Somebody is in, have an accuse and denounce at a meeting, this word a bit truly, it is completely by the truth of time test and verify. Even if be dot, play together or learn, because,the likelihood is a toy, simple a word or a movement, can produce the job of a few unpleasantness constantly. Conflict happened to return unlike adult between the child, not augural, without preparation, present " basically to get the characteristic of fast " . But a lot of moment, a few conflict of parents or rough stuff, let the child look however in the eye, write down go up in the heart.
Remember taking a son to teach a center early to attend class last year, because parking space of race to control made a noise to rise,see two mom in the parking lot, looking is not stubble of be apt to, the child influence that does not have how old thing to be opposite 34 years old is quite bad really. Arrived to teach a center early, saw them again unexpectedly, this thing is troubled by big. Two mom are in closet come across, it is continual quarrel next, roughhouse later, next 110 came, they respective to teach an orgnaization early to complain, say to should not recruit each other the member with such low quality.
This paragraph of experience makes me pretty good to condition of this kind of material, but the family with barren accomplishment is afraid, a what kind of child should they teach? See mom when the child such cloddish the language behavior with force, how to think? Violent, actually is an edge tool, if parental hand gave the child, what that child harms above all is he himself still has father and mother. Face violent language and action, how should parents teach the child?
1, oneself are not violent
Be like two mom in case, oneself are so cloddish with force, the child is met certainly somewhat follow the lead of. Because look in them,this kind of behavior is normal, father mother is done so, what do oneself have not possible, this can solve a problem namely. Such child will be special it is a center with ego, do not know how to communicate effectively, gregarious ability will be very poor, these are not parental place expectation. So, as parents, must deliver the child's regular efficient gregarious way, oneself are accomplished not violent.
2, nonviolent communication education
Nonviolent a communicating is these a few years of extraordinary popularity communication art, do not point to merely do not lay a person, not name-calling, still include more communication skill: Want to understand the opinion that how expresses oneself and need, want to understand the sentiment that how distinguishs opposite party, guide the other side to express his idea and need, be willing to give other place actively need, oneself should not give.
For example: What does church child want, be about to be conveyed directly come out, if cannot satisfy the child's requirement, also want to agree with the child's mood first, if say " mother special understanding you, you like this doggie particularly! "Lead the think of a way that knows the child next again, probably because like a doggie,he is not, however loneliness fails company. Can say " baby wants to play with it at that time! "After waiting for the child to affirm, can give out directly time is taken out to accompany baby more after solution " mom, good! "The problem was solved so, the child also won't willfully make a trouble.
3, violent language and behavior guide
Should tell the child to hit person, name-calling, indescribable pay no attention to not person, courteous etc is incorrect, this is cannot the bottom line of lay a finger on. Appear when the child this side issue when, must check for a short while. Only direction was opposite, ability of the child's development won't sideslip. Do not think the child became big by accident truth nature understood, everything is good the environment delivers the child badly, the biggest effect is parents here.
Instantly society, rough stuff common occurance of the child, how does campus bully approach make a person creepy. The heart for child health and growing environment, had done nonviolent communication education please!
