Fire the teleplay of a month " Dou Ting is good " greeted eventually urge lachrymal big ending, the Su Dajiang that makes a day make the land also is washed white, su Mingcheng of 2 elder brother also reform went Africa experiences the life, eldest brother and sister-in-law began whole new life of the United States.
Although receive an official, also left a lot of regrets, but when this drama broadcasts about be born formerly family, heavy male light female discussion had not stopped all the time.
The last few years, become the topic that network and media heat discuss about pay close attention to and discussing of former unripe family, the sweethearts in a lot of love and the husband and wife that marry, after one character shoulds not or accumulated rancor quarrels greatly already, total meeting says " I and he / she shoulds not because of 3 view namely, always quarrel so and fight, want to part company really / divorced. Want to part company really / divorced..
"3 view should not " more deep-seated meaning always likes restrospect to the other side " former unripe family " . Begin enumerate the other side to give birth to a family formerly next a variety of " crime " , include but not be confined to is cowardly incapacity, mediocre and unambitious all one's life parents or one party, heavy male light foster means femaly, children early discontinue one's studying roams about social accomplish nothing, do not know include, learn won't romantic, not beautiful money of be willing to part with or use, appearance is deformed nature is changeable, wait a moment etc.
And in know on, the discussion about giving birth to a family formerly is countless more.
Such as: If why overcome the self-abased sense that brings because of giving birth to a family formerly in the life?
Does former unripe family have after all to the person's influence how old?
How be reduced or to how be reduced or cast off the negative effect of former unripe family to oneself completely?
The harm that which gives birth to a family formerly momently makes you acedia?
More it is condemn gives birth to a family to have to his harm formerly how deep how painful, want to escape this former unripe family.
So, what is former unripe family, it is to point to the family that lives at parents, children has not constituted new student family, such family is former unripe family.
Once had a query: You feel major to the person is being talked about " former unripe family " when, what are they talking about after all?
The answer that the explanation on psychology gives out is: Talking about when a lot of people " former unripe family " when, they are not the inheritance of what character trait that studying their actually at parents, be in however experiencing the psychological scar that certain behavior utterance brings father and mother, try to manage clear the influence that these scar live nowadays to oneself, and the means that uses oneself seeks the way that walks out of these scar.
Really, some kind of behavior of parents can cause party some kind of present blemish. But, from acknowledge psychological angle is analysed, the behavior of others is not the factor that affects our mood, however we are mixed to the understanding of people behavior perception, this ability is the factor that affects a mood. Alleged " former unripe family is academic " , discussing us to be felt to giving birth to the scar of behavior of the parents in the family formerly namely.
This is the angle from psychology will elaborate " former unripe family " how can just cast off to the influence of party and party " former unripe family " the method of the influence explains.
Know netizen " there is a little love song in hill " when speaking of former unripe family be being harmed to his, say, give birth to domestic misfortune to depend on formerly, you think you were brought up, you are OK take charge of a department alone, you are OK those haze wear runout inner black clouds, you can drink big bowls, chunk eats the meat, talk cheerfully and humourously, brandish denounce just powerfuls, but the person beside you always asks what you once had experienced curiously however, why always hiding in your eye otherwise sad?
So you look, it is very difficult really to want to escape truly to give birth to a family formerly.
Because, from the point of the angle of psychological illuminate, what former unripe family brings a person is deep what harm and want to escape is agog with but.
But, true get to the bottom of rises, actually, former unripe family often is not the original sin that brings you harm truly, poor ability is.
What has former unripe family? The most essential because,still not be poor!
A conte sees on the net.
Two people ramble supermarket, the woman sees the pineapple that cuts now, want to buy. The man looks the price to say, so expensive, I will buy us to you tomorrow the company is downstair 10 money ternary.
The woman feels immediately very grievance, sent ring of a friend: I want to eat the pineapple that cuts now, husband must buy 10 yuan of ternary however, the influence of former unripe family to a person is too deep really.
The netizen leaves a message, whats are pulled toward former unripe family, what modern lives is too tired really. Want pineapple of 10 yuan of ternary, because,still not be poor!
The conversation that still one is like Ceng Xiao word said the effect of former unripe family to a person.
Armour does not have a car to do not have a room. Somebody asks him: "Why to buy? " he says: "Money is done not have in the home. "Money is done not have in the home..
Ask again: "You 40, did not nod the saving how? " reply: "Because my parents is very disappointing! There is money in the home. Former unripe family affected my lifetime! Former unripe family affected my lifetime!!
There still is a friend beside, 34 years old had not married.
Why does everybody ask he still does not marry?
He says: "Because in one's childhood, parents wrangles every day, divorce later, caused very big impact and shadow to his psychology, be full of fear to long-term affinity! Be full of fear to long-term affinity!!
Friend channel he, "But you had been brought up! "But you had been brought up!!
He replies sturdily however, "Yes, but my heart, still be a child! Still be a child!!
So you look, a lot of children that harm by former unripe family, always can remember once was being harmed to oneself, thereby be troubled Yu Huai, be harmed because of what give birth to a family formerly again and overly closes oneself, do not go be admitted easily and including.
And because,be more very poor, dare not love so, the trial and error in dare be not being gone after, dare not innovate.
More terrible is, because of end, you think those who miss is a favorite article and person, what actually you miss is more wonderful life.
This kind is poor, because father and mother of former unripe family is economically poor,be on one hand, it is the end that goes up because of spirit on one hand.
What do you cannot get in one's childhood, be born what to can go after firstly eventually. Those are depressed, the desire that cannot come true, can become the demon cuss of our lifetime. This goes up in psychology, call Qikeni effect, those who point to is us to what had finished, resultful job is forgotten very easily, to be forced to interrupt, the work that cannot complete however remain fresh in one's memory.
And a variety of related to end experience that experience in impoverished former unripe family, in the truly can deep brain that imprints in you, especially the poverty that childhood period experiences, include the body to go up go up with spirit, can let no matter you are how old, metropolis engrave all one's life.
Psychology considers to prove, every child that has been being harmed by parents in one's childhood, after be brought up, be self-abased. The main reason of psychogenic disorder of teenager period generation is: Adult is incorrect treat.
Psychologist Li Xue says: "Metempsychosis has tremendous impetus, the parents with him gloomy childhood, can deliver psychological scar to the child. No matter we are in how to hope the child has a rough time no longer on consciousness, subconscious creating identical trap always however. Subconscious creating identical trap always however..
This kind of trap often is mixed again the poverty of former unripe family is inseparable. To giving birth to domestic excoriation formerly, the preamble place that more life place that come from the poverty that brings at the outside force place that parents perhaps cannot defy because of a variety of oneself create says " original sin " .
So called 3 view are different, just be born in different family because of both sides, because domestic economy base decides superstructure, namely mental state is different, so, the thing that after be brought up, sees can have different reaction and way.
Because do not have money as a child, live in have too many problems to deal with as a child, feed not in the surroundings of satiety and former unripe family, the surface looks is the life is destitute, of the twist of the heart in be being experienced to one personal growth substantially actually and soul lashing is deadly more.
So, because the Su Mingzhe that is born to give birth to a family formerly likewise and Su Mingcheng are not quite rich still, so a lot of moment everywhere self-abased, everywhere because self-abased however outside show at false proud and appear ability not equal to one's ambition, but the economic base that Su Mingyu goes all out in work those who come is abundantly because of effort however and can ground of do a job with skill and ease solves the almost all difficult problem in the life.
Of course, money is not the most important and all-purpose, the problem that but can spend money,solves is not a problem.
The child that impoverished former unripe family grows, searching the way home all one's life, they are so called grow, mix namely once most be fed up with the process that oneself reconcile.
If reconcile,succeeded, so they are OK from once free oneself in former unripe family; If very unfortunate, they still live in poverty after grown adult, so once gave birth to a family to be affected to theirs formerly, will affect next generation with indirect ground directly again.
What Sadiya says no less than in domestic cure mode, create our failure destiny, the family that is not us already also is not our spouse. Contrary, we need to admit them is faulty mankind individual. Our everybody has such or in that way blemish, if we cannot treat our parents as cannot treat our parents as,Everyman is admitted, continue to censure them however, so when facing minatory situation, we will continue to use a function to answer mode undesirably.
So, former unripe family is innocent, what let you be fed up with truly is poor actually.
