Editor's note
How can the child install be each parents to expect flatly in nursery school, horse the day that the nursery school in going up to arrive one year again terms begins, super Yo psychology of division specially invite seeks advice from Shi Wuxiao to amount to a teacher, will be shared " the maneuver that prevent abduct " real knowledge, join the rule that children psychology develops, be on guard with what father mother chat how to raise the child consciousness.
When I carry a pen to write this article, the mood is very complex. Of the organization that I participated daughter nursery school recently " prevent abduct " imitate maneuver activity, and my task acts trader in human beings namely, the child " cheat " give nursery school! Result greatly beyond my expect -- a class 27 children, maneuver activity begins to be less than 3 minutes, I at a heat 25 children, successful " lane " arrived at the door nursery school!
This result lets a person shudder indeed, be me after all so " legerdemain " excellent, return be the child to be on guard does consciousness can't bear biff? We might as well consider this back and forth first " bunco " whole process, seek the account that the child is deceived easily from which, and the parent from this a few should vigilant respects:
I am discharged to go by garden Chang'an " cheat " the child of the top class in a kindergarten, game regulation is bring the child to nursery school doorway, regard as namely " bunco is successful " , can go by garden progress " on the spot is taught " .
Before setting out, had in my preexistence bag some snacks is done " bait " , wait for the action to begin, I come to the area of the activity outdoor of the top class in a kindergarten above all.
"Child, excuse me big where are 2? Excuse me big where are 2??
"We are big, big 2 are over there, over! Over!!
Score a victory in the first game, the glow that acquired children gives directions. Ground Xiang Zheng is in my smilingly those who rest is big 2 baby people go.
"Children, are you big is 2? Are you big is 2??
"Be! Be! Be!!
"You look, this day should be heated up immediately. Nursery school is children custom-built the school uniform with beautiful summer, had carried now nursery school doorway! The dress a lot of a lot of! Uncle aunt is moved came nevertheless. You wish to not be willing to help us! You wish to not be willing to help us!!
"Good! But... "
I see children are enchanted, still have a few hesitation seemingly, filled again then:
"Sh! Do not tell you the teacher, we are the students of the top class in a kindergarten, want to become good assistant of the teacher! We are moved stealthily, give a teacher a surprise, be good! Be good!!
"Be good! Be good! Be good!!
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Besides the child of two a little vigilant hearts, the child of almost whole class scamper about ground went with me! such, I was become " bunco " most the fastest also mom.
After the activity ends, I am mixed again other a few " bunco " the parent volunteers of middle shift and the bottom class in a kindergarten get together communicated respective circumstance. Join great master share the rule that develops with children psychology, have thought with everybody mom shares at 2 o'clock below:
From psychological angle for, 5, age of 6 years old is the child " autonomy " the phase that begins development, this lets them send the surelysubject sb to discipline that wants to flounce off the parent and teacher more. They can try to want to cast off adult, him support, go experiencing " I can go " ego efficiency feeling. The child of this not fathomless also the top class in a kindergarten is compared instead small 9 years old was cheated more easily.
In this " abduct " in maneuver activity, final authority discovers: Be cheated by the success, often be those lively, optimistic, not greatly be shy with strangers, square square child! Classes are over at ordinary times, they meet enthusiastic ground and teacher, little girls and the security personnel uncle of nursery school doorway says good-bye. And when encountering stranger, they are stricken up a conversation more easily also!
Be those the bottom class in a kindergarten instead, bashful and recreant, those are holding mom in the arms to cry even into nursery school, all the day the child of adhesion teacher, hear the word of stranger not easily.
This is not to say the child is hopeful and optimistic bad, want to remind those the parent of optimistic child cannot loosen vigilance accordingly more however.
"Cannot have the thing that stranger gives! "Cannot have the thing that stranger gives!!
"Cannot take the toy of stranger! "Cannot take the toy of stranger!!
"Cannot go to other place playing with stranger! "Cannot go to other place playing with stranger!!
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Enjoin us similarly to also had never been broken, but the child can be not given to be ticked off by the thing completely. Better and better as corporeal life, by " material is enticed " the child that be deceived is occupied than less and less, those who replace is a kind of new bait -- sympathize with a heart:
"Child, help go together the doorway moves a thing! Help go together the doorway moves a thing!!
"I got hurt, can you send me to go to a hospital? Can you send me to go to a hospital??
"I am the colleague of your mom, your mom lets me receive you, a thing needs you to help! A thing needs you to help!!
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A lot of children are in when encountering such request, do not have resistance!
Since the result is such beyond our expect, so the child is short of break be on guard consciousness, be after all how cause? What did education carry to wake to the family?
This is not to say: For the child's safety, we should prevent the child " kind-hearted " , however we want church child " bounds " ! We cannot be forecasted, what can cheater say to our child, what to do, but we are OK church child " bounds " :
Leave nursery school, must ask for so that the teacher agrees.
With family together when, want to leave alone, must tell adult first.
The position that underwear covers does not allow anybody lay a finger on, doctor except.
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Attention, whole " bunco " in, the snacks that I prepare " bait " do not have the use on the clique completely, but " help " make the child such do not have resistance however! In the life, had we given the child " help " opportunity?
"You are small still! This is no good. This is no good..
"Do not fasten, a little while the clothes is dirty! A little while the clothes is dirty!!
"The grandma does not need you to help, yourself is very very amused, academic be used to went! Yourself is very very amused, academic be used to went!!
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Do these words feel very familiar? But the ground is rejected, ground by bright show, suggestion " you are no good " , when you know the child hears these, is there much disappointment, much dismay in the heart?
Corporeal condition is better and better, the child is not lacked eat, those who play, those who use. But they not only on need life attend and the satisfaction of materially, still need to experience the life through ceaseless attempt, in participating in activity of excellent front courtyard slowly, experiencing his is " a of the family " , harvest thereby full " ego efficiency feels " .
What be short of more, what to long for more. Tentative idea, if children can have ample opportunity to feel in the home,get " I can go " , obtain enough " ego efficiency feels " , can they still long to go out so seek?
