The article in front and everybody had discussed gregarious concern medium " envious " the influence to us. We look today, with the jealousy in spouse affinity. Can produce jealousy like everybody same, in each pairs of spouses (lover or husband and wife) in appear possibly a few, because the other side had hunter or the other side shows good impression to other opposite sex, and this kind of jealousy of generation. Because reality perhaps imagines,this is come out " rival in love " and allow damage of each other affinity, and one inactive and negative kind when cause is experienced.
With this kind of jealousy between the spouse, it is a kind of very complex affection experience, include move of indignant, lose already, because other people is right,include again of the spouse admire brought sense of pride, also or the spouse is contained love another person the exciting feeling of the tendency. Once produce this kind of jealousy, will experience pair of each other affective are harm, right the anger that betrays possibly and the fear that fear to lose.
Appear this kind of envious mood, often because appeared affective competitor. Discover when you subjective perhaps spouse takes him seriously no longer, and change the view " rival in love " on the body, you can feel affection is harmed badly; Such the meeting is afraid at the same time going down, the other side can love another person betray oneself, this kind betrays the anger that causes you not only, and can let you feel the fear that may lose a lover. When this kind anger and fear accumulate certain level, let a person likely lose reason and make fling abuses even the behavior of out of control such as force. Affection reduces the proportion with be had certain in the murder case of our country.
We knew jealousy may produce bad consequence, but if you are mixed,envious feeling did not pass between the spouse, the partner that perhaps says you cannot let yourself produces envious heart, can you feel you do not have heft too? You go out to interact the jealousy that any females cannot cause a spouse, can you also feel to may the spouse love him and feel lose and sad? Everybody thinks back to, can have such feeling.
American psychologist collect Lan Miller is envious cent reactivity jealousy and distrustful sex jealousy two kinds. Reactivity jealousy is the envious psychology that points to discovery to affinity is faced with actual menace and arise, be based on real danger and this arises, for instance the spouse has action of real against the law. Suspecting a gender jealousy is to result from suspicion and jealousy, and the behavior that the spouse did not betray actually. Jealousy of sex of this kind of suspicion can make you go ceaselessly him test and verify jealousy causes angst and uneasiness thereby, because lack safe feeling and trustful feeling be caused by,this often is. These two kinds of envious dividing line in actual condition are not complete and clear, have the possibility of mutual change. After the fact that passes reactivity jealousy to happening for instance, always forget to be not dropped in the heart, suspect everywhere in the life, this became distrustful sex jealousy with respect to change.
So are you the person of easy jealousy? Resemble a cold same, jealousy also can have the difference of easy sensibility, some people produce jealousy not easily, and some people produce jealousy more easily, often be described to be " narrow-minded " " acetic jar " . Crowd of this share easy move often is the one party with stronger dependence is in partner concern, the element that damages affinity to any likelihoods is exceedingly sensitive. If husband and wife's both sides, a busier job, and other one party does not have a thing to be able to be done in the home, this suspects to latter generation sexual jealousy created convenience condition. Still have, of both sides of husband and wife not quits, an incompetent man and knot of lady of an appearance beautiful elite are a couple, former easier generation is envious.
We talk about bit of thing that we care below, since partner concern is medium generation of hard to avoid is envious, so are man and the account that the woman produces jealousy same? Although difference of envious it doesn't matter of easy perceptual men and women, but the account that produces jealousy has a difference however. Had told in the article before, because no matter the men and women is,human evolution is brought about,be a purpose in order to increase reproductive value, man more the one's own flesh and blood that the offspring that deflection leaves at taking a spouse seriously to produce is him, and what the woman takes seriously is whether this man provides resource and protection for oneself, in order to raise unborn survival rate.
The result that produces according to above cause is, the man fears spouse and someone else develop go to bed more, the jealousy with adulterous to sexual thing the strongest generation; And the woman is off the rails to man soulful can show jealousy more, she fears the man was fallen in love with other female, bring about its goods and materials and protection to turn to others. Tell popularly, man more care about spouse body off the rails, compare at affection off the rails, the body is off the rails cannot excuse more; And woman more care about spouse affection to go up off the rails, write this I remembered those husband are off the rails, go hitting instead small the news of 3. Of course, this just does simple dichotomy to narrate, cent is not in actual reality is so clear, this conclusion does not state the man is off the rails to affection do not care, the woman is off the rails to the body do not care, just be to be on degree somewhat difference.
Above paragraphs of no less than is mentioned, if we cannot cause the spouse's jealousy, psychology also can have lose feeling. As clever you, whether think of wittily, let the other side produce the envious move of appropriate, be also a when enhance appeal little skill? A word says " jealousy is affective activator " , measurable jealousy can invite the flattery opposite party that you make greater efforts sometimes, show oneself advantage, this used envious positive one side namely. We might as well corrupt a bit, produced certain jealousy to the spouse when you, you and spouse are in bang bang when, can you feel more exert to one's utmost? (cover mouth laugh)
So much of give uncecessary details, it is to let we understand and face up to the envious sentiment that we have. I do not count on the risk that sees this article can avoid jealousy to bring, because jealousy cannot avoid, everybody faces envious reaction also differ in thousands ways. Although be opposite this is helpless, but the proposal that envious harm reduces in can letting everybody understand a few kinds to seek advice in psychology.
- Let oneself actively choose active think of a way, decrease inactive subjective; Promote a spouse bilateral self-esteem, enhance each other trust; Improve the communication way between the spouse, prevent to produce misunderstanding; Enhance the close density with the spouse, the affinity of good fairness can allow the action of the person's positive consideration the other side.
Do a canzonet to check test and verify with everybody finally the viewpoint in one later development. Scene of the following picture all is hypothesis:
You and spouse are talking about a serious love, you love the other side very much, right now you discover your spouse had off the rails sign. Two kinds of the following circumstances, which kind of more let your affliction, uneasiness and anger?
A, spouse is having deep-felt affection communication with others. B, spouse is enjoying the sexual love that is full of passion with others.Leave your key in the comment please, can 2 choose one, make clear your sexual distinction. I consider a comment will absorbing.
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