Yu Na is a mom of 3 years old of darling, she pours out her trouble to me recently. Son Ding Ding of Yu Na is clever very, although have 3 years old only, but cerebella melon always is ceaseless,turn ah turn, and love raises a question to mom, some problems Yu Na can be solved, some she also does not answer to come up, perhaps feel awkward.
Ding Ding does not want to be able to say, why should I go up nursery school? Why need not mom go up nursery school? Yu Na says you are a child, the child should go up of nursery school ah, and mom is adult, want to go to work, need not go up nursery school. Fourth Ding You asked, if rain, need not I go up nursery school? Yu Na can say, if rain falls very greatly, if the road is bad to go, we do not go up nursery school. When can that just rain? How to return no less than rain today? The problem of such, perpetual. Final Yu Na is forced to break Ding Ding's word, taking him to go rapidly nursery school.
Occasionally fourth Ding Ye can ask mother, am I how unripe those who come out ah? The answer of Yu Na and other mom is same, you are be born from my abdomen ah. The answer avoids the important and dwell on the trivial, although avoided a few awkwardness, but the doubt that cannot solve the child correctly.
In the growing process of every child, it is to accompanying doubt, always examine minutely father mother in what keep " why " , we can solve some problems patiently, we also say some problems to not be clear about. At this moment, we more should static next hearts come, missing the child well always is so asking reason.
One, is the child always asking " why " reason?Every child is curious darling, total meeting speaks the most bizarre think of a way in the heart, also can ask sell one's own things adult senses indescribable problem, occasionally serial query lets the parent break down even, but the our inevitable phase that should face darling to quiz.
1, love asks why the child, it is a little gift likely
Love asks why the child, seeking knowledge actually is about to be very strong. If he does not have the result that gets wanting, some children meet him to think, go exploring the solution, seek the truth. Logistic thinking ability of the child can promote ceaselessly, was brought up also can be an outstanding science department is born.
2, love asks why the child, start work capability is strong
This kind of child always can raise all sorts of more curious questions, let the parent do not have the force that ward off blows, do not be willing to solve solve even do not come out. So the child meets him consider, his reflection ability and dynamical capacity also can get strengthening.
3, love asks why the child, cerebrum is very clever
An another problem, appear from the child's mouth come, get tired of even the parent dealt with, the child's expression is very clever of course. So, the parent must have patience, even if cannot give the child correct solution, also want to accompany the child to explore sealed solution together, so, encourage and accompanying the child is very important.
There is doubt in child heart, meet the teacher of the first to be appointed to an office that asks them of course, namely father mother. But also cannot treat seriously when father mother when, the child's doubt did not get settlement, can bring greater tangle instead.
2, if the parent does not have the issue that handles the child well, what effect to have to the child?The parent did not handle the question that the child raises seriously, also think way without company child, also can produce a few bad effects to the child so.
1, the child is not willing to seek the solution
Often quiz before the parent, the child that is rejected time and again again, his curious desire can be hit, slowly did not have fun at to sealed thing, also not be willing to seek the solution.
2, child patience is short of break
The parent did not handle the question that the child raises well, the child can find failure, do not have the parent cooperate and pay close attention to, the child also lacks patience, not be willing to think and consider an issue.
3, the child is not willing to help another person
The child's bewilderment is here cannot get effective settlement method, perhaps lack the parent's guiding, the child's enthusiasm also can be lost. Same, when playing together with other little girl, also not be willing to carry help young associate to solve a problem.
The child's question is much, total meeting makes the parent irritated deeply irritated, what accompany and come is the parent deal with, begin the query of perfunctory child, some parents are asked urgent, return meeting get angry. Actually, the parent that child face opposite enrages also does not have arrange completely, he did not understand to be able to ask of course, not clear also parent got angry how suddenly.
3, does the child ask " why " how should be the parent done?Those who face the child to put forward why, no matter have how many " why " , the parent must static heart, static heart, again static heart, hear the child's question patiently, make correct guiding.
1, in 5 years old the following child puts forward why when, must not give right answer certainly
A word elaborated this phenomenon very well- - serious you were defeated. This age paragraph child, he just may want an accurate solution just, you replied, he won't ask again. Also may be he is interested, can raise the question of serial sex to this topic so, let the parent lose one's head. Actually, the child just conveys the true think of a way that gives him, I am very curious to this thing, I have fun at, want to probe sealed thing.
2, the development thinking that encourage and guides the child
The child puts forward why when, oneself also are muddled ignorance, after all his cognitive ability is very finite, the answer that you give is right, he does not know, also have no way differentiates. And the child this age level, be full of curiosity to the world actually, what the parent should do is to guide the child to develop his imagination, undertake extending thinking.
For instance, how is the sun downhill? So simple question, the parent explains academic knowledge far the joy that brings as the imagination and acknowledge. The parent that has experience can tell a little boy, because of dark, the child should sleep, the sun also can come home sleep, the home of the sun is in the across of hill. Although this is not right standard answer, but helpful however to the child's imagination and the thinking that extend a gender, encourage and guide the child to seek more solutions.
3, education child exploration is sealed the ability that seeks the solution
The child of big drop is in when raising a question, pay attention to a result quite, it is the itself of the answer, and to the process not be to be very interested. And 5 years old of the following children, his acknowledge and logistic thinking capability are not high, still be the phase of a development, when this age paragraph the child puts forward why when, what the parent should do is to accompany him to explore a phenomenon together, seek the solution. Even if the answer is very simple, also want to guide the child to observe more from other point of view.
4, the father and mother that does not give the answer is more outstanding
Remember, allow when to be awaited, do not give the child the answer directly. Although,tell the child the answer directly most simple and effective, but to the child grow and do not have practical effect, the development that meets mistake guiding child instead sometimes. The parent should learn static next hearts come, what is listening attentively to what the child needs truly, some more floriferous time, some more floriferous energy, company child grows together!
It is not easy to do an outstanding parent, do to be willing the parent of aspirations of listen respectfully child, criterion more not easy! Put forward when the child so much why when, we serve as the first important or urgent business of the parent, not be to be eager to solving, perhaps give the child right answer. Occasionally, a problem can have 1000 results, but answer itself is not important, and the thing that the process place that depends on seeking the solution acquires.
4, ask when the child " why " , the parent needs watchful issue:The child can raise various questions, let the parent have too many visitors or business to deal with. Parents are in this growing phase of the child, be about to note a few problems.
1, do not want be agitated, listen attentively to patiently
A lot of parents are listening to the child to ask about so much why when, the parent that does not have patience can feel possibly irritated above all, not was willing to listen, or growl of a word went back. Actually, you should understand the reason that the child asks above all, he wants what to know, so, not irritated, listening patiently is very important.
2, too strange problem, OK and direct answer does not know
The child's idea is all kinds of strange things, also can ask all sorts of strange questions, if father mother also does not know how to reply, should not escape so, tell the child this question is too difficult directly, you also do not know, with respect to OK.
3, those who face the child is curious desire, explore together
If the child wants to continue to seek knowledge, the truth that the issue explores in live then with the child together. Study and exploration also are the road that the child grows those who go up is important one pace. Not only the parent and child can learn new knowledge, and also can promote the harmony of parentage.
4, can tell the child right answer
The right answer that the parent knows, can guide the child to explore first, if agree with your answer, it is best of course. If abhorrent, that tells the child with simple language right answer is good.
The child from be born begin, cerebrum is in development, and gradually development is mature. And put forward in the child " why " when, also be to the child's cerebra one kind takes exercise, through think and developing thinking, let the child become cleverer and cleverer. So, face the child " why " , scarcely should disrelish him irritated, static next hearts come, guide the child to be explored together sealed.
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