Someone says: "A lot of children are in charge of hard now indocile, psychology is flimsy, the force that fight defeat is poor, early, sensitive, close, selfish, overbearing, control desire is strong, only I alone honour, human relationship is poor, the mood is not stable, play cruel to say big, aggressiveness is strong " etc.
So, why some of child can become now such? Where is germ? Be social responsibility? The responsibility of the school? Be still domestic responsibility? In fact, the child becomes a what kind of person, depend on above all parents, depend on family.
But regretful is, once,the child goes problem, we are very much the parent often is to criticize the school, society, is not to review his.
Some parents think the child teachs the thing that is the school, not as big as him education concern; Think oneself are busy, mental efforts is insufficient, be too busy the study of attend to child; Think tree nature is straight, to child indulge and his like, arrange its nature; Think the family is taught even if study is taught, study is taught even if do work, go up class of take lessons after school; Think the family is taught even if abstract is begged, as to how to learn, do not know.
After remembering the parent meeting, a few parents come to my office talk about the child, because be know sth thoroughly between each other friend, conversation also scruples without place, I say: "You can come a few today this was my face, the child is here fast 3 years, also had not seen your people, every time the parent can not be to send him 7 aunt send him namely 8 aunts will be dealt with. Ferial in, oneself sit on mahjong desk, child of loud however cry out writes line of business quickly. Him smoking drinks dozen of mahjong, famous brand dress drives car of a person of extraordinary powers, consider the study that makes the child dependable however, of conscientiously be an upright person, is this likely? Dragon gives birth to dragon Feng Shengfeng, the son of mice is met burrow, what kind of parents can have what kind of child. What kind of parents can have what kind of child..
Actually, these parents still are not most " ox " the parent. Still have the parent of some of local tyrant level, there are a few moneys in the hand, in the eye nobody. Holding out a pregnant, big voice of talking tall throat, abdomen goes in front of the person, the neck is hanging golden chain, the artifice takes move bead to string together child, showing tooth of a yellow smoke, fuck of whatever one speaks. In their memory, the child's education is gone to ceaselessly namely piece spread money, what problem takes money to solve, think money arrived responsibility arrived.
Still have some of parent, the child gives small issue in the school, what ignore an issue first is former by, also do not talk about the child's fault, with respect to the face before the child the mouth tongue-lashs the school, censure a teacher.
Still have a few parents often wheel mill, greet send toward, meal bureau is ceaseless, mahjong places vendor's stand, do not wear 5 days 3 days door, the range that links the child does not see on, still want to let child stand out, outstanding. Such a variety of, lift deeply more.
But a phenomenon is worth us to think, we often say husband and wife of Zhang San's someone fights big cross not to know a few, can the family's child why so outstanding?
Want me to say, the face does not have the thing with abstruse what here. In such family, not certain knowledgeable is edified, do not have certainly read the atmosphere of study, also do not have the communication of the respect such as pursuit of idea idea, value certainly, but have plain domestic wind certainly, the devoir that be an upright person, the ceremony heart of massiness, the domestic model of hardworking and thrifty, for the principle that the person conducts oneself in society, mutual care, support, encouragement force is waited a moment, and these ability are the thing with child adult most important grow into useful timber.
Somebody draws domestic education, school education, society education into a tree, among them, the family teachs the root department that establishs namely. Just think, if root of a tree is bad, it is good that is branches and leaves returned? Can you still blossom finally join extremely big tree?
I do not know everybody is how to understand " do not let the child be defeated to go up in the scratch line " this viewpoint.
What is the scratch line? Be begin to teach the child how to be contended for from nursery school, how to go rushing? It is to pass all sorts of take lessons after school to make up a missed lesson, does leave no stone unturned raise study result of the child and rank? Actually, not be. Real mark is parental oneself. In other words, parents is the child's scratch line.
I a few words of special appreciation netizen: "Domestic atmosphere, it is the first class of child life morality. " " doctoral child is not a doctor certainly, the murderer's child is not a murderer certainly, but cultured family can give cultured child certainly! Knowledge can be not delivered certainly, but the environment can change a person certainly! But the environment can change a person certainly!!
What is educational essence? Be a mark? Be a rank? Be a school? Be record of formal schooling? Actually, not be. Educational essence is used namely a tree is cultivated another times joltily, drive another cloudlet with one cloudlet, arouse another spirit with a soul. This jolty, not just the teacher should do drive and be waked up, the parent should do more importantly.
Best family is taught, parents of nothing is more... than uses the kind of his character charm, idea, manner that serves the world to affect his child, 3 view of parents are proper, the road of life steps solidly, the child also has been met certainly.
Have sufficient experience and bottom energy of life when a person when, ability teachs his child better. Have more expectation to his life when parents, more attempts, have more faithful belief to knowledge and effort, enough bottom gas teachs the child that guides his to move toward more good future.
