The bad habit of 20 family education of lifetime of meeting misdirect child, you occupied 5 at least

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Parents is the model person that the child is used to, also be child me-too example. So ability can say, what kind of parents, raise what kind of child.

It is our habit not only, the temper that still has us and manner... the impact with the 1.1 very big to child generation metropolis among the life.

And we have some of bad habit, in casual " teach bad " the child, and we had not been aware of however, still feel puzzled even: From where is the child acquired? How did the child become such...

Look below these bad habits you are had, whether did him introspection become the immediate source of child bad habit.

Tired out you return the home to see farfetched dress toy, still have crying aside the child that do, you cannot help eventually big growl rises:

" how to often cry ah cry! Did not cry, it is a bored essence really! "

Remind: A self-respect and the child that respects another person, was to get adult is respected first certainly.

Marry old, you and the bagatelle that often are a few trifles additionally partly make a noise before the child's face overturn the heavens.

Remind: Our hostility, brawl, provided the bad example of an aggressive behavior to the child.

Housekeeping of your hardworking and thrifty, oneself are very province, always him begrudge shops; Can bestow favor on be addicted to very however to the child, want what to buy to Ta, also do not teach Ta to save.

Remind: Our this kind " love " , can let the child be known only ask for, do not know pay.

Receive the child everyday after coming home, chronic ground asks the child: " today happy in the school? " ask at the same time, at the same time busy move cooks, busy move clears away a sitting room.

Remind: Without the feeling of communication, everything just is perfunctory. Our behavior seems to telling the child: I do not care your answer.

Then, the child got be not respected from the feeling on our body, learn perfunctory others.

You broke a glass, the fragment comes loose one ground, the child walks not carefully wow wow cry continuously, you blame the child not to grow an eye on foot however.

Remind: If we erred not to agree to admit, so the person that the child also will become cannot be brave in to admit and assume a mistake.

The friend fails to keep an appointment, you complain to the child and wife: " do not manage again later he. "

Remind: You let the child see, when facing disappointment, we think without actively method solves a problem, just be blamed blindly and blame others.

The child is making a noise to want you to give him taletelling, but you always have a lot of reason to reject him.

Remind: Our conduct behavior makes the child understood " truth " : Only the job does not have recreation in the life, only housework does not have game in the family.

You and child queue up to waiting to pay in the supermarket. Jump the queue of a man stands in front of your. You and he is pulled drag brawl.

Remind: Our practice undertook to the child wrong gregarious skill trains, make the child thinks by accident quarrel, fling abuses and even fighting is the tweak that resolves conflict.

The teacher informs you write to the speech stalks of grain and can be performed in the parent ahead of schedule tell. But you were not put on the heart all the time, you call a teacher later, tell her you are ill, let her look for other parent again.

Remind: Shrink back first without the attempt, after the child learned the head that throws promise, still learned to lie, rely on to lie to plead acceptance easily.

Marital route goes to the end eventually, the resentment to another was full of in your heart. Of the daughter enumerate other one party that then you are opposite 6 years old is not, and tell a daughter: " father / mom does not want you, you also do not manage again from now on him / she. "

Remind: Such doing, the child learned hate and retaliation, bigger question is, she will be right the happiness of own lifetime self-distrust.

Some day, you discover the sweetheart has an affair suddenly! You are patient, you tell yourself: " want him only / her even this home went, you still pursue what, should give the child a complete home namely? "

Remind: We " well-meaning " a when build seemingly complete home, can not give the child enough warmth and love.

You are disobedient respect husband's father and mother, disrelishing them is burdensome, often still curse an old person before the child's face.

Remind: Do not establish the model of give presents for the child, so sooner or later evil consequence can become of on yourself head!

You always are used to conveniently to litter, all things that the wife can drop about your conveniently had been cleared away, do not need you to worry about.

Remind: Such, the child also is met the habit that nurturance shifts all responsibility to others.

You always encourage the child to learn Kong Rong to let pear before kin, and grab seat with old person, children however on the bus, perhaps be in " no admittance " the child lets climb to place Pose to sculpture below the brand.

Remind: We say, do, the meeting after the child is grown stands fast very hard oneself moral personal integrity.

You always say to the child: " see a someone, his study is much stronger than you! "

Remind: We always measure our child with the standard of other child, beat child self-confidence heart badly not only, still cause child allergy, church the child is envious.

The car is blocked up again on the road. You the car from urgent jockeyed to open the past on the road. Daughter of 5 years old asks you from the back: " why do we go here? " you say: " here do not have a police, also did not photograph like the head, irrespective. "

Remind: Violate when nobody is supervised when us compasses, child go to school meets: Want to be not captured only, it what do is OK to what do.

You are busy in the kitchen in full swing, son of 6 years old gets the course that helps your Duan Qigang give boiler, you had seized rapidly: " go, not officious, ironing how to do? " drive a kitchen out of the child.

Remind: We are right of the child " cherish " , let the child think everything is parental thing.

When having a meal, you tell a lover before be indignant ground of the child: " Xiaoli rises job, he has what marvelous, do not meet applepolish, the report writes... "

Remind: We do not admit we are inferior to others, child go to school can be a center with ego, do not consider be eager to make progress.

Daughter of 4 years old tries to ravel an alarm clock looks after all, you can't help agitatedly: " what does children understand? Forbid to be moved in disorder! "

Remind: Say simply " not " can destroy parentage only, inhibit the child's activity, force them to turn " subterranean activity " .

The daughter is making a noise to want to buy Bobby baby, you want to check she, cheat repeatedly belt frighten the ground to say: " not obedient, the police will catch you " " not obedient, father mother does not want you. "

Remind: Prove when the child " oneself were cheated " , believed the word of adult no longer later...

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