The father mother of one never has made Nuo law, also had not crouched a jail, they also do not hope of course oneself son of 5 years old is boxed up one day which. But be in and father mother goes out when the supermarket shops, if Nuo continues secretly chocolate or if chewing gum hides pocket inner tube to come home, father mother is very afraid, nuo will get into trouble.
When this day of Nuo follows mom to go to a supermarket shopping, mom sees Nuo is in again committed the crime, he hides a small field mint candy in the pocket, still control observation to have others seeing him. Mom is exceedingly angry, cry greatly to him rise, still laid his hand even, say he is a bad child. But the Nuo of discipline of small off year does not fear to take a beating it seems that, instead is mom begins to fear to followed a son to go out together, fear to face a son to steal the awkward scene that the thing brings already, fear to hit him to punish a son again, such doing herself is very actually sad also.
In the consciousness of the child before school age, all things on the world belong to him, however the fact is not such. Nuo is actually understanding why to steal a thing is forbidden, he does not understand why to take the thing other people that does not belong to his the meeting is not happy. Accordingly, before others tells her the truth, you should let her know, do not pass your permission, cannot take the thing of others casually, this, make the child earlier know to had been jumped over. Pair of faults can be distinguished in him child before, the parent should help them make judgement. When the thing that took others when the child every time, you should emphasize so emphasis consequence, such ability can let the child form dispute view, distinguish right with the fault.
How to prevent a problem
Draft regulation
Teach the child the thing that how should he want him to want to get with you, when he means a certain thing, encourage him to want with you directly. Tell the child to be in communal circumstance is other perhaps in the family, what can be taken, what can be taken, the colleague lets the child make you expect how he is done. Basic regulation can be such: Let the child show before taking pron any thing ask you.
How to solve a problem
Try such doing
Tell the child how to do the thing that can get wanting, do not want to be taken secretly
When the child still does not understand why to mean a certain thing in him, can not take directly. You should allow the action that she knows what thing is right, what is incorrect behavior. You can say: "Before taking a packet of chewing gum, you must first civil I but with. It is OK that I say, you just can be put into go-cart, wait for us to pay money you next ability eats. Wait for us to pay money you next ability eats..
Explain the implication of theft with the child
Want to let child understanding borrow thing and the consequence that steal the distinction between the thing and two kinds of behavior to arise severally, say in you so " you can not steal a thing " when, he just can understand is what meaning. Stealing a thing is the thing that shows without passing others allows to take others; Renting a stuff is to point to enquire beforehand before taking a thing and get the other side allows, after and borrow be over, still should go back.
Let the child pay price to steal a thing
Want to let the child pay price to steal the behavior of the thing, you can let her do some of chore in the home, some a certain award that perhaps confiscates him, favorite thing will punish him. You can say " I am very sad, you took the thing that does not belong to you, serve as penalty so, I must want to confiscate your car now. " confiscatory thing can be in after a few months when child performance is good, return her as award again.
Let the child remand the thing that comes secretly
You should let the child know, he cannot leave the thing that he comes to secretly, must let him child remand the thing that comes secretly (if be necessary, the parent can accompany the child to remand together) .
Use " suspensive time "
If the child took the thing that does not belong to him, tell him, he must a person is waiting for introspection a little while, cannot participate in any activities, because he broke regulation, you can say " very regretful, you took the thing that does not belong to you, suspensive time arrived. Suspensive time arrived..
Fasten such doing please
Do not turn over old Zhang
Do not mention the thing that the child once stole a thing. Turn over old Zhang to be able to let her remember the bad thing that has done only, cannot make him clear however, how will do ability not to make a mistake henceforth.
Do not stick label to the child
The child that is not in charge of you cries " thief " " thief " , because he is met the label act according to oneself, the case can go more jump over flooey.
Do not ask the child whether he stole a thing
Ask the child can let her lie only, he can say to oneself: "I know I can be endured punish, scatter a lie to may avoid to suffer this kind of anguish. Scatter a lie to may avoid to suffer this kind of anguish..
If you consider pair of child search the person, not hesitant
If you suspect the child stole a thing, can prove your judgement through search the person. If you discover she stole a thing really, want to tell the child what the consequence that makes so is without fail. For instance, you can say: "Very regretful, you took the thing that does not belong to you, you must want to pay price for this now. You must want to pay price for this now..
