Junior high school goes regular
01, first one at the outset 3 laughed what pass finally. But regrettablly is, the child of at least 80% when Chu Sancai knows anxious.
02, 6 grade arrive the difference of one exceeds first big, arrive greatly from attend a lecture, to content, to exercise, to the manner, want to have change to thinking means. Of elementary school phase a few have nothing to do the expression of the difficulties, the likelihood brings about overall of junior high school to all be defeated, do computation not to like to use for instance perform rough straw paper so a little thing, how many child is in because of this in one's deceased father lost small 10 minutes, life contrail so change.
03, must admit, take an examination of in now make an on-the-spot investigation more it is attentive, is not the ability of difficult problem. Want to adjust study direction, the train of thought that practices at ordinary times also wants change.
04, first all course of one are not difficult, it is not difficult also that all sorts of alls of one are taken an examination of first, maths can be taken anyhow many minutes 110, but you want to know, bad habit does not change, study means does not transform, first 21 decide an issue.
05, if your child is not special ox, and your present idea is " in case my child is no good first 3 learn again " . Then I suggest, clutch first one.
06, major person new the difficulty of 2 regarded as first physics, not be actually. Where can one go hard from the 0 course that begin to learn? 2 the biggest questions depend on maths first, chinese and English won't see the difficulty with apparent what promotes commonly, but maths is disparate, first 2 it is the initial stage that algebraic thought begins to build, it is the crucial node that difficulty of geometry of junior high school promotes more. Can so tell, two maths learned to cheat first, estimation arrives tall 3 you do not wake certainly come over.
07, first 2 the biggest BOSS are not study, however adolescence, this is ghost story level simply. Not only parent endure hardships, child oneself also is met endure hardships, move restlessly ineffably, ineffable be agitated, ineffable sensitivity and ineffable proper pride can come over. Adolescence needs meticulous care most, at that time the child's heart actually
Be the flimsiest, ability resembling hedgehog is so same overgrow thorn. Want you to be able to walk into the child's heart only, you see the one side that gets Ta softness. Those adolescence follow the child " dry " the family that rise, 100% it is the parent complete duty, be equal at tracing remaining part.
08, if pass first nervous, first 2 can Hold lives the child's adolescence, so congratulation you, do work of good rear service, chat with the child more, encourage to the child more, it is OK to learn to learn to cook more. And inside these problems if have,did not solve euqally, the 2 the biggest jobs at the beginning of that, solve it namely.
09, learn, children, must when first 3 semester, the classmate enrolled several oneself all round, specialty planned to admit several, do you just discover you must learn? Learn how? Still should not try at that time give priority to, what learns what infirmly, sound program, play less little sleep to become a problem more.
10, you are whole in passing, take an examination of, take an examination of in rectify you with respect to affirmation, the child that Qingdao has 40% every year many a little bit only about has an opportunity to go up average high school, go conditionally privatelying run learn skill, go to international school going abroad even, other can go only vocational school.
11, " 9 grade resemble be in shiver, those who hit is the battle of a life, if hit,won, life road of future will be even successful; If was defeated, life road of future will bestrew bramble undoubtedly. " the child of 9 grade, than at 78 grade, mood feeling fluctuates more easily, on one second still is in yock, below one second may become very depressed; A lot of is in the child with right result of 78 year study, arrived 9 grade, rise and fall very big however.
Middling sees a problem first
New first one
1. child is incommensurate
After entering junior high school, course increase 7; And education means of the teacher also learns from the requirement child of elementary school, become need child to learn actively. Many parents worry about the child whether get used to these change.
In addition, enter junior high school, study competition is more intense, the exam also is met grow in quantity, child pressure will be greater and greater. Fair run junior high school not bad, now cannot choose school, contrast of photograph of source of student is more balanced. If be in run by the local people, because be the student that enroll only outstanding people, everybody's a copy kept as a record is very good. What want susceptive competition pressure will bigger, if the child is in elementary school all the time more outstanding, arrived junior high school may appear a few fall.
? Proposal
Do not give the child too great pressure above all, child pressure very it is to come from parents partly greatly. Junior high school just began, let the child suit first, do not make too big target or ask to the child exorbitant. First one lay the foundation first prison, to prepare later.
Additional, parents also should undertake to the child the setback is taught. Whose life is impossible plain sailing, can encounter a variety of difficulty in the life, experience greatly small setback. If the child saw difficulty fears, shrink back by bilk bilk, so the quarter metropolis when the child gets of psychological pressure suffer, encountered a setback not to bear to hit, it fears to come when difficulty did not come, body and mind is accordingly tired out, very adverse to growing! Be about to encourage the child to be brave in to try at ordinary times, do not fear to fail, the parent also wants much dredge, care health of child body and mind in time!
The child of 2. junior high school enters adolescence, do not communicate with the parent
Many parents feel, after the child enters junior high school, was brought up, had oneself idea, communicate with the parent little also, be in the home at ordinary times much say a few words may feel irritated! A lot of parents are afraid, if term begins hind, how does the child encounter a problem to should be communicated in time again? Especially a few lodging children, zhou Yi still does not see a face to Zhou Wu.
? Proposal
Want trustful child above all, open wide oneself to the child, the bewilderment that might as well at ordinary times and encounters, pressure, had done what hooey. Show faulty, but true, the parent figure that can be close to gives the child. When the child encounters a problem, parents accomplishs objective evaluation as far as possible, cannot ascribe the mistake to simply the child, perhaps undertake denying to the child. Such meetings make the child exceeding feel disgusted, stand on the child's footing, understand the child's difficulty, encourage the child more, seek the means that solve together with the child!
This paragraph of time before terming begins formally, parents also can prepare ahead of schedule first, build relaxed atmosphere to the child at ordinary times, make the child can happy receive term begins!
New first 2
1. is loved early
"Must not follow such-and-such chat, greet sb to also be no good, must say to like me in the evening everyday. " son of side of lady of the Song Dynasty arranges desk, discover the scrip with a piece of ambiguous language, the schoolgirl writes look to know, and be like this language, the concern that shows son and this girl has been different from common. Lady of the Song Dynasty wants to teach a son a lesson well originally, receive a son to classes are over personally in the evening, who knows to be at the door the school, see schoolgirl of several pairs of schoolboys go intimately forth hand in hand however.
Student of some middle school is in director introduction, love a phenomenon early to basically be centered at first 2 grade, unbridled ground is joking between the classmate, unripe expression of partial men and women is beyond the mark and close.
2. study result drops
On study, first 2 it is a watershed. Have fear of difficulty of existence of one part student, use idea in study besides, achievement drops quickly, lose interest to learning, abandonment, from now on cannot recover after a setback. Such classmate arrived first 3 often break through very hard somewhat, take an examination of in suffer a defeat to avoid hard.
3. is gone against instead psychology is serious
The another characteristic of 2 students is to refuse to obey first certainly. The criticism of a few classmates to teacher, parent no longer modest accept, refute however, bunt, mock a division commander even. The more parents, teacher does not allow the thing that do, they jump over vigorously, must mix division commander to dry.
? Proposal
After the child enters adolescence, the parent should become the accompany person that the child grows, give the child certain space, let them want, the thing that goes doing oneself. The care of have a definite object in view offers in adolescent phase of the child. Must not through peeking the means such as the diary knows the child. Want to know the child, a good idea is the music that understanding child likes, book, film.
Person lifetime need not maleficent, but absolutely impossible not err thing. First 2 it is the child the easiest " stir up trouble " , " err " period. In this period, child progress is great, admittedly lucky; Produced a bit trouble, a few bewilderment, also need not nervous. We should realise, erring is the child's right, also be the necessary price that moves toward maturity.
Hope parent should have this thought preparation, have this confidence and staying power, have this understanding height, have the capacity that educational child health expands, let first 2 grade this " the accident delivers level more " spend smoothly.
New first 3
1. parentage insecurity
With traitorous, eventful first one 2 photographs are compared first, rise first the child of 3 more do not let parent save worry. They become suddenly let a person 100 think of do not get its to solve, dare revolt authority, to parents not honour, irreverent, refuse to obey, right still parental reaction and critical extreme are sensitive, the conflict with parents is fiercer and fiercer; They hit upon a few peculiar behavior problems, be like tongueless, close to be in alone, give an irrelevant answer, Jing Sai of wirh fixed attention. . . . . .
In view of such age characteristic, their thought also becomes mature rise, this basically expresses the following now at 2 o'clock:
To the life, view that had oneself to the problem beside
To parental education method of manner, education is having his distinctive comprehension.
2. pressure is steep add
To the child, first the 3 turning point that are study career, because this is in this " in take an examination of big fight " preparative phase, nowhere is not in pressure it may be said of the child, when notting have, do not have. The pressure key that the child takes an examination of to bring in basically reflects in 3 respects:
? Ego pressure.
On one hand, enter first 3, school work pressure increases apparently, exhort mediumly from the home, in educational sound of the teacher, children had understood in the value that study. A kind of such consciousness also formed in their brain: Achievement is the only factor that measures a person to whether succeed, and checking a school is the exclusive shortcut that leads to happy life.
? Domestic pressure.
The formation of child pressure and family are having immediate concern, present family is a singleton mostly female, the parent is particularly so tall to the child's requirement, hope is very big. Some parents always engraft to the child " the future that you are our home and all " " the future of our home relies on you completely " such thought;
? Social pressure.
The way that unintelligible society qualified personnel needs, relatively one-sided to the talent's understanding, onefold, once short of anticipates the target can be notted allow by social place,think, panicky move can produce in the heart then.
3. adolescence problem erupts
First the Gao Wei of the 3 outbreak that are concentration of child youth problem period, the problem that appears on child body, can let the parent have powerless frustrate feeling occasionally, below the case that cannot teach, the parent chose to shrink back. First one first 2 one be adolescent problem only brews period, and first 3 are to erupt centrally period.
The child is in first one first 2 have be disgusted with to learn the tendency, arrived first 3, complete be disgusted with learned; The child is in first one 2 pairs of opposite sexes have good opinion first, arrived first 3, loved truly early; The child is in first one first 2 have escape the class, behavior that fight, arrived first 3, this kind of phenomenon becomes more general.
? Proposal
A word says well: "So the improvement of parentage, make a few changes by the parent first surely. " the 9 grade child that faces these curious and eccentric, ascertain letting a person to be not appeared, the parent wants to change the relationship with the child, make from oneself only. The processing mode that change is searched introspection, actively to fall in parent ego, you also can see the child makes positive response gradually.
? Do good home school to communicate the job.
Not the child of 3 regards as first adult, although his age grew, stature is long tall, but intelligence is immature still, because this returns the help of need parent. This always should pay close attention to the child with respect to requirement parent, always master the child's circumstance, once discover a problem, adopt measure in time to solve. Where is this channel that understands child situation? Be in teacher where.
? Maintain connection with the child's friend.
The child was brought up, enter adolescence, as a result of the change of the characteristic in physiology and heart, make they like to tell a friend worry, if pressing them, be " friend age close, think of a way is same also " , but the child eventually of this one period is the child, they still do not have the capacity that handles an issue, had trouble and problem, what can do exclusively is to friend friend pours out merely, pour out, they still lose their head. Accordingly, if the parent begins from the child's friend, maintain connection with its, can master first-hand data of the child so, discover the child's problem thereby, help its solve.
? Again reasonable word, do not say above 3 times.
Teach the child with the truth, told 9 times stop, is this a kind of accredit to the child, had credit this premise, the child will be darling obedient, at the same time with this he still can produce a kind of such psychology: Parents is right I so be at ease, I am certain cannot disappoint they. Such, was parental purpose achieved?
