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The exists generally problem in the marriage that contradiction of wife and mother is a lot of people, the contradiction of wife and mother of some marriage was solved finally, some are pendent all the time, some chose to escape, still some because contradiction of wife and mother is too serious and divorced.
Contradiction of wife and mother is relation of a kind of exasperate wife and mother, as to contradictory origin, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law won't take the issue on him body normally, it is to push normally go up in body of the other side, this is the prime cause that contradiction of a lot of wife and mother grows in intensity.
Contradiction of some wife and mother is the daughter-in-law's fault, contradiction of some wife and mother is the mother-in-law's fault, it is whose fault without giving thought to anyway, if want not to suffer wife and mother's contradictory worry, or escapes, or is solved, only these two routes can go.
Prate of a lot of people talks about wife and mother to contradict how to be solved especially, the view of some people is really reasonable, but the view of some people is nonsense completely. Having a fact that does not dispute is, not all wife and mother contradicts to be able to be solved, some can choose to escape only, between daughter-in-law and mother-in-law bounds of make a clear distinction, do not let two people have the opportunity that produces contradictory conflict, this also the plan that can yet be regarded as answers one kind.
Those cannot solve wife and mother's contradictory husband and wife, can escape smoothly, OK also well off. But those are inextricability also cannot escape, the metropolis that becomes a daughter-in-law normally chooses to divorce, because she is very clear,continue to stay to be able to torment oneself only.
Respecting wife and mother is contradictory, must carry to spark wife and mother's contradictory basic problem, after that marries namely, live together with the mother-in-law, or the marriage of mother-in-law sophisticate children.
This kind of problem cannot all be treated with goddess heart, not be all women that are not willing to live together with the mother-in-law it is disobedient, some are not willing namely, want oneself life namely, such marriage, the mother-in-law can be respected only, can bring about a divorce otherwise.
Xia Xia is a woman that brings about a divorce because of contradiction of wife and mother, she suffers enough wife and mother is contradictory, suffer enough mother-in-law, also suffer enough the husband that does not have definite idea.
After she and former husband marry before long, the mother-in-law came in with respect to sophisticate, hitting the name that sees them to go back on his word not to go in their home. This is insufficient still, after her take up one's quarters everyday act as a tyrant, regard oneself as empress dowager, the bagatelle of any trifles, she gesticulates to Xia Xia, cold-shoulder this cold-shoulder that, say her this is bad that is bad, implicative move says she is not sensible, say her family education has a problem, the woman family that joins her along with all the others rebuke.
Xia Xia begins to respect her is elder, do not follow her dispute is so much, it is oneself are born only fuggy. But, the mother-in-law gets whole home everyday desultorily, xia Xia just arranged good thing in the morning, she gives midday break up farfetchedly.
Xia Xia is have squeamish person, and it is maiden, have force disease slightly, she most those who be fed up with is random, this compares rebuke of mother-in-law speak rudely she lets her be borne hard even. Eventually, got angry when she is driven beyond forbearance.
She gets angry is should, because all is the mother-in-law's fault. But, the mother-in-law runs to declare black state to her son however, say Xia Xia bullies her. Although her husband knows the fault that is not Xia Xia, but still be before the mother-in-law rebuke Xia Xia, this lets Xia Xia more bore hard.
She is resolved drive away the mother-in-law, tell her, "Mother-in-law, I lease a building to you, we part! We part!!
The mother-in-law blows nose glare to tell her, "I do not go, want you to go! This is the home of my son, by what do I go? You think you marry my son, can you gesticulate to me? He is my son, live together with me so old, a few years do you just live together with him? You do not have a qualification to ask what I do! You do not have a qualification to ask what I do!!
Xia Xia says, "Well good, you do not go, I go! I go!!
What she says " I go " , not be to move out live, also not be an a married woman's parents' home, divorce with her husband however. Next the state is: Her husband persuades her to stay, the mother-in-law is however on the side fan evil wind incites them to divorce. Actually, her mother-in-law need not be done so, to maiden for the person, determination divorce was decided below, everybody does not want to let its shake.
After the divorce, xia Xia says, "I regret to divorce not at all, mother-in-law that spirit appearance, husband atmosphere dare not breathe heavily, that home I am to wait for no less than going to. I feel disgusted to live together with the mother-in-law very much namely, irritated appeared simply! She does not dislike action person irritated, I cannot allow to be trampled by her my bottom line. I already very give her outer part, did not say what firm word all the time, return have one's heart in the right place to want to lease a building to her. But she is good, going back on his word not to go to still let me go, good, I go, anyway I was not to leave their home not to live! My marriage, I think with me husband passes together only, I do not want to let anybody sophisticate my marriage. I do not want to let anybody sophisticate my marriage..
Those problems that encounter because of Xia Xia in reality and the person that causes a divorce is absent a few, never mind of this kind of problem is good say, all is the mother-in-law's fault, she does not know esteem, do not understand include, take advantage of one's seniority, know selfishness only, do not know the marital consider that replaces oneself completely.
Some people may not understand why to resemble Xia Xia such woman feels disgusted to live together with the mother-in-law so, below we for say a reason. Not only it is Xia Xia, because,the woman that is not willing to live together with the mother-in-law more very much is below when:
The idea is different
Idea this kind of thing is not nurturance of in one day, do not say to be able to change so. To the woman of knot marriage person, she is married the idea after husband's family already nurturance, the ideal or of their idea and mother-in-law is very consistent, or is very abhorrent.
If the idea of the daughter-in-law's idea and mother-in-law is very consistent, those two people won't be troubled by contradiction, meeting nurturance a kind of very harmonious wife and mother concerns. But if two individual ideas are very abhorrent, that is extreme misery not allow, one hill nots allow 2 tigers, be together to be able to be troubled by contradiction for certain.
And, contradiction of this kind of wife and mother that because the idea is different,brings about does not have method to solve, can escape only or cast off, cannot put two people same the life goes among the space, always can should not because of one character otherwise and quarrel. So, with the daughter-in-law with mother-in-law different idea, do not be willing to live together with the mother-in-law for certain.
The habit is different
The habit follows an idea same, also not be nurturance of in one day, do not say to be able to change. Be used to this kind of thing is not who indulges so simple, abhorrent it is abhorrent. Be together relative to young daughter-in-law and relatively aged mother-in-law especially, a lot of habits of the youth differ with the old person, for instance food, the habit of work and rest and privacy respect is met abhorrent, if let two people,manage one room together at that time, hard to avoid can have conflict.
Resemble above mentioned Xia Xia and her mother-in-law, she likes a home in decorate snugly, but the mother-in-law gets domestic lanes and alleys however very messy, this kind of problem, even if conflict without the front, a lot of opinions also can be created in the heart, together time is long, early social evening has contradiction one day.
Wife and mother is contradictory
No matter be an idea,differ, still be the habit differs, or is other reason, anyway for must, do a daughter-in-law do not be willing to live together with the mother-in-law, do not want to experience various wife and mother to contradict namely. Look in certain person, may be definition of this kind of behavior irreverent and disobedient. But, for the angle that stands in the daughter-in-law, she wants to let her have the private life of two people, want to safeguard oneself marriage, do not want to have contradiction with the mother-in-law, this does not have a fault.
? These words do not say to listen to everybody above, if you are indifferent to,live together with the mother-in-law, how does that go of course. If you are mind to live together with the mother-in-law very much, then you raise a requirement to the man, put forward to ask to do not have a fault to the mother-in-law, you are the party of your marriage, you have the right to decide how to treat marriage, how to let oneself pass a bit more at easely in marriage.
If your mother-in-law also resembles above Xia Xia's mother-in-law is euqally self-invited, going back on his word not to go, always still be ask for trouble, then you are done not have necessary all the time submit to humiliation. If you are elbowed out in marriage,position of ground a bit was done not have, everything must see the mother-in-law's look, at you character is without that marriage meaning, you want solve this problem, or has divorce ability to free oneself only. (civil / Dong Linxi wells balanced, you have a story, will look for me)
