beijing children hospital to arrange justice Fu director of division of hospital spirit psychology.
Director Cui Yonghua is mixed in Beijing children hospital arrange justice Fu the hospital all has visit a patient at home every week.
Time of pay a home visit of hospital of 1. Beijing children and section office:
Time of visit a patient at home: Zhou Er, week 4 round-the-clock
Section office of visit a patient at home: Mental division
2. arranges justice Fu time of hospital pay a home visit and section office:
Time of visit a patient at home: Zhou Yi, Zhou Wu in the morning
Section office of visit a patient at home: Mental psychology division
Offer sketch: Cui Yonghua of mental psychology division? ? ? ?
