In psychology, the compassion that the weak, poor, female, children, dog, old person arouses people the most easily heart.
Be in China, this theory by cheater people the incisively and vividly of play.
A few true person that appeal, the profundity that stems from pair of people psychology has an insight into, often the old person in home of make use of, female child name, in get extensively after the society is contributory,
Use at the other disease of therapist person, or the problem that solves other poverty to cause.
This kind of out is cheated kind-heartedly contribute, it more or less be returned is excusable to more or less be returned, but more is stemmed from greedy, shameless cheat contribute very abhorrent.
Colleague Z is told, high school period had an entrepreneur to donate brushstroke money to the school, use at aiding financially assiduous and academic poverty to be born.
As a result evaluation extends after stipend, the domestic difficulty data that a lot of people discover when sampling observation makes a holiday: Parental be still living and in good health is very healthy still, keeping front yard of odd relatives by marriage or father deformity; There is a child to read only obviously in the home, however outer those who work also calculate on.
With what cheat stipend be exactly the same, it is to spread all over the profession of subway of station of ave lane, flee hither and thither to cheat contribute a customer.
Deformity of their or disguise oneself as, or pretends to see a doctor lack cash.
Be good at expression, in a tearful voice is telling each deplorable world story; Of not good at expression, give off with the horn one in succession the pity meaning that the melody with song tune cool Bei will come to tick off a people.
To them, poor it doesn't matter is shameful, empty concocts father and mother double die or fail of half a lifetime also is indifferent to,
Want to be able to cheat money only go in one's hand, poverty is not a kind of disgrace, however reap without sowing capital.
Unexpected is, the poor is cheated contribute, wealthy person also is cheated contribute.
There is media to explode when 2010 makings, gainer of stipend of a few countries uses Iphone mobile phone to be informed against. Find out under, conditions of these original a distant relative with the same family name's abundant classmate, declare in stipend writing unexpectedly in material " family year income under 20 thousand, " father deal deficit hundred thousands of, financial insolvency tuition is waited a moment.
There is a news recently, chinese old person is getting home every months the pension of 4000, collecting the rent of a few flatlet, still apply for 700 dollars after emigrant United States however (add up to a RMB about 4500 yuan) grant-in-aid,
And these grant-in-aid are the social security that the old person that does not have income to those provides. Get all sorts of chance to gain advantage, this is deep-rooted bad habits of one big countryman.
Our compassion heart, was without exception to suffer cheater people betray, and still was sold shameless greedy. Have netizen deep feeling, let me drop of tear, more than the wine yesterday, still have the story of cheater.
Exploit an advantage, make fun of petty trick to cheat contribute, cheat fill, can let true weak lose the care that gets likely.
Forge material diddle stipend, a run on a bank is rare quota of people, the child of wealthy family gets accident money, true poverty is born to cannot get a help instead; Be in a lot of countries of Chinese, low the quota of people that protect and all sorts of relief,
Also was given kin family by local official, true impoverished family struggles in abyss of misery as before.
This kind " of rich type of disaster deficient aid cheat contribute, cheat fill, did not let the weak enjoy a help not only, stopped their aid possibly instead thoroughly.
Colleague Z is told, after period of second year in high school aids financially a person to discover a large number of students forge impoverished data diddle to aid financially, stopped annual of ten aid financially golden hair to put.
So although have the child make a profit in troubled situation with wealthy family, but the child that still has a lot of impoverished families was enjoyed aid financially, the child of all now impoverished family did not have allowance.
He still spits groove to say, through media a large number of exposure pretend deformity street bunco, even the gang is used after old person, child is mendicant,
These people are encountered on the road, he also is divided not clear after all who is true weak, who is cheater, did not give even one yuan simply.
To cheater people for, what they think probably is: Who giving is not to give, flat calculated to me.
But their behavior, the foreign aid of possible broken poor, weak, more the fundamental accredit that destroying a society and social ecosystem,
When if people is in,becoming charity, because cent is not clear,oneself are be expert at be apt to, still be in aid financially cheater, abandon becoming charity, that will be very terrible, once social ecosystem destroys very difficult rehabilitate.
And because the weak did not experience social warmth truly, think to be willing to help oneself without the person, can feel to be abandoned by the whole world, to the society complain to also can grow day and day, chou Fu, turn over odds of society, crime to promote considerably;
On the other hand, although beneficent almsgiver made a large number of donation, cannot see those who suffer the person that aid be thankful however, instead bitterly attack suffers the person that aid not to know to be thankful. The times is small think of
In last few years philanthropist and this kind of name produce misunderstanding between beneficiary beneficiary, estrangement is deepened and contradictory become acute also is not without cause.
Sympathetic tear, if cheat and be dried by the pity of camouflage, remain will be chill.
The predicament of the weak, if cry for help because of what forge,be interrupted and acedia, the rest of will be animosity.
If the fundamental accredit of a society is destroyed thoroughly, what if a country holds to,become charity is less and less, if a weak with right country does not experience social consideration, this country was destroyed thoroughly.
Why does severe shortage accredit feel between the Chinese?
In the past, we believe to say on newspaper, believe to say in broadcast, believe to be written on book. But now, we however whats dare believe.
Pan Shige is after visitting a few towns recently on small gain publish plaint: "Prospective society is the most important is accredit. Accredit the person all round you, trustful stranger.
Go taking the car of stranger to have Uber, drip. Went to the home of stranger having Airbnb. Can have trustful ability share economy. Can have trustful ability share economy..
A lot of people express to support, but feel helpless again.
Really, ideal very plump reality too bone feeling! In urban stream of people, those who encountering is the person that never is acquainted mostly. To a stranger, can you trust he?
First time of a friend comes to Wuhan. After from Chinese mouth the railway station gets off, he gives a station, go to develop highway crossing to want to ask ask about field road how to go, but ask 4 people repeatedly, they register a trademark of the move on finger telegraph pole, do not talk.
Writing on original sign: Do not respond stranger inquiry please, beware be deceived.
Say a weirder thing again, house Wuhan evening paper reported 2013, student Chi Mou is in Wuhan east the lake drowns die, the father that its classmate gives him Fujian native place and relative hit 56 to notify phone, but the other side is not believed namely, its father still is certain the other side is cheater.
The classmate persuades its family " no matter be cheater, go to Wuhan having a look " . After Chi Mou's cousin hurries to Wuhan, tell Chi Mou father news, phone other one aspect of the matter begins to cry loudly.
56 phones are hit do not come the cruelty of the dead's family member is actual, let a lot of people see the trustful crisis of instantly society.
Actually I can understand this " 56 phones still are not believed " father, because most Chinese puts vigilance to stranger heart, when even if confronts well-meaning movement, also be such.
More what is more,the rather that, as a child the education that I get is " do not talk with stranger " , at that time, stranger may be cheater, it is convict is waited a moment,
The deformed shadow of stranger is buried already deeply in my bottom of the heart.
Was brought up later, heard the news that too much stranger commits a crime, make me more right stranger is terrifying, stay at a respectful distance from sb; Again later, still had heard of the information of acquaintance of hole of a few acquaintance, more right stranger feels was fear of.
It is acquaintance, family member, in reality sometimes for brief interest, the friend cheats a friend, the uncle cheats a nephew. Neighborhood of colleague of father and son, husband and wife, friend, acquaintance needs fortify, it is everybody highs oneself more between stranger.
Should stranger says to you his purse is lost, do not have money to come home, hope you give him a bit money, you won't the heart gives birth to pity, because you know, he is a professional cheater;
Encounter difficulty when you, when before having stranger, be helped, you also won't the heart is put appreciate, however scrupulous, or refus person at a thousand li besides,
Because you fear,he pursues additionally somewhat. Do not believe, do not believe, still do not believe -- " do not believe " the sentiment is spreading in the life of increasing person.
Do not believe stranger, became this times place to do one's utmost actually the thing of advocate.
Handle multifarious railway station personally, the horn of loudspeaker keeps crying, do not believe stranger buys a ticket to you, beware be cheated. Sit in bright cafes to drink tea,
The catchphrase on the wall says: Do not rent stranger the mobile phone, beware be cheated. There still is English actually below, looking is to should tell those pure international friend,
In this magical and old east state, borrow a mobile phone to be used to stranger, mean be cheated.
In addition, still the ATM that goes to a bank takes money, have clew of a string of so called police again, the Zhang signal that does not believe stranger is offerred is waited a moment...
In the past, we believe to say on newspaper, believe to say in broadcast, believe to be written on book. But now, we however whats dare believe.
See a celebrity says such-and-such medicines and chemical reagents is good, probable this medicine is false medicine; You get a short message, say your get the winning number in a bond,
The money that its are you as a result by " award prize " took away; A message says to hold two or more posts concurrently one day to earn on 1000 yuan, you go trying, bedding bag is inside, do not share.
Why to meet such? the society that had we lived in to be full of crammer and cheater really? Still be popular feeling already addle, had become cannot believe?
An investigation that courtyard of Chinese company division launchs shows, make an appointment with the Chinese distrust stranger of 70% .
Today, this kind " do not believe " mood, pervade the life that takes most Chinese already: Have a meal not to believe the security of food, go out not to believe railroad industry solves the ability with buy a ticket difficult and sincerity all right, the hospital does not believe the doctor did not give him many drug on...
It is current only to the distrust of stranger actually " distrust culture " most endmost expression.
Zheng Yongnian of director of institute of East Asia of Singapore state-maintaineding university is in " distrust build by laying bricks or stones becomes Chinese wall " say in one article, china is done not have " Berlin wall " ,
But by high strenth " distrust " build by laying bricks or stones becomes " wall " however each groups mix consist in society between each parts, between government and people, between poor and wealthy person... by no means an isolated case.
Be the high uncertainty to this kind of case, the society has evolved to be greatly " everybody defend oneself " society. Who also distrust who, people is mutual and con, of the society trade cost rises in quickness.
But trustful importance, live to the society, resemble air to life same.
If we see provision, can think of toxic; See a smile, can think of trap; Set foot on big bridge, can think of a cave in; Walk into a hospital, can think of by accident examine; It is normal that we live?
Does an everybody trust his society still can be called a society only?
2008 on opening ceremony of Beijing Olympic Games, " I and you " ever moved the heart door leaf of many people: "I and you, heart linked to heart, still family. Still family..
810 when hold bamboo slip " Confucius child " , in chorus recital " in the four seas all brother also " , suddenly of setting of warmth of act of this one act if yesterday.
And now, we close ourselves in basket, hold insurance door, hold bar of guard against theft, we arm the home so that resemble a jail. We think only we are good person on this world.
So, we close ourselves at the back of of insurance door and bar of guard against theft, and outside is " hellion " . Everybody can do remnant two things: One is him letter, another is do not believe others absolutely.
In fact, in the society that is full of accredit in, your meeting life is gotten more more safe, relaxed, have more development opportunities and bigger development hope, and all these bilks law place to grant completely.
In the environment of law, you need not fear on the ave constabulary without reason is disturbed, but somebody enroach on when you, the patron wagon that protects you will be seasonable howl and to, the police that then you trust have not is known;
Your belongings won't suffer outside force to include the harassing attack of public right force, and when somebody when enroach on belongings, gear of public right power can appear personally in time relieve,
Then you trust the government to your levy; Exceeding safety precaution need not be taken when you do business, but the other side if break a contact, carry out compulsively honestly can carry a court decision as scheduled and to, then you trust at ordinary times not the court of contact with.
A society wants to rebuild quickly accredit, people seeks long-term increase and should be being promoted with the system above all is not short-term profit. When because become a person,seeking long-term benefit, be about to note oneself reputation, won't deceive people.
Be in for instance the society of this stranger is medium now, implement record system, follow you all the time like archives, if your where a phase is dishonest, have a record, can check. Have a record, people can care his reputation.
Once each other believes a society to build, the next time if got lost, we are OK and bold the ground to others ask the way. Because resemble having head fly with its euqally careless look for, advance as the direction that points to you boldly by others. Worst result, it is you still get lost.
Everybody distrust other, do not agree to give credit, its are everybody cannot get accredit as a result.
So, be not trusted when us, the sincerity that becomes us is misunderstood, when be being rejected enthusiasticly our, other of our no wonder!
When producing an avalanche, doing not have a snowflake is pure!
Mistrustful atmosphere and behavior are us each man-made becomes.
